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I’m so tired of people with dangerous dogs ruining the park for everyone else.

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Purplehat123 · 15/07/2025 13:35

I’m so tired of people with dangerous dogs ruining the park for everyone else.

Every time I take my children and our small cavapoo to the park, there’s always someone with an intimidating dog off the lead. Yesterday it was a man with a huge German Shepherd (and I mean huge), a bully breed on a lead, and an Akita off the lead just wandering around.

This is a busy, very suburban park, full of families and young children. And there I am, trying to scoop up my two toddlers, push the pram with the baby, grab the dog, and move away as fast as possible because I am not taking the risk of one of those dogs attacking. And let’s be honest, if something did happen, I’d have to sacrifice my dog to protect my children.

Even the two dogs that were technically on a lead, if they decided to go for another dog or child, there’s no way he could have held them back. They were enormous, powerful breeds.

And don’t get me started on the Akita. It was off-lead, trotting around freely as if that’s totally normal. Akitas were originally bred to guard property and hunt large game, including bears. They are strong, territorial, and known for being aggressive toward other dogs. They can be incredibly unpredictable and are not the type of breed you let wander freely in a public park full of children and pets.

Today it was a woman with a giant Rottweiler off-lead, paying absolutely no attention while she scrolled on her phone. Again, no control, no awareness. Rottweilers were originally bred to drive cattle and guard livestock, and they are incredibly strong, protective dogs. They have a natural guarding instinct, which can easily turn dangerous when not properly controlled. It’s no coincidence that they feature in so many fatal dog attacks, especially involving children. The number of child deaths caused by Rottweilers is horrifying and well-documented. It doesn’t matter how sweet you think your dog is at home but when a dog like that turns, it’s too late to stop it.

Far too many times my own dog, who is a total wimp and literally gets bullied by a chihuahua, has been attacked by dogs whose owners claim, “Oh, they never normally do that.” It’s always after the fact, once the damage is done.

And honestly, it’s the complete lack of awareness that really gets me. You might think your dog is friendly, but when you’re letting it freely wander up to children and other dogs, especially massive, powerful breeds, it’s terrifying. It might not scare you, but to everyone else, it’s incredibly intimidating.

I love dogs. I grew up with them. But this constant anxiety when I take my children out is exhausting. I shouldn’t have to be on high alert every time we go to the park because someone refuses to take basic responsibility for an animal that could cause serious harm.

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Chompingatthebeat · 15/07/2025 15:31

Colalola · 15/07/2025 13:49

It sounds like you’re scared of dogs. I know big dogs can be intimidating but passing judgement because of the breed is wild to me. That big dog has probably been raised with the exact same love and affection as your dog has! Big dogs don’t mean horrible and scary dogs. Do you want everyone to just have small cavapoos? I have a small cockapoo and think this post is utterly ridiculous and judgemental. If you’re scared of big dogs, go to private parks where you won’t see any! Any dog is capable of hurting a child or another dog - not just certain breeds. The media won’t report on that though, hence your judgment.

What a load of baloney, its like wandering around with a knife and claiming it cant hurt

FrillySocksAndDocs · 15/07/2025 15:27

ForgottenPasswordNewAccount · 15/07/2025 14:12

the amount of people who pick up their yappy rat dogs when they see my "monster horse" dog is laughable considering she is terrifed of these dogs as she has been bitten so often by them.

the latest bite was from a frenchie at the weekend. I ha
d to give it a good kick in the ribs to get it away from us but it still came back for more.

I pick up my Chihuahua when I see any dog (except weirdly corgis) because my adopted dog is a fucking menace who will go crazy snapping. He would also bite anyone. Absolutely loves cats though.

Bridport · 15/07/2025 15:26

If a dog is about to go for my leg you're damned right I'm going to kick it!
Fantasy violent reaction.

Goodideaornot · 15/07/2025 15:25

Dogs in public areas should all be on leads, IMO, except for some designated, fenced off running area

Bridport · 15/07/2025 15:24

Can two lines constitute a rant?

beachcitygirl · 15/07/2025 15:24

Any dog is a potential danger. Including your own. Your post reeks of judgement. (Ps it’s not a cockapoo - it’s a mongrel/mutt) you have no idea which dog traits your dog may have as it’s mixed.
I don’t like dogs in pubs and cafe and restaurants and think that they should be excluded from some areas
but
a park is a place you would expect to see a dog. So much so, you took your own dog.

some of the dogs you refer to are by your words on a leash. YOU have no idea of their training levels or nature either.

you sound extremely anxious, best think you can do is avoid public places best you can, until get a grip of your fears and become able to rationalise them. Dogs including big dogs are in parks. That’s a fact & that won’t stop.

MrsMillyFluff · 15/07/2025 15:23

Bridport · 15/07/2025 15:19

I'm 60, have had dogs all my life and walk them daily. It's never happened and I've never wasted any time dreaming up fantasy violent reactions.

Well let's hope it doesn't happen to you . I love dogs and am not dreaming up "fantasy violent reactions" just replying to your rather angry rant 😁

Bridport · 15/07/2025 15:19

MrsMillyFluff · 15/07/2025 15:07

What would you do if a dog was about to go for your leg??

I'm 60, have had dogs all my life and walk them daily. It's never happened and I've never wasted any time dreaming up fantasy violent reactions.

MrsMillyFluff · 15/07/2025 15:07

Bridport · 15/07/2025 15:05

Oops, sorry I was wrong. Not one but two people on this thread telling us they'd kick a dog and squeezing in the word yappy.

What would you do if a dog was about to go for your leg??

Bridport · 15/07/2025 15:05

MrsMillyFluff · 15/07/2025 15:00

If a dog is about to go for my leg you're damned right I'm going to kick it! What would the alternative be? Singing it a lullaby?

Oops, sorry I was wrong. Not one but two people on this thread telling us they'd kick a dog and squeezing in the word yappy.

FOJN · 15/07/2025 15:02

You've labelled the dogs you saw as dangerous but haven't described any dangerous behaviour. I think your anxiety is getting the better of you and it certainly will be transmitted to your dog which will affect the way other dogs interact with it.

I understand the concern about the damage larger breeds can do but dogs aren't dangerous just because they are large.

Most fatal dog attacks happen in the dogs home, the victims are usually the owner or family members. Your children are statistically more likely to be bitten by your dog than one they encounter when they are out of the house. Nearly all children treated for dog bites in hospital were bitten by the family pet, quite commonly a Labrador.

Sweetleftfood · 15/07/2025 15:01

What a ridiculous post, my dog hates German shepherds, akitas and huskys but that's his problem and I do avoid those dog but saying that, most of those dogs that I come across are very well trained and not just running around trying to find something to attack. Those dogs were no threat to you or your precious hand bag dog. I just think this is a typical example of people getting a 'poo' dog and has absolutely no intention of learning anything about dog behaviours or about dog ownership.

JaneEyre40 · 15/07/2025 15:00

JengaCupboard · 15/07/2025 14:16

Your anxiety appears genuine but the bulk of your post is baseless assumption. There is absolutely nothing to suggest any of these large breed are dangerous or aggressive in any way, you are just assuming they are.

I too would be interested in your basis for Rottweiler defamation as this isn't my experience regarding research at all.

I am a seasoned large breed owner, yet the only thing that has ever bitten me, AND my dog is a Frenchie. Twice now, on two separate occasions.

People assume that small dogs are safe and large dogs are less so, which blatantly isn't the case. It's about responsible ownership, temperament breeding and consistent training. Not necessarily breed specific, and certainly not in regards to any you have highlighted above.

I would be far more wary of anything off-lead with a distracted owner, than anything under control/on lead.

And nothing to suggest they aren't! That's the problem.

MrsMillyFluff · 15/07/2025 15:00

Bridport · 15/07/2025 14:56

There's always someone who comes on these type of threads to write the word yappy and tell us proudly how they kicked a dog.

If a dog is about to go for my leg you're damned right I'm going to kick it! What would the alternative be? Singing it a lullaby?

JaneEyre40 · 15/07/2025 14:57

spoonbillstretford · 15/07/2025 13:56

I'd look at the dog's behaviour and body language not the breed. Just because it is off lead doesn't mean it isn't under control. If is wandering about and getting into mischief and the owner isn't controlling it then you may have a point, but you seem to be objecting to large dogs just being there and not actually doing anything wrong.

There are thousands of badly trained cavapoos in the country as people think they are easy dogs and lots of people seem to think they are some kind of a fashion accessory. More fool you for having an overpriced mongrel.

Show me a story where a cavapoo mauled a child to death....stupid comment.

MrsMillyFluff · 15/07/2025 14:57

I'm sick and tired of entitled dog owners. I was walking home from work the other day, when a dachshund ran up to me, off lead, barking aggressively (I find the little yappy dogs are more aggressive than the large breed in my experience) It's owner was walking a golden retriever on lead and shouted to me that the dachshund was friendly (as it was aggressively barking and circling me) try as she might, she couldn't get it to return to her and the retriever then joined in barking and lunging on its lead. I was both terrified and furious! I shouted at her that her dog shouldn't be off lead if it didn't have recall. She replied, "oh he usually does" (?!) I replied that it wouldn't be over by me, barking, if it had recall. Why the hell should I, or anyone else endure this, what if it was a toddler or older person? 😡

Bridport · 15/07/2025 14:56

There's always someone who comes on these type of threads to write the word yappy and tell us proudly how they kicked a dog.

JaneEyre40 · 15/07/2025 14:56

Colalola · 15/07/2025 13:49

It sounds like you’re scared of dogs. I know big dogs can be intimidating but passing judgement because of the breed is wild to me. That big dog has probably been raised with the exact same love and affection as your dog has! Big dogs don’t mean horrible and scary dogs. Do you want everyone to just have small cavapoos? I have a small cockapoo and think this post is utterly ridiculous and judgemental. If you’re scared of big dogs, go to private parks where you won’t see any! Any dog is capable of hurting a child or another dog - not just certain breeds. The media won’t report on that though, hence your judgment.

Bullshit. You have no idea how the dogs are raised, neither do we, that's part of the problem.

CoubousAndTourmalet · 15/07/2025 14:55

Is your small dog off the lead? Is it only big dogs that you think should not be allowed to run free?
On our street there's two giant breed dogs, a large GSD and various small to medium breeds. Hands down the most aggressive, feared and hated dog in the area is a Dachshund. It has a go at literally everything that crosses its path.
The three big dogs are all calm, quiet and well behaved.

I don't believe you love dogs. If you did you wouldn't start a nasty, goady thread like this.

Statistically, your child is far more likely to be attacked by your own crossbreed in your home than by a random "dangerous" large breed in the park.

itsallabitofamystery · 15/07/2025 14:46

I don’t think it’s the breed that’s the issue, it’s the temperament of the dog. I have two Lhasa’s, both from the same mum but different dads. One is angelic, the perfect dog. The other, my Lord he’s a menace. Despite extensive training, he hates other dogs and constantly wants to kill them. He’s on a very short lead by my side. It’s a shame for him, as he likes to swim in the sea, but a total necessity when lots of dogs are around. He doesn’t particularly like crawling babies either (I’ve watched his behaviour when we have had family round), so there’s no way I’d allow him off lead and possibly approach people in a park.

My biggest gripe is “don’t worry, they’re friendly” when off-lead dogs approach mine. He’s a big Lhasa, approx 17kg, so not something I can scoop up quickly when approached by another dog. Yours might be friendly, but mine isn’t, so just keep your dogs on a lead unless in a wide open space with no one else around.

Btowngirl · 15/07/2025 14:45

Sorry, you’re inconvenienced by 1 person walking their 1 dog yet you’re there trying to manage 2 toddlers and a dog? Is your dog always on a lead too? YABU, until those breeds are banned it’s not for you to base whether they’re safe or not based on your own anxiety, especially when 2 of them were on a lead….

LazySunbedDays · 15/07/2025 14:44

Why would you need to grab the dog? Surely it was on a lead and under your control the whole time?
I would never trust a mongrel dog (any-poo variety is a mongrel)
I have a staffy and he is always on a lead in public to protect him from dog-owners who think their little fur baby is an angel despite his recall being really solid

MissMoneyFairy · 15/07/2025 14:41

Are there signs up saying dogs must be kept on leads and perameters,if so report them to the park warden , council, dog warden and the police if it continues, hopefully the owners will be monitored, fined and banned if they don't comply. See if there are any dog friendly areas they can use instead. Any breed or size of dog can attack, bane of our lives here, it's a park with a children's play area,,owners don't care and can't be bothered to walk an extra 10 minutes to the secure dog area. Dog crap, poo bags littered and dogs running everywhere.,

Iwontlethtesungodownonme · 15/07/2025 14:40

I am not sure what happened here. Did these dogs approach you?

Jimmyneutronsforehead · 15/07/2025 14:39

I agree PP. I took DS to our local park to burn off some energy, let him run round, kick a ball, and suddenly this German shepherd was hurtling towards us at full speed with an owner jogging behind.

I scooped up DS and the dog ran off towards his owner with the ball that DS had in his hands not seconds before.

When the owner finally caught up he apologised and tried to get the ball off his dog, and the dog snarled at him and gave him whale eye, wouldn't even let him clip his lead, just tucked the ball under its head and paws and the owner said give him a few minutes and he will drop it, but we just left because we weren't going to hang about while an aggressive off lead dog was there.

I love dogs. We have a big dog. But some owners are feckless.