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AIBU to think there is always a default parent?

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NewMomma21 · 15/07/2025 15:05

Just looking for peoples views and experiences.

In your relationship is there a default parent, ie a parent that takes on more of the load in terms of domestic chores, parenting, night time wake ups, mental load of coming up with and preparing meals and activities. Or would you say it’s evenly split with your other half?

YANBU in reality there is always a default parent

YABU no such thing everything is evenly split

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OneTipsyDreamer · 15/07/2025 15:09

It’s evenly split for me so I voted YABU but I absolutely do know that most of the time there is a default parent. I consider myself very lucky with my husband (which in itself is sad because his contribution should be “the norm” … which is definitely how he see’s it, he doesn’t think he’s some kind of super dad/husband… just recognises that most husbands/dads we know are shocking)

Agix · 15/07/2025 15:08

Disagree. Neither of my parents did much of that stuff hahahaha.

Gotta laugh or else you'll cry, you know.

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