Posting here for traffic.
Not really an AIBU, more what would you do in this impossible situation?
Deceased Dad had a love child, who is now an adult. I became aware of this accidentally about 14 years ago. She reached out via letter shortly after my Dad's death asking to open contact (no previous contact at all, just knew she existed and a first name). Letter went to Mums house, she did show me but then destroyed the letter.
Mother and sister strongly opposed to any contact whatsoever and its implied I would be a traitor if I made contact...I'm struggling with this but dont want to hurt my Mum any further.
Has anyone been in a similar situation and how the hell did it pan out? Its like the final taboo. No one knows about her, none of my Dad's family, none of my friends. I have no one to talk to about it.