DP angry with me over University Challenge

What a petty, insecure twerp he is!

Yes, also play again next week and get all the answers stupidly wrong, saying “oh dear me, I am a silly sausage. I genuinely thought that was right.” You can Pat him on the head when he gets one correct, look at him in a gushing manner and say “Goodness me, aren’t you clever? I really did marry the bestest brain in Barnstable*, didn’t I?” and then reward him with a kiss and cuddle afterwards.

Or you could just tell him to get the fuck over himself.

(*insert relevant geographical location of your choice)

So what’s your plan op? Ask him to apologise? I reckon you could do better than him and perhaps if you’d have had a better education you might have met a nicer man but perhaps he has other qualities?

How horrible and deeply unattractive of him.

Why did he ask you to join in? Just so he could beat you? That’s nasty too.

I don’t think I could feel the same way about him after this.

I’d also be concerned by the look on his face.

And you’re right to be proud of being clever! Sounds like you have a wonderful Mum.

He hates you and sees himself as better than you. There are seriously so many men like this. It’s grim.

So he was expecting to lord it over you and was angry that he couldn’t. What a prick!

Do you mentally score 1 point for each correct answer, regardless if it's a starter or a bonus?
And do you have to get it before the teams for it to count, or do you allow yourself to get a point if you knew the answer but weren't quick enough?
Both have been points of contention while chatting round the water cooler before now and made comparing scores impossible!

First post nails it as usual.

Keep an eye on how he goes from here. He might laugh it off (but you will still know he's a poor loser) or apologise or continue to mutter or (worst case scenario) hold in over you like a perpetual grudge.

It's not so much what happened (anyone can be a sore loser sometimes), as how he treats his new knowledge that you can whip out general knowledge that he doesn't have, in future.

His fragile male ego has taken a bashing. In a normal healthy relationship this is a chance to take the piss relentlessly but it sounds like he wouldn’t react well so perhaps not.

You need better intellectual stimulation OP, you're obviously clever but unfulfilled. It's the fate of many women, born to stroke the male ego to support the fragile creatures by suppressing their own personalities. Difficult because, whatever you might choose to do, he will feel undermined. Looks like it's the safety of the WI for you. No calendars though.

He was hoping to humiliate you and got angry at not being able to. What a bastard. I would have to bring it up OP and ask him why he reacted in that way because it is worrying.

So many men seem to feel emasculated by their partner’s intelligence. It’s misogynistic.

He should be very proud of you, and not resent you.

Sadly I don’t know what you can do about that.(apart from thrash him every single time 😎).

You should buy that t shirt from LastExittonowhere from the young ones , it has ‘scumbag college’ written on it for University Challenge.
I have been eyeing it up for ages.
It’s so funny and it might make light of the (very weird) situation.

I love the internet for this. I’m in and out of my phone looking things up and my multidirectional brain can fill out its mind maps at will. Love it.

How old are you, by the way? Sadly my always unreliable memory fell off a cliff with peri.

My gut instinct is great, informed by all the stuff I have known but know no longer 🤣.

I always tot my points up. I usually get about 3 😁.
I'm well read and curious, but can't remember facts at all, apart from swotting up for an exam..2 weeks later it has all fallen out my head.

He must be absolutely lovely in other ways OP, otherwise I don't think you'd be able to put up with him long term.

IMHO, insecure men, especially those lacking intelligence, absolutely despise intelligent capable women.

Then don't even seem to notice that most men are far more capable and competent that them but a woman, how dare she be.

He's always thought you're thick or at least not as clever as he is. Lots of men think like this, that ALL women are daft and not as bright as the menz, personally I would ve confronting this head on, it's not acceptable imo.

I never paid much attention to UC when it was on, but my then partner was glued to it and would be pleased as punch to get one or two answers right. He'd sometimes claim the correct answers were wrong as he was so knowledgeable 🙄

Then came the day I'd put my knitting down and was actually looking at the TV when something I'd not long learned about came up. I answered quickly and calmly and was right. "How did you know that?" he said, in the most disdainful manner. That was a question that required no answer.

It was but a pixel in the picture of my life with him.

Me too. If I could actually retain knowledge I’d be a brain box too. I’m really well read (and podcast’ed) have travelled all over the world , have visited countless museums, go to the theatre and ballet and generally do all the things you are meant to do but it just doesn’t stay in my head. I’d be much better at University Challenge if it were multi choice 😅 (and if it didn’t have any political or sports questions 🤭)

Oh no! You've emasculated your husband. Off to the kitchen and make him a lovely cake, especially for him and iron a few shirts while you're there. To generalise OP, many men hate a clever, well informed woman, it makes them feel less than. You're just answering questions as you happen to know the answer. He thinks you're showing off to make him feel small because that's what he'd do if the positions were reversed. It's up to you. Have you the patience to manage this fool for many years, buttering up his ego for the sake of a quiet life? Rather you than me but there's a lot of them around.

Sounds like you damaged his fragile ego...

Fwiw, I think I'm reasonably intelligent and can't answer a single question on university challenge...so well done!