DP angry with me over University Challenge

No but the OP saying that UC is a piece of piss is undermining the huge achievement of those who go on there, many of whom are women. Why can’t she be proud of her own intelligence instead of saying “whisper I don’t think university challenge is that hard” and that it’s just general knowledge? I was pointing out that the questions are far beyond the average persons general knowledge and she accuses me of tall poppy syndrome when she was the one denigrating the achievement.

Right. Women are not allowed to say or know that they are intelligent without being so self deprecating they dissolve into the wallpaper and disappear entirely.

And here my husband and I are watching murder documentaries on Netflix! 😂

That’s when you need to worry that you’ve had a look of disdain! 😂

"Oh, ok darling - if you don't like being with an obviously intelligent woman, we won't be needing the money from my job in future, will we?".

Nothing worse than a bad loser; what a pathetic manbaby. Oh well, at least he's a DP not a DH; you found out in time.

I dont like the sound of his reaction.at all. He sounds petty eith a fragile ego at best. But well done you! Dh and I always try to answer but we never worry who beats each other.

Well you said you didn’t think it was that hard and that it was just general knowledge so I assumed you got them all or most of them right. My mistake. I was making the point that it is very specialised and much harder than a general knowledge quiz so all kudos to you if you don’t find it hard. I have no desire to cut down any tall poppies 🤷‍♀️

@Teachingquestion double down and wind him up a bit - sounds like he needs his fragile ego toughening up - tell him
"I know some men who find intelligent women veeeery attractive"
but - maybe he hasn't got a sense of humour either.

just remind him that it's only a quiz designed for teenagers😂

We had a set of encyclopaedias at home and when I was at a loose end I would pick one and open it at random to read interesting facts. I've always loved learning for the sake of learning.

Are you dating my ex? He used to get cross when I thrashed him at UC too. Hence why he is now an ex 😂

Good for you! I think it's great that you were encouraged from a young age by your mother, especially given that she didn't really get an opportunity to use her brain as much as she could. Keep on learning! (and don't cut yourself down to make a man happy)

I’m quite surprised at the people who say they get all of the questions right

Did anyone say that? I didn't see that. OP only said that she got double the points her husband did. So that could just be 2 points for all we know.

An example:

In cytogenetics, what term describes the entire chromosomal complement of a cell which may be observed during mitotic metaphase?

Not really the sort of thing I’d have looked up as a kid on a trip to the library but who knows 🤷‍♀️

the answer is karyotype apparently

Definitely. They will have one arts/humanities person, a maths one, a scientist etc. I’m quite surprised at the people who say they get all of the questions right as some of them are highly complex science questions that you wouldn’t know really unless you’d studied the subject at quite a high level.

It really is a good filter. When my DH and I started dating we played lots of boardgames together. I often won. He was always happy to congratulate me and play again. I saw it as an important green flag and it made him more attractive in my eyes.

One of the things my DH says he really loves about me is my intelligence.
I have a head full of interesting (but largely useless) facts and he jokes that I can give Google a run for its money. However, he is very very technically smart and knows about Physics, AI, Programming etc in a way I never could and I love that about him too.
I would hate to have to hide how much I know just to make a man with self esteem issues feel better about himself

They are also probably picked to have complimentary knowledge.

So if you can keep pace with a team of 4x people with good memories that are all trained up and all have knowledge in different areas then you are doing a pretty good job.

....you'd hate Monday nights at our house...

@Teachingquestion I remember looking up every reference In that song "we didn't start the fire" (after taping it off the radio and slowly copying it out...)

Well, that's made my day. Thank you. Probably made Billy Joel's too.

It is really hard - people are just showing off. The questions are on stuff that the average person wouldn’t know. The contestants spend months and months cramming random topics and quiz questions and they have heats at the unis to select those with the best general knowledge. If you picked a random Oxford student they probably wouldn’t know the answer to most of the questions yet they are clearly intelligent.

Wow what a sore loser he was. I'm also so sad for your Mum's lost potential (not that there is anything wrong with being a cleaner). My gran was like that; so intelligent but no chance for a career.

Jeez I’m feeling like a right thicko now for thinking University Challenge is really hard! OH and I play it every week and feel proud if we get a few questions right! Normally we average 10-15 between us but sometimes it’s more (or much less, especially in the later rounds!).

You’ve damaged his fragile ego OP…

What's he like on your birthdays, @Teachingquestion ? That's often a good indicator of people who need a close eye kept on them, although it might be a bit early days yet.

Careful here. How long have you been together? Do you have kids together?
He’s going to expect you to shrink yourself to make him feel bigger for your entire life, or at least however long you are with him. This is not a small thing at all. Do you want to spend the rest of your life tiptoeing around his brittle ego?