To be angry

My head is in my hands. 13 years of missing out on bands/nights out/nights in/holidays etc etc because im a mum and an adult and this is what being a parent is about. For the love of all that is common sense and head shaking. Suck it up woman.

You could have just gone anyway with the kids and watched from Gallagher Hill?

She doesn’t even particularly like oasis! So why would they ask her to fork out money and arrange childcare to attend an event she’d have no interest in attending?

One of my sisters shares my taste in music, the other one has very different tastes. I wouldn’t dream of asking the latter one to join us at a concert, nor would she ask me to join her at one of her chosen ones.

You need to grow up and accept that kids bring limitations. 🤷‍♀️

Jealousy is the ugly emotion.

But she said they didn’t even ask her so she couldn’t even try to book and wouldn’t have been sat with them.

Unreasonable but reasonable too op! Hate concerts nowadays for price and also for actually being able to get tickets. It all sucks!!!

There was a maximum of four tickets per booking - assuming her brother did the booking, he couldn't have booked five, even if he'd have wanted to. It simply wasn't possible.

Noone stopped OP booking a ticket for herself.

I think it is incredibly rude they arranged something and didn’t even consider asking you before they booked the tickets. You would have had ages to work out childcare with friends or even paternal grandparents if they are around.
who booked the tickets? If it was your brother then I would be petty and book something for your mum at a different time that’s just the two of you and not invite him.

They’re not mutually exclusive, sadly!

People are either lazy to read or as dim as a Toc H lamp.

They didn't include the ex. It's a concert, the ex is one of the presumably thousands of other people who are attending unrelated to the OP's mother's birthday. B

The problem here is not that you can’t go due to a lack of childcare but that your own family just booked a family effect without even asking you or giving you the opportunity to find childcare, AND included your ex (who could have had the children) ahead of you?!? Fuck me. I’d be really pissed off; you are completely justified in being hurt and upset. That’s really shit of your own family.

The tickets were bought some time ago so as an adult at that point you would have said, yes I’ll go it gives me plenty time to sort out a babysitter. Then had a year to sort out arrangements.

Grow up.

you’re annoyed they’re going to a band you’re not even fussed about. It’s not “all your family” your children aren’t going either.

jeez. You sound hard work.

Do you have any friends at all that would help you out? Perhaps you could return the favour?

You won't be missing anything then, they're tone deaf, obnoxious and look like they need a good scrub. Save your money for something better.

This is crazy! He and his partner have probably been looking forward to it for months, why should they miss out? They actually like Oasis (unlike OP), went to all the effort and expense of buying themselves tickets (unlike OP), and are not scheduled to have the children that night (unlike OP).

Are you really suggesting he says to his current partner “sorry love, you’re going to have to go alone because my ex is having a wobbly so I’ve got to cancel and look after the kids”?

And OP doesn’t even have a ticket so she couldn’t go anyway, unless you’re suggesting he gives her HIS ticket and she goes with his new girlfriend??? Would that be the “decent and caring” thing to do to his current partner? Would you think so if you were her?

It is not on him that OP didn’t buy herself a ticket to a concert, or arrange a babysitter. She’s had an entire year to sort it out so that she could go if she really wanted.

But it is also a very human and normal emotion.
I think putting down someone who can admit they feel jealous is not very nice either, so maybe give yourself a nice long look in the mirror.

That’s life with kids I’m afraid. Missed out on things when mine were little as couldn’t get child care. They’ll be grown in a flash and then you can go to as many concerts as you like. You’re just going to have to suck this one up.

you can’t expect your entire family to miss out on something because you can’t get child care.

It wasn’t his time with the kids so fairly irrelevant.

Why?

He is going separately. Why would he randomly call his ex to check if she planned to go to Oasis and if so did she want him to have the kids?

That’s just bizarre.

Couldn’t you have arranged your own tickets or asked if anybody in your family was going? You’re an adult.

How old are you?

Why should he? They are no longer together, how would he even know that the OP wanted to go (bearing in mind she isn't fussed about Oasis anyway). Does he need to check her plans before he books any event for himself, or just this one?