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I’m so tired of people with dangerous dogs ruining the park for everyone else.

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Purplehat123 · 15/07/2025 13:35

I’m so tired of people with dangerous dogs ruining the park for everyone else.

Every time I take my children and our small cavapoo to the park, there’s always someone with an intimidating dog off the lead. Yesterday it was a man with a huge German Shepherd (and I mean huge), a bully breed on a lead, and an Akita off the lead just wandering around.

This is a busy, very suburban park, full of families and young children. And there I am, trying to scoop up my two toddlers, push the pram with the baby, grab the dog, and move away as fast as possible because I am not taking the risk of one of those dogs attacking. And let’s be honest, if something did happen, I’d have to sacrifice my dog to protect my children.

Even the two dogs that were technically on a lead, if they decided to go for another dog or child, there’s no way he could have held them back. They were enormous, powerful breeds.

And don’t get me started on the Akita. It was off-lead, trotting around freely as if that’s totally normal. Akitas were originally bred to guard property and hunt large game, including bears. They are strong, territorial, and known for being aggressive toward other dogs. They can be incredibly unpredictable and are not the type of breed you let wander freely in a public park full of children and pets.

Today it was a woman with a giant Rottweiler off-lead, paying absolutely no attention while she scrolled on her phone. Again, no control, no awareness. Rottweilers were originally bred to drive cattle and guard livestock, and they are incredibly strong, protective dogs. They have a natural guarding instinct, which can easily turn dangerous when not properly controlled. It’s no coincidence that they feature in so many fatal dog attacks, especially involving children. The number of child deaths caused by Rottweilers is horrifying and well-documented. It doesn’t matter how sweet you think your dog is at home but when a dog like that turns, it’s too late to stop it.

Far too many times my own dog, who is a total wimp and literally gets bullied by a chihuahua, has been attacked by dogs whose owners claim, “Oh, they never normally do that.” It’s always after the fact, once the damage is done.

And honestly, it’s the complete lack of awareness that really gets me. You might think your dog is friendly, but when you’re letting it freely wander up to children and other dogs, especially massive, powerful breeds, it’s terrifying. It might not scare you, but to everyone else, it’s incredibly intimidating.

I love dogs. I grew up with them. But this constant anxiety when I take my children out is exhausting. I shouldn’t have to be on high alert every time we go to the park because someone refuses to take basic responsibility for an animal that could cause serious harm.

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TheGreatDownandOut · 16/07/2025 17:55

Onleemoi · 16/07/2025 15:06

Page 7. We’re allowed cats, mini pigs or robot dogs. 🤣

Good to know 😂😂

Onleemoi · 16/07/2025 17:35

Chompingatthebeat · 16/07/2025 17:10

The park should be for everyone

Including people who own dogs the op, and others, disapprove of.

Chompingatthebeat · 16/07/2025 17:10

Catladywithoutacat · 16/07/2025 16:17

I’m funny with German Shepards and akitas but this is YOUR problem not anyone else’s. If dogs are allowed off the lead in that park then don’t go there.

The park should be for everyone

YeOldeGreyhound · 16/07/2025 17:07

Catladywithoutacat · 16/07/2025 16:59

Jack Russells (although I love the mask movie!) are real little fukkkers 🤣

My grandad used to have one who absolutely hated everyone. If she was on my grandad's lap, she would lunge at anyone coming close to him.
Oddly enough, she liked me, and I was allowed to approach my grandad, and she also loved to sit on my lap. She would also snap at anyone coming near me too. Once chased my brother out the room.

My grandad got another JRT when she passed, and he was friendly with anyone but he was absolutely in love with me. Would go mad when I visited and insist on lap cuddles. Such a lovely dog. When my grandad died, I offered to have him but someone else got him first.

But yep, I have seen some in my local park that have been assholes.

Catladywithoutacat · 16/07/2025 16:59

Jack Russells (although I love the mask movie!) are real little fukkkers 🤣

YourFunnyTiger · 16/07/2025 16:58

Sladuf1 · 16/07/2025 14:40

Interesting to read 4 others have mentioned Westies being twats after the experience I had with one.

Well...the one we first got when I was 5 was lovely. Then the westie cross we got from rspca was good too once she realised we weren't going to rehome her again, after 3 previous homes. The current one is a great guard dog for my mum when she is home alone. She's just very loud and overexcited when seeing another dog and to be fair it does look like she's being aggressive but she's just a dickhead. Handy for when you know there's someone at the door oor when the post is here. Not so great at 2 in the morning when a fox or cat wanders into the garden.
To be honest she's an OK dog but any pet my mum has had aside from good first 2 dogs and second cat have been evil shits.

She had this house rabbit and it would run about the garden and come in when called. Would growl and attack anyone else.
Second cat I'm forever getting told off "don't call the cat a wanker" this cunt knocked a vase over and I got blamed for it. Maybe not as bad as current dog but still looks pissed off and miserable anytime I dare look at the fucker in its eyes.

MyQuirkyTraybake · 16/07/2025 16:56

In the last four weeks I've been chased, lunged at and barked at by three spaniels, a westie, a jack Russel, a pit bull, a mutt and a Boston terrier. This was walking, cycling and running. However, I personally know a huge dog who is the sweetest thing, looks like a lion, he behaves like a teddy bear.

In my experience, it's not the breed, it's feckless owners who believe their dog can do anything it wants and they don't have to train it.

I grew up with Staffordshire Bull Terriers. If my dogs have behaved like that (never did - I trained them daily) I'd be absolutely mortified, extremely apologetic, put them straight on the lead, send them to bed as punishment when they got home and still expect the person to be furious. Rightly so!

I'd say be extremely careful of all dogs you don't personally know. Don't stay on guard with ugly or big ones, be wary of them all!

Catladywithoutacat · 16/07/2025 16:21

TheGreatDownandOut · 16/07/2025 15:04

Have you considered going to other cafes? Y’know, ones that don’t allow dogs?

Of course she hasn’t because the world revolves around her

Catladywithoutacat · 16/07/2025 16:20

CoubousAndTourmalet · 15/07/2025 14:55

Is your small dog off the lead? Is it only big dogs that you think should not be allowed to run free?
On our street there's two giant breed dogs, a large GSD and various small to medium breeds. Hands down the most aggressive, feared and hated dog in the area is a Dachshund. It has a go at literally everything that crosses its path.
The three big dogs are all calm, quiet and well behaved.

I don't believe you love dogs. If you did you wouldn't start a nasty, goady thread like this.

Statistically, your child is far more likely to be attacked by your own crossbreed in your home than by a random "dangerous" large breed in the park.

Agree absolutely

Catladywithoutacat · 16/07/2025 16:17

I’m funny with German Shepards and akitas but this is YOUR problem not anyone else’s. If dogs are allowed off the lead in that park then don’t go there.

Bumble6 · 16/07/2025 15:15

As someone who owns a large breed I actually understand people's worries.

It is common sense that usually, the bigger the dog the more damage it can do and breeds do have traits specific to them, eg guarding breeds are naturally more suspicious of strangers etc. This means those of us who own large dogs need to be extra careful, keeping them on leads in busy places, never leaving them alone with children (though this should be a rule regardless of breed) etc. I personally wouldn't let my dog off in a busy place with lots of kids and dogs running around. Not because I think he would do anything but out of respect for others.
Unfortunately some breeds attract idiot owners and the combination of a large, powerful dog with someone not prepared to train them or look after them is a disaster waiting to happen. If you have a pit bull tied up outside, never walked, encouraged to be aggressive and neglected it is an accident waiting to happen. And that dog is going to do a hell of a lot more damage than a spaniel in the same situation.
On the flip side so many people with small dogs don't bother training them much because they are small and I, like others, have had problems with small dogs trying to go for my large dog.

Onleemoi · 16/07/2025 15:06

YeOldeGreyhound · 16/07/2025 14:59

I know exactly who you mean! 😆
Not yet!

Page 7. We’re allowed cats, mini pigs or robot dogs. 🤣

TheGreatDownandOut · 16/07/2025 15:04

Screamingabdabz · 16/07/2025 13:22

I voted YANBU because I agree with you but you are also part of the dog owning population and I think this entitlement of all dog owners is a problem.

The fact that you can’t go in a pub or cafe or shop these days without dog gives me anxiety from the sheer selfishness and lack of consideration. The filth and mess of dog hair, slobber and faeces is horrible. I see people sitting their dogs in cafe chairs and it makes me feel sick. I don’t want dogs barking, scratching or shaking near me when I’m out for a quiet coffee or clothes shopping. Or queuing in the pharmacy as I saw the other day!

The dangerous dogs proliferation is just another layer of that as far as I’m concerned and you’re still part of it.

Have you considered going to other cafes? Y’know, ones that don’t allow dogs?

YeOldeGreyhound · 16/07/2025 14:59

TheGreatDownandOut · 16/07/2025 14:54

@YeOldeGreyhound has that weirdo popped up yet that keeps suggesting all dogs are completely banned and we should replace service dogs with robots? That one always makes me chuckle

I know exactly who you mean! 😆
Not yet!

YeOldeGreyhound · 16/07/2025 14:57

Sladuf1 · 16/07/2025 14:52

That sounds hellish and it baffles me why people choose to put up with behaviour like that. I would have to limit time spent with that friend.

She lives far away so I don't see her often, but you can always hear her dog in the background when we talk online or on the phone. I have no idea why she has not trained her out of it. Just shouting at them to shut up does nothing.

TheGreatDownandOut · 16/07/2025 14:54

@YeOldeGreyhound has that weirdo popped up yet that keeps suggesting all dogs are completely banned and we should replace service dogs with robots? That one always makes me chuckle

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 16/07/2025 14:54

Falingoth · 16/07/2025 14:42

Well after reading a few pages of this thread, there's no wonder there's so many dog attacks.

Absolutely

Sladuf1 · 16/07/2025 14:52

YeOldeGreyhound · 16/07/2025 14:44

My friend has a "Westiepoo" and she is an utter knob. Yaps and snaps at everything. All my friend does is tell her to shut up.

That sounds hellish and it baffles me why people choose to put up with behaviour like that. I would have to limit time spent with that friend.

TheOtherSide21 · 16/07/2025 14:52

HangryLikeTheHulk · 16/07/2025 11:24

Yes but those dogs are well trained / at work, not harassing people in parks and literally everywhere else.

My dog is well trained. He is a working dog. His manners are impeccable even at his young age and he is a pretty contributory member of society.

But he also needs relaxing exercise outside of his ‘job’ - and by the OPs standards if we’d walked past her and her brood he’d have been labelled as menacing, scary, a nuisance etc. just for merely existing and being out for a normal walk.

ClosetBasketCase · 16/07/2025 14:44

This is more a you issue.

Its fully of rather snobby assumptions about various breeds of dog, that YOU consider to be dangerous.

In our work training problem dogs, i have had more injuries from smaller dogs, than anything large that came in - their behavioural issues were always, Always caused by the owners - not the dog themselves.

I have no scars caused by big breeds, and dozens caused by small breeds.

I think you need to seek therapy.

YeOldeGreyhound · 16/07/2025 14:44

Sladuf1 · 16/07/2025 14:40

Interesting to read 4 others have mentioned Westies being twats after the experience I had with one.

My friend has a "Westiepoo" and she is an utter knob. Yaps and snaps at everything. All my friend does is tell her to shut up.

Falingoth · 16/07/2025 14:42

Well after reading a few pages of this thread, there's no wonder there's so many dog attacks.

TheOtherSide21 · 16/07/2025 14:40

Streamline2 · 15/07/2025 22:25

I’ve lost count of the amount of conflict I’ve had to deal with from dog owners who appear to think my toddler is fair game to be intimidated by their dogs.

literally the worst thing about being a parent of a young child is irresponsible dog owners and there are huge numbers of them.

Why can’t owners appreciate that not everyone thinks their animal is anything other than a potentially dangerous nuisance.

I really wish dogs didn’t exist.

If literally the worst thing about being a parent is irresponsible dog owners then you must be parenting a China doll.

Ludicrous 😂

Sladuf1 · 16/07/2025 14:40

Interesting to read 4 others have mentioned Westies being twats after the experience I had with one.