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I’m so tired of people with dangerous dogs ruining the park for everyone else.

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Purplehat123 · 15/07/2025 13:35

I’m so tired of people with dangerous dogs ruining the park for everyone else.

Every time I take my children and our small cavapoo to the park, there’s always someone with an intimidating dog off the lead. Yesterday it was a man with a huge German Shepherd (and I mean huge), a bully breed on a lead, and an Akita off the lead just wandering around.

This is a busy, very suburban park, full of families and young children. And there I am, trying to scoop up my two toddlers, push the pram with the baby, grab the dog, and move away as fast as possible because I am not taking the risk of one of those dogs attacking. And let’s be honest, if something did happen, I’d have to sacrifice my dog to protect my children.

Even the two dogs that were technically on a lead, if they decided to go for another dog or child, there’s no way he could have held them back. They were enormous, powerful breeds.

And don’t get me started on the Akita. It was off-lead, trotting around freely as if that’s totally normal. Akitas were originally bred to guard property and hunt large game, including bears. They are strong, territorial, and known for being aggressive toward other dogs. They can be incredibly unpredictable and are not the type of breed you let wander freely in a public park full of children and pets.

Today it was a woman with a giant Rottweiler off-lead, paying absolutely no attention while she scrolled on her phone. Again, no control, no awareness. Rottweilers were originally bred to drive cattle and guard livestock, and they are incredibly strong, protective dogs. They have a natural guarding instinct, which can easily turn dangerous when not properly controlled. It’s no coincidence that they feature in so many fatal dog attacks, especially involving children. The number of child deaths caused by Rottweilers is horrifying and well-documented. It doesn’t matter how sweet you think your dog is at home but when a dog like that turns, it’s too late to stop it.

Far too many times my own dog, who is a total wimp and literally gets bullied by a chihuahua, has been attacked by dogs whose owners claim, “Oh, they never normally do that.” It’s always after the fact, once the damage is done.

And honestly, it’s the complete lack of awareness that really gets me. You might think your dog is friendly, but when you’re letting it freely wander up to children and other dogs, especially massive, powerful breeds, it’s terrifying. It might not scare you, but to everyone else, it’s incredibly intimidating.

I love dogs. I grew up with them. But this constant anxiety when I take my children out is exhausting. I shouldn’t have to be on high alert every time we go to the park because someone refuses to take basic responsibility for an animal that could cause serious harm.

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Onleemoi · 15/07/2025 14:33

The op mentions 2 dogs on leads. The only ‘wrong’ thing they did was not be a breed the op approves of.

Pootles34 · 15/07/2025 14:30

The breed is relevant, because I could grab a small dog if I needed to, I couldn't grab your rottweiller. The big dogs mentioned in the OP might be lovely, but they do need keeping under control and should absolutely not be wandering up to randoms in the park, as per the OP.

Kbroughton · 15/07/2025 14:27

The most gentle dogs I have ever known are Great Danes. If I had the space and the leg strength I would get a Dane (although they dont have a long life span so that would kill me). The only issue with Danes is they dont know their size and want to cuddle or lean, breaking your knees in the process. I lived until a year ago in a busy city and didnt have the issues you describe. I live in the Country now and still dont. there are two reactive German Shepherds as they are rescues but the owner keeps them on a short lead. Like others, I have only ever had issues (and then not many) with small dog breeds. I think its more the fear factor as if a big dog is aggressive its scary but if a Chihuahua takes offence (and they frequently do) it's not. As always, its the humans behind the dogs that are the issue. People get dog breeds when they are fasionable rather than whether it fits with family life. Springer spaniels and dauschands are good examples of that. There are alot of rescue springer spaniels as they are not good family dogs with young children or where they are not getting a lot of exercise.

ellie09 · 15/07/2025 14:18

If it puts your mind at ease, the only dogs I have witnessed aggression in were:

  • Springer spaniels
  • Jack Russells
  • Labradors

I have a Rottweiler, and she has never shown any sign of aggression to another dog or a person.

All other large breeds I have come across, are well behaved and trained.

I had a Jack Russell recently lunge at my dog, narrowly missing biting her on the nose! My dog hid behind my legs like a scaredy cat.

Setyoufree · 15/07/2025 14:17

ForgottenPasswordNewAccount · 15/07/2025 14:12

the amount of people who pick up their yappy rat dogs when they see my "monster horse" dog is laughable considering she is terrifed of these dogs as she has been bitten so often by them.

the latest bite was from a frenchie at the weekend. I ha
d to give it a good kick in the ribs to get it away from us but it still came back for more.

As a fellow monster horse dog owner, I 100% agree. We only ever have issues with little fluffy things who's owners seem to be under the impression butter wouldn't melt.

OP you sound incredibly anxious and to be honest pretty paranoid. Your dog will be picking up on your energy.....

JengaCupboard · 15/07/2025 14:16

Your anxiety appears genuine but the bulk of your post is baseless assumption. There is absolutely nothing to suggest any of these large breed are dangerous or aggressive in any way, you are just assuming they are.

I too would be interested in your basis for Rottweiler defamation as this isn't my experience regarding research at all.

I am a seasoned large breed owner, yet the only thing that has ever bitten me, AND my dog is a Frenchie. Twice now, on two separate occasions.

People assume that small dogs are safe and large dogs are less so, which blatantly isn't the case. It's about responsible ownership, temperament breeding and consistent training. Not necessarily breed specific, and certainly not in regards to any you have highlighted above.

I would be far more wary of anything off-lead with a distracted owner, than anything under control/on lead.

BeamMeUpCountMeIn · 15/07/2025 14:15

Yanbu. It's almost always the breed.
I could take on a medium to small dog. I could not take on an XL or angry rottie. German Shepherds in theory should be amazing dogs (see police dogs) but the poor dogs are often owned by unfit thickies who don't work them.

ForgottenPasswordNewAccount · 15/07/2025 14:12

the amount of people who pick up their yappy rat dogs when they see my "monster horse" dog is laughable considering she is terrifed of these dogs as she has been bitten so often by them.

the latest bite was from a frenchie at the weekend. I ha
d to give it a good kick in the ribs to get it away from us but it still came back for more.

HangryLikeTheHulk · 15/07/2025 14:11

Ban all dogs a toddler couldn’t beat in a fight.

sherbertcandy · 15/07/2025 14:06

I have apparently the most reported dog breed for being aggressive and she is totally the opposite of these reports. She is kept on a lead when out and is no problem whatsoever but the reason being as she has no interest in recall. All dogs when in a public park etc should be on a lead and we have had instances of people shouting as there dog is running up to ours “…they are friendly…” which I reply that ours might not be. She hates dogs bounding up to her and I don’t blame her. Don’t get me wrong she is friendly with other dogs but only on her terms. Dogs are like people, not everyone is the same, some introvert and some very overbearing but at the end of the day it’s down to how the dog is trained and looked after NOT the breed!

spoonbillstretford · 15/07/2025 13:56

I'd look at the dog's behaviour and body language not the breed. Just because it is off lead doesn't mean it isn't under control. If is wandering about and getting into mischief and the owner isn't controlling it then you may have a point, but you seem to be objecting to large dogs just being there and not actually doing anything wrong.

There are thousands of badly trained cavapoos in the country as people think they are easy dogs and lots of people seem to think they are some kind of a fashion accessory. More fool you for having an overpriced mongrel.

WombatStewForTea · 15/07/2025 13:52

It’s no coincidence that they feature in so many fatal dog attacks, especially involving children

@Purplehat123 I'd love to know where you've got this stat from

Henopause · 15/07/2025 13:52

Some of the best behaved dogs I know are German shepherds, so I’m not sure they can be judged by their breed alone.

Mine is reactive so I stay away from places like that for her sake and for other dogs, so in that respect YANBU.

Colalola · 15/07/2025 13:49

It sounds like you’re scared of dogs. I know big dogs can be intimidating but passing judgement because of the breed is wild to me. That big dog has probably been raised with the exact same love and affection as your dog has! Big dogs don’t mean horrible and scary dogs. Do you want everyone to just have small cavapoos? I have a small cockapoo and think this post is utterly ridiculous and judgemental. If you’re scared of big dogs, go to private parks where you won’t see any! Any dog is capable of hurting a child or another dog - not just certain breeds. The media won’t report on that though, hence your judgment.

coffeepoweredmum · 15/07/2025 13:47

I love dogs, grew up with them and adore breeds like Staffies and German Shepherds.

Yet even I get a bit nervous at how many dogs run off the lead over to me and the kids, with the owners ages behind yelling "Don't worry they're friendly" 🙄.

I don't think breed is always relevant - I was bitten by a Papillon off the lead last year just minding my own business walking down the street. Owner is a neighbour who treats it like a toy rather than a dog 🙄

I think it's a hangover from COVID era. A lot of the people who got dogs in lockdown didn't do puppy classes properly and now they have adult dogs without good manners.