DP angry with me over University Challenge

This is me and my dad. I'm so grateful for his encouragement.

Please keep an eye on your partner going forward. Never make yourself smaller for some man's fragile ego.

I know what you’re saying, although a memory that good would be an asset in itself, but I also think that knowing a variety of facts like that will usually be part of a wider intelligence. It shows that someone had the curiosity and wide reading to acquire the knowledge in the first place. Also in many cases memory is aided by a level of understanding.

The modern day equivalent is reading on Kindle but constantly googling things, eg does that place really exist. Takes me twice the time to read a book!
I have what even I call a dustbin memory, I can recall the weirdest facts. My late OH and I used to watch Countdown, yes I'm very old, and he got really frustrated if I claimed a long word before the 30 seconds were up, it 'put him off' apparently.

Your partner sounds like a twat. You don't have to justify doing well in a quiz and it's utterly ridiculous for him to be annoyed at you.
Fwiw, my partner is a real polymath (he has Asperger's which I believe may be somewhat responsible!) and is insanely bright. And I still sometimes beat him in UC. It just depends on the questions; it's all meaningless.

I think it's good women are proud of their intelligence.

Too many mediocre men still succeed based on society's enduring preference for men, it's time women know their worth.

Exactly?! What does that even mean? If you know the answers, you know the answers. Were you supposed to decide not to win?

It seems somewhat odd to me that a grown man is even this interested in tracking his own answers, but I could get on board with that…you know, fair enough. His reaction to you implies a bigger chip on his shoulder though.

I’m impressed by your performance OP, I couldn’t have done anything like as well! Wouldn’t surprise me if I had scored zero.

On the plus side, at least he'll never ask for you to join in on UC in the future! 😂

I'd definitely be keeping an eye out for any other such behaviours where he's trying to find a way to seem better than you. At least you've got a "well, I did beat you at UC" to throw back at him now.

same with me i like to study vaious topics etc and sometimes it can help see the links between eg 1a and 2b etc

I got acetone as an answer once and was very pleased with myself. I remember all sorts of random things but never anything useful, although there are things I know lots about, and if they came up on university challenge I'd be well away.

I loved the library too, but it never occurred to me to do anything other than take out books.

😂

why would it be annoying?

I'm the same OP, right down to looking for references I did not know of "we didn't start the fire" 😂
There is a great link somewhere with fabulous scope notes for every reference!

I also STILL note down things I want to look things up except these days it's usually as I'm listening to a podcast on the way to work and I speak into my watch. Sometimes it works and sometimes I have no idea what the 'reminder' is supposed to say 😆

yup, always known it.

He can't stand that a woman might be smarter than him. This would give me the ick

My ex was like this. We played WWTBAM on the Nintendo Wii one night and he lost at £32k. I however then went on to win the million and he was furious and accused me of playing the game so much that I knew the answers already! I had only bought the game the day before and it was the first time we played it! 🙄🤣. I’m an intelligent person and so is ex, but he just couldn’t stand the fact that I’d beaten him 🤦‍♀️

He sounds like Warner Huntington III … channel your inner Elle Woods!

You bruised his poor baby ego, hun!

I agree that men with insecurities cannot handle intelligent women.

Don't dumb yourself down for him. It's not your problem. It's his.

Let him wallow in it.

Get ready for round 2, though. He'll convince himself that was beginner's luck or some other bullshit and he'll need to rectify it!

This can’t be the first time he’s got annoyed at you for achieving more than him - I can’t see this coming out of the blue?

Just shows so little self awareness to be annoyed at his partner, show it and not wonder why. Is he a bit dim at other times?

Gawd, I rarely even get one correct answer! Mind you I didn't go to uni. I'm not that bad at quizzes in general though.

Your fella sounds jealous and babyish for not just taking as all a bit of fun. Does he feel threatened intellectually by you? Does he try and undermine your intelligence in other ways?

If so that's a big red flag.

> Whatever you do, don't tell him you "don't find it that hard"!
Because we should pander to the less intelligent and insecure?

Maybe a tiny bit, if you love them – and you're confident they won't behave like an arse to you.

You remind me of a friend who used to read the Sunday papers with a notebook beside her to write new words down. I remember thinking she has the right idea. There's a phrase in rise about your raring, in this case, rise above the opportunities that your family had. Intelligence is not always linked to book smarts e.g. my mam left school at 12 and is very intelligent in many different ways. I had the opportunities that my parents didn't. ps your husband expected to trounce you and has acted like a DICK