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I’m so tired of people with dangerous dogs ruining the park for everyone else.

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Purplehat123 · 15/07/2025 13:35

I’m so tired of people with dangerous dogs ruining the park for everyone else.

Every time I take my children and our small cavapoo to the park, there’s always someone with an intimidating dog off the lead. Yesterday it was a man with a huge German Shepherd (and I mean huge), a bully breed on a lead, and an Akita off the lead just wandering around.

This is a busy, very suburban park, full of families and young children. And there I am, trying to scoop up my two toddlers, push the pram with the baby, grab the dog, and move away as fast as possible because I am not taking the risk of one of those dogs attacking. And let’s be honest, if something did happen, I’d have to sacrifice my dog to protect my children.

Even the two dogs that were technically on a lead, if they decided to go for another dog or child, there’s no way he could have held them back. They were enormous, powerful breeds.

And don’t get me started on the Akita. It was off-lead, trotting around freely as if that’s totally normal. Akitas were originally bred to guard property and hunt large game, including bears. They are strong, territorial, and known for being aggressive toward other dogs. They can be incredibly unpredictable and are not the type of breed you let wander freely in a public park full of children and pets.

Today it was a woman with a giant Rottweiler off-lead, paying absolutely no attention while she scrolled on her phone. Again, no control, no awareness. Rottweilers were originally bred to drive cattle and guard livestock, and they are incredibly strong, protective dogs. They have a natural guarding instinct, which can easily turn dangerous when not properly controlled. It’s no coincidence that they feature in so many fatal dog attacks, especially involving children. The number of child deaths caused by Rottweilers is horrifying and well-documented. It doesn’t matter how sweet you think your dog is at home but when a dog like that turns, it’s too late to stop it.

Far too many times my own dog, who is a total wimp and literally gets bullied by a chihuahua, has been attacked by dogs whose owners claim, “Oh, they never normally do that.” It’s always after the fact, once the damage is done.

And honestly, it’s the complete lack of awareness that really gets me. You might think your dog is friendly, but when you’re letting it freely wander up to children and other dogs, especially massive, powerful breeds, it’s terrifying. It might not scare you, but to everyone else, it’s incredibly intimidating.

I love dogs. I grew up with them. But this constant anxiety when I take my children out is exhausting. I shouldn’t have to be on high alert every time we go to the park because someone refuses to take basic responsibility for an animal that could cause serious harm.

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1AngelicFruitCake · 15/07/2025 21:11

A dog jumped (damp paws on clothes) then licked my child’s arm. Owner smiled indulgently and said ‘oh sorry, he’s friendly’ I just walked off with him muttering something.

HangryLikeTheHulk · 15/07/2025 21:08

AcquadiP · 15/07/2025 21:03

Another great reason all dogs a toddler couldn’t beat in a fight should be banned.

TheOtherSide21 · 15/07/2025 21:07

My dog is a labrador retriever. Let’s all hope he doesn’t do stereotypical retrieving things in the park and start trying to bring me back toddlers. I’m scared stiff of them and they’re so unpredictable.

Thingyfanding · 15/07/2025 21:01

Couldn’t agree more!

PassingStranger · 15/07/2025 21:00

Agree, lots of people saying the same on local Facebook group.

Dogs are attacking wildlife and chick's in parks as well.where there is water.
Still some people are refusing even when they know the dog is doing this.

Shessweetbutapsycho · 15/07/2025 20:59

Colalola · 15/07/2025 13:49

It sounds like you’re scared of dogs. I know big dogs can be intimidating but passing judgement because of the breed is wild to me. That big dog has probably been raised with the exact same love and affection as your dog has! Big dogs don’t mean horrible and scary dogs. Do you want everyone to just have small cavapoos? I have a small cockapoo and think this post is utterly ridiculous and judgemental. If you’re scared of big dogs, go to private parks where you won’t see any! Any dog is capable of hurting a child or another dog - not just certain breeds. The media won’t report on that though, hence your judgment.

breed/size is relevant though- certain breeds are statistically much more likely to be involved in fatal attacks… I would also question the decision making (and type of environment a dog is raised) by someone who chooses to own a bull breed, large German shepherd and Akita that they would have no hope at all of controlling if they really needed to.

Katemax82 · 15/07/2025 20:54

Henopause · 15/07/2025 13:52

Some of the best behaved dogs I know are German shepherds, so I’m not sure they can be judged by their breed alone.

Mine is reactive so I stay away from places like that for her sake and for other dogs, so in that respect YANBU.

I had a very timid and well behaved German shepard. However i get sick of scary dogs everywhere especially as my sons are scared of them

Baital · 15/07/2025 20:51

From what you have said two out of the three dogs were on a lead, and the third dog was off lead but not bothering anyone (except by existing)?

Dogs absolutely should be under control in public, but it sounds as if these three were under control?

FieldInWhichFucksAreGrownIsBarren · 15/07/2025 20:46

Sounds like a you issue tbh, you're clearly very nervous around large breeds.
From your description in the OP two of the three were off lead, you haven't said they were out of control so presumably they weren't. I suggest you stop second guessing how well other people have trained their dogs.

TheGreatDownandOut · 15/07/2025 20:36

OonaStubbs · 15/07/2025 19:46

Not enough and it's all reactive rather than proactive. Why not ban the dogs before they get chance to maim or kill?

What would you like them to do instead?

OonaStubbs · 15/07/2025 19:46

AcquadiP · 15/07/2025 19:32

There has been a major crackdown, this from the BBC website 13/05/2024.

Tougher penalties have come into force for dog owners in England and Wales who allow their pets to attack people.
The maximum prison sentence for allowing a dog to carry out a fatal attack on a person has increased to 14 years from two years previously.
Allowing a dog to cause injury can now be punished by five years in prison, up from a previous maximum of two years.
Animal welfare minister Lord de Mauley said it was "only right" owners should face tough punishments after attacks.
"Irresponsible dog owners will not only face longer prison sentences, but will also be liable for prosecution regardless of where an attack takes place, even in their own home.
"This will give protection to those who provide vital services in the community - postal workers, nurses, utility workers - as well as people visiting family and friends."

Not enough and it's all reactive rather than proactive. Why not ban the dogs before they get chance to maim or kill?

HappiestSleeping · 15/07/2025 19:40

TheGreatDownandOut · 15/07/2025 19:08

Ok I am sorry, I am an idiot 🤦‍♀️ I did already know number 6, it was number 8 that surprised me 😂

I would say it was a typo but it wasn’t. Just me being absent minded 😂

Ah, that makes more sense. You are not alone. It crops up on here all the time, and in the real world. "Dogs should all be on leads", usually because of the owner of a problem dog who inflicts it on the rest of us who didn't sign up to have any involvement, and refuses to take responsibility for fixing their own dog. Or some such.

AcquadiP · 15/07/2025 19:32

OonaStubbs · 15/07/2025 18:00

There needs to be a MAJOR crack down on dogs and dog owners. I will keep saying it until something actually happens. How many more people need to die or have their lives ruined by bad dogs and stupid inconsiderate dog owners until the government will acknowledge there is a problem and actually do something to rectify it.

There has been a major crackdown, this from the BBC website 13/05/2024.

Tougher penalties have come into force for dog owners in England and Wales who allow their pets to attack people.
The maximum prison sentence for allowing a dog to carry out a fatal attack on a person has increased to 14 years from two years previously.
Allowing a dog to cause injury can now be punished by five years in prison, up from a previous maximum of two years.
Animal welfare minister Lord de Mauley said it was "only right" owners should face tough punishments after attacks.
"Irresponsible dog owners will not only face longer prison sentences, but will also be liable for prosecution regardless of where an attack takes place, even in their own home.
"This will give protection to those who provide vital services in the community - postal workers, nurses, utility workers - as well as people visiting family and friends."

Hotflushesandchilblains · 15/07/2025 19:10

I have 2 small dogs. One walked off lead, unless I see another dog on a lead or acting in a way I dont like, the other on the lead more because she will sometimes run up to other dogs and if they dont know her, it can be worrying (she is a pug, as much danger as an oven mitt, but its still not ok, which is why she gets less off lead time and only in certain conditions).

I am so sick of people 'walking their dogs' while they are on their phones. Not watching what they are doing, not watching for danger, and not seeing when they shit so not picking it up.

A few years ago there was a woman on here ranting about someone telling her she should be monitoring her dog instead of being on her phone. Stating it was her only time to check her socials etc etc. She was absolutely indignant about the implication she was irresponsible. People like that give dog owners a bad name.

TheGreatDownandOut · 15/07/2025 19:08

HappiestSleeping · 15/07/2025 18:16

I refer my learned friend to the owners of the very sweet dachshunds without a thought that they were dred to flush unwilling badgers out of their sets. I can't say that I would want to dig into a badger set to get a badger out that didn't want to leave.

Ok I am sorry, I am an idiot 🤦‍♀️ I did already know number 6, it was number 8 that surprised me 😂

I would say it was a typo but it wasn’t. Just me being absent minded 😂

MightlySlad · 15/07/2025 19:01

Onleemoi · 15/07/2025 14:33

The op mentions 2 dogs on leads. The only ‘wrong’ thing they did was not be a breed the op approves of.

This. I'm an owner of a large reactive dog whom cannot be trusted. I've no bias.

The breeds you mention, I have never witnessed any aggression in whatsoever.

MarySueSaidBoo · 15/07/2025 18:59

I'm hugely wary of other dogs after one of mine was badly attacked and needed 6 weeks of vet treatment afterwards. We had to work with a behaviourist and it took months of hard work to be able to walk again and him to be relaxed. There are now a huge amount of dogs in the village post lockdown, and several owners who need intervention. There's a reactive springer we avoid, a rhodesian ridgeback, a boxer and a staffy/xl bully cross. Not one of their owners has ANY control over them, and I'm permanently on watch to make sure they're not running over a field towards us. Sadly we don't have a dog warden covering the area so any reports have to go via the Police who just send a PCSO out and no one joins the dots up that these dogs are reported time and time again.

Downplayit · 15/07/2025 18:58

By far the biggest risk are the owners and not the dogs. If I see dogs out off lead I look at the owner to see how they are. The worst dog owners are the ones that have no understanding of dogs..and sorry OP but that's you. You assume bad intentions and poor owners because of the size of the dog. That's very wrong and judgemental. Watch a few you tube videos on dog psyche and then be able to judge which dogs are actually a threat rather than just looking at their size.

KateShugakIsALegend · 15/07/2025 18:56

I am constantly amazed by the wilful arrogance of some dog owners.

The fact is, some dogs are dangerous.

People have a right to use a park in peace without having to wonder if today's the day.

MoveOverToTheSea · 15/07/2025 18:50

bugalugs45 · 15/07/2025 18:29

Rottie owner here… also interested in these statistics that they often kill children ? Please post a link 🙄
What an absolutely pointless thread bashing people who make different choices to you .

Well….
If your dog is well behaved, has clearly a good recall, you’re looking at it rather than scrolling in your phone, and is close to you, I wouldn’t have an issue regardiess of the breed.
Id be happy to acknowledge I’m more frightened of some breed or the size if tge dog, and I wouldn’t have an avoid it but I wouldn’t put it all down to the breed.

The problem, as you well know, is that some owners don’t train their dog, don’t look at them whilst out and about, dogs have no recall and the owners would be very happy to let said dog running towards you, barking. That’s not ok by any means. And yes I would say that the breed then makes it worse. For the simple reason that those dogs have a strength than other dogs don’t have.
In that case? Yes the breed is a huge part of how i would react. And I would judge away.

MoveOverToTheSea · 15/07/2025 18:44

The problem is that it’s Notbthe OP’s experience.
Its all well and good to say that she can’t possibly know if the dog is dangerous just looking at it, but the reality is that her dig has been attacked many times by a dog ‘who normally doesn’t react like this’.
How can anyone then ask her to blindly trust any dog coming forward rather than take steps before hand just in case?

Because yes tge dug migut be liveky and some are, as described in this thread.
Bit some aren’t. Abd tgey aren’t wearing a big sign aroubd their neck saying so.

So how are you suppose to know if you’re supposed to be relaxed or very careful?
The OP is choosing the very careful way. Which isn’t unreasonnable as she is also dealing with a baby agd toddler. Aka she has her hands full already!
If she was to chose ‘to be relaxed’ and ‘not so fearful’, and one if those drugs attack, what would you say then? ‘Oh it’s such a shame. It’s the fault of the owner. Don’t assume all dogs and owners are like this. But what a shame for your dog’….

BurntBroccoli · 15/07/2025 18:40

bugalugs45 · 15/07/2025 18:29

Rottie owner here… also interested in these statistics that they often kill children ? Please post a link 🙄
What an absolutely pointless thread bashing people who make different choices to you .

Bigger off lead dogs do terrify people though even if they are perfectly well trained. How does a person actually know that?

I was on a public right of way once when a huge Dalmatian came running up barking and snarling. It was truly frightening.

BurntBroccoli · 15/07/2025 18:36

That’s terrifying that they were off the lead, though smaller dogs can bite too.
Dogs should be on a lead in public places. If you need to let them off, book a private dog park for an hour.

sweeneytoddsrazor · 15/07/2025 18:34

We are starting to see a large increase of emotional support dogs where I work. Any breed seems to go with regards to this. The best behaved of all of them is a rottie, by far the worst is a poodle, that has shit twice and shown aggression on a number of occasions although hasn't actually bitten anyone yet.