DP angry with me over University Challenge

You're being overly sensitive. I find learning some stuff hard. Others find it easy. That's life. Tbh it sounds like your ego is overly fragile.

But you are a woman and therefore not allowed to have any confidence in yourself whatsoever. You are supposed to feel bad about yourself and shrink yourself to make others feel bigger.

I can't do University Challenge but I'm a dab hand at Only Connect (until they get to the Semi Finals when it's just too damned difficult).

There was a phenomenal guy on there once who knew every single geography based question posed, no matter how obscure to the average (or even over average) person. I think he became quite a sensation.

That really is difficult (well for me).

Ignore the snipers OP!

How do you get on with Only Connect - that one totally floors me!

I never said there was 🤷‍♀️

I didn’t mean to snark about that - I just said the questions are not the average thing that you’d just get from an encyclopaedia in the library but maybe you did. I am in fact very impressed that you find UC easy. Surely intelligence is currency in your daily life as a teacher though? It would be worrying if it wasn’t.

Well yeah fine although I don’t really agree that they obscure it too much if you listen to the whole question. It’s more that the question is more often than not not something that the average person would know - especially the science ones (although different if you have a science background). And if you read my initial reply I was definitely not on the side of your DP in this. Where I queried was your insistence that it wasn’t that hard when to nearly everyone it’s extremely hard and somehow that was seen as not wanting women to be proud of their intelligence.

His reaction would definitely turn me off, quite unattractive.
So he’s insecure about something, I guess we all are. Depends if he’s misogynistic or not I guess, would he have felt that way no matter who beat him? Or was it specifically about you?
Always beware of men who want a partner to support them, but don’t really want to share the spotlight. There are LOTS of them about and they will not wish you well in life, nothing worse than a ‘partner’ who wants to keep you down.

No I haven’t. I get nearly all of them wrong when I watch it. It’s really fucking hard and I have fairly good general knowledge. It’s very impressive to get lots of them right and no need to say it’s “not that hard”.
If I could do 20 backflips and one handed cartwheels I could be proud of my considerable achievement without saying “it’s not that hard actually”. Or if I got a first in my physics degree, I could be proud of it without feeling the need to say it’s not that difficult an achievement.

The OP is the one who’s saying it’s just general knowledge. I’m saying it’s really hard to get a lot of UC questions right and pretty unusual and showing a high level of knowledge in many areas. Why is that tall poppy syndrome? Surely it’s the opposite.

I’ve never been on UC but I get what that poster is saying. I support everything the OP said, except that remark, which was unnecessary, no matter who it was aimed at.

I wouldn’t say it was general knowledge in how most people would interpret GK. Not unless they ate the entire Encyclopaedia Britannica for breakfast every morning. That was a little smug on your part, be honest.

Have you been on UC? Did you you get your answers wrong? Is that what this is about?

A friend of mine in the US told me that one semester of history at High School, his teacher decided that they’d do precisely this. I remember just how great it was to be able to teach history this way rather than being completely confined by a rigid, inflexible curriculum.
it’s a massively underrated song in its historical significance.

Your mum sounds great. I’ve just finished reading Poor by Katriona O’Sullivan and it was such an eye opener into how hard it is to climb out of poverty.

Your husband on the other hand sounds a bit pathetic over this.

Why do you keep doing this? Saying OP has said things she didn’t say?

She didn’t say she gets all the questions right.

She didn’t say it’s a piece of piss.

One woman finding UC not that hard doesn’t undermine the other women who go on the quiz. Women’s intelligence is not that fragile that we curl up into a foetus and rock ourselves when another woman is better at something than us.

UC is quite hard and a lot is not general knowledge. You are more intelligent than average and said so, which is ok. And I have problems objecting to those who say how clever they are! On the one hand I am from the UK and not puffing oneself up is almost a national religion. On the other hand I am of the sex that is XX and we have been taught since forever not to show how clever we really are in case it upsets men.
Double bind. One you are in with your DH. I don't know the solution unless he learns to be proud of you.