To not want MIL to “redo” our baby’s name with her priest?

She's nucking futs. How can a child be baptised into two different religions?
I am also a bit confused as why you baptised your child in a church if you're not religious? Quite hypocritical of you.

This would be questionable even if both parents enthusiastically wanted it; the child has already been christened and any further baptism should only happen if and when SHE decides, which won't be possible for several years. In this case, since one parent is against it and the other isn't taking it seriously, it can't happen. MIL had her chance to arrange naming and baptisms as she wished (along with her children's other parent) for her own children. This isn't her choice to make so say a firm no. Maybe even let the church know that the parents don't approve this, if you think she might try to do it in secret.

That would be a hard NO from me.
How dare she take it upon herself to arrange something when you've already had a naming ceremony.

And to add insult to injury she doesn't want to use your child's name!!!

I'd be going out that day.
Very early
All day

And if shes embarrassed its her own fault for being so disrespectful.

She sounds fucking mental.

Absolutely not ok & slippery slope if you allow MiL to think this is uncomfortable. Simply say you are uncomfortable and it's not going ahead.

Be aware that there may also be some odd 'rules' about use of a name given in certain ceremonies - I know my grandad had that ... he was confirmed with a different name and started to use that as his formal name. So it may be, in crazy MILs eyes, that this is a way to change the name.
Hope all goes well speaking with the priest.

Absolutely not! Not one part of that is ok and there is no way I'd let my child alone with her for longer than 5 minutes in fear she'd pop off and do it alone.
She has to respect your boundaries. It's your bloody baby not hers!

My guess is that he's an unwitting accomplice in the GM's bizarre plot.

That line she’s crossed is sooooo far away it can’t be seen. Totally unreal behaviour!!

Blimey! I’m normally of the “let them crack on” mentality myself, but this is just so far beyond the realms of what’s reasonable that even I would have to put my foot down. Ultimately one little ceremony in itself doesn’t sound like a big deal, but she’s completely overriding your control as parents. How dare she?! I’m so glad you DH has seen that this is not a harmless little thing to keep her happy, this is her trampling all over your rights over your own child and would set a dangerous precedent if allowed to carry on. It needs to be made very clear to her that she’s gone too far. Much as I hate being confrontational, I’d be correcting her every time she used the wrong name.

Do please come back and tell us what the vicar says.

I wonder what lies she's telling OP...

I’m catholic and I’m very surprised the priest has agreed to this without speaking to you. And once the baby has been baptised it’s not really the done thing anyway. It’s a bit odd.

Crazy. If child is to be christened or baptised then it is with the name you have legally chosen. Personally as I was brought up catholic whilst I’d not be bothered about this I know it would mean a lot to older relatives and I’d be fine - but only with the name we had chosen. She will probably be under pressure from the church and friends but it still doesn’t matter. If she hadn’t changed the name and asked very kindly you might even have considered it but not now.

It is absolutely incorrect. Marriage is a completely different thing to baptism.

The RC church accepts all baptisms as long as they follow the trinitarian formula and water is used whether by pouring or immersion.

It's wild how some users love to make shit up when a quick Google search will tell you otherwise.

The religion bit is weird and would annoy me but the name would make me far more cross. I grew up with a grandmother who insisted on spelling my name the way she thought it should be spelt (from her country or origin) not the way my parents spelt it, it drove me up the wall!

This is so she can secretly bring your child to mass.

There is no way a catholic priest should be blessing or christening a child without its parents consent.

Call Fr Liam and tell him you do not consent to your child being blessed or baptised by him and if this continues you will be talking to his bishop.

Weird you would have your daughter christened if neither of you are religious in the first place. We shut all that down as soon as some relatives asked if we were getting our son christened, no we aren't because we are not religious. Nothing more was mentioned.

Well done for standing up to this OP.

in classic mumsnet style I have to say also - you have a husband problem. It’s really common when babies come along that men start to realise that their family dynamic was odd. This is where he needs to step up and form and support his own family - eg you and baby. It might be uncomfortable for him but it was not ok that he ever thought this was ok.

Not only is this wrong but your example was also wrong. The Catholic Church recognises Anglican marriage, for Anglicans. What it doesn't recognise is Anglican marriage for Catholics.

edit- pp made a valid point about dispensations

Never under any circumstances leave your DC alone with this woman. She has shown that she cannot be trusted and has no boundaries.I would only ever meet her in a neutral place if she wants to spend supervised time with your child, and sadly I wouldn't trust your DH to intervene to protect your DC from her madcap antics either, so no sending him around to her house with the baby either.

I am surprised that any priest agreed to this without speaking to the parents either. I wonder what lies she told him.

I do wish people with no understanding of what the Catholic Church teaches would stop posting misleading information like this. Did you not know that Catholics can marry non-Catholics? A Catholic wishing to marry an Anglican inside an Anglican church would need a dispensation, the marriage would be valid!

This is incorrect. The RC church accepts Anglican baptisms and believes in the unity of trinitarian Christian denominations.

Hooooooooo boy are you gonna have problems in the future if you don't nip this ludicrous shit in the bud now.

Did your MIL think it was actually ok to plan to take your two month old baby to be baptised/renamed/blessed with a name other than your choosing under a different religion than your own choice, without you being there and with the baby having already been properly Christened?

Or does she think Fr Liam can do all this without the baby actually being present….in the baby’s absence?

I can’t understand either scenario. Both are deranged.
Your MIL sounds very disturbed.
I would be scared of her deranged thinking.