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I’m so tired of people with dangerous dogs ruining the park for everyone else.

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Purplehat123 · 15/07/2025 13:35

I’m so tired of people with dangerous dogs ruining the park for everyone else.

Every time I take my children and our small cavapoo to the park, there’s always someone with an intimidating dog off the lead. Yesterday it was a man with a huge German Shepherd (and I mean huge), a bully breed on a lead, and an Akita off the lead just wandering around.

This is a busy, very suburban park, full of families and young children. And there I am, trying to scoop up my two toddlers, push the pram with the baby, grab the dog, and move away as fast as possible because I am not taking the risk of one of those dogs attacking. And let’s be honest, if something did happen, I’d have to sacrifice my dog to protect my children.

Even the two dogs that were technically on a lead, if they decided to go for another dog or child, there’s no way he could have held them back. They were enormous, powerful breeds.

And don’t get me started on the Akita. It was off-lead, trotting around freely as if that’s totally normal. Akitas were originally bred to guard property and hunt large game, including bears. They are strong, territorial, and known for being aggressive toward other dogs. They can be incredibly unpredictable and are not the type of breed you let wander freely in a public park full of children and pets.

Today it was a woman with a giant Rottweiler off-lead, paying absolutely no attention while she scrolled on her phone. Again, no control, no awareness. Rottweilers were originally bred to drive cattle and guard livestock, and they are incredibly strong, protective dogs. They have a natural guarding instinct, which can easily turn dangerous when not properly controlled. It’s no coincidence that they feature in so many fatal dog attacks, especially involving children. The number of child deaths caused by Rottweilers is horrifying and well-documented. It doesn’t matter how sweet you think your dog is at home but when a dog like that turns, it’s too late to stop it.

Far too many times my own dog, who is a total wimp and literally gets bullied by a chihuahua, has been attacked by dogs whose owners claim, “Oh, they never normally do that.” It’s always after the fact, once the damage is done.

And honestly, it’s the complete lack of awareness that really gets me. You might think your dog is friendly, but when you’re letting it freely wander up to children and other dogs, especially massive, powerful breeds, it’s terrifying. It might not scare you, but to everyone else, it’s incredibly intimidating.

I love dogs. I grew up with them. But this constant anxiety when I take my children out is exhausting. I shouldn’t have to be on high alert every time we go to the park because someone refuses to take basic responsibility for an animal that could cause serious harm.

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Yellowstickerstalker · 16/07/2025 23:14

i agree that too many owners don’t pay attention to their dogs and that some can cause more damage purely due to size and strength, I would like to point out that the two worst injuries to humans I witnessed were from a cockerpoo and pug. Both these injuries needed extensive plastic surgery.
i hear your concern about bigger dogs, they can cause greater injury in a faster time period but other than bullies I don’t think they are likely to be more aggressive.
Aggression is more complex than many realise as it’s often reactive and once explained personally understandable, ie if a dog has an injury and in pain, barking is the only way of telling other dogs to back off.
Best practice is to have dogs always under control and assume the worst and work backwards. I have also witnessed bad behaviour in Labs but owners tend to be completely blind to this possibility. In a nutshell, there are too many clueless owners but bigger dogs are not necessarily more dangerous.

OonaStubbs · 16/07/2025 23:04

People need to boycott shops and eateries that allow dogs. Instead of moaning about it online, take your business elsewhere to businesses that put the needs of paying customers above the "needs" of dogs. Because it's not like dogs actually enjoy being taken to shops or restaurants. They'd rather be in a nice dog enclosure at the zoo where they can be outside with other dogs.

Horses7 · 16/07/2025 22:56

I’m a dog owner and believe dogs should be on a lead and under control.
Most dog owners have no control over their dogs and often don’t even care what they do.
Many dogs are easily spooked and will behave like the animals they are ie bite/attack or run off after a squirrel and end up in traffic.

YeOldeGreyhound · 16/07/2025 22:18

TheGreatDownandOut · 16/07/2025 22:11

Thing is, you can all argue until you’re blue in the face but dogs aren’t going anywhere. They’re allowed in many more places than they used to be allowed and whether you agree with it or not, it’s kind of tough shit.
So you have a few options

  1. go to places where dogs are and tut your heads off and then start a thread about it or
  2. avoid places where dogs are or
  3. lighten the fuck up

Spot on.
it makes me laugh when people go to a place that has a massive sign saying 'Dogs Welcome', photos of visiting dogs on the wall, a jar of biscuits on the counter - and they go on to complain that dogs are there, and that people who take dogs there are "entitled and selfish", oh, and "brainless idiots".
And they come out with crap like "just because you can does not mean you should" etc

TheGreatDownandOut · 16/07/2025 22:11

Thing is, you can all argue until you’re blue in the face but dogs aren’t going anywhere. They’re allowed in many more places than they used to be allowed and whether you agree with it or not, it’s kind of tough shit.
So you have a few options

  1. go to places where dogs are and tut your heads off and then start a thread about it or
  2. avoid places where dogs are or
  3. lighten the fuck up
TheGreatDownandOut · 16/07/2025 22:08

YeOldeGreyhound · 16/07/2025 22:00

Dogs 😆

😂

TheGreatDownandOut · 16/07/2025 22:08

OonaStubbs · 16/07/2025 21:33

Just ban all dogs. Then there would be no more deaths by dog, no more barking. It would literally be a win/win situation.

You’re funny 😂
I mean, by all means start a petition if you want to waste your time. It’ll never happen.

namechangetheworld · 16/07/2025 22:07

Yourcatisnotsorry · 16/07/2025 20:02

How many people have been killed by a Pomeranian? Of course it’s more rationale to be wary of bigger more powerful breeds!

Agreed. This 'the breed is irrelevant' nonsense is getting old. I can kick a yappy little terrier away if it starts snapping at my kids. I couldn't do the same with a Rottweiler.

YourElatedLimeShark · 16/07/2025 22:06

I work in the Pet industry and see more bites and savage attacks from cockapoos that any other breed

cobrakaieaglefang · 16/07/2025 22:02

The biggest threat to a child's life is not a dog in a park but males within their 'family' be it related or not. Maybe look at Uncle Bob instead of Rex.

YeOldeGreyhound · 16/07/2025 22:00

OonaStubbs · 16/07/2025 21:58

But we are humans. Who would enforce the ban?

Dogs 😆

OonaStubbs · 16/07/2025 21:58

But we are humans. Who would enforce the ban?

YeOldeGreyhound · 16/07/2025 21:42

OonaStubbs · 16/07/2025 21:33

Just ban all dogs. Then there would be no more deaths by dog, no more barking. It would literally be a win/win situation.

I say we ban humans. They are the cause of the most deaths (and noise).

YeOldeGreyhound · 16/07/2025 21:41

FlyMeSomewhere · 16/07/2025 21:11

Jesus you really have it in for little dogs! At least people can pick them up and control them!

People don't bother training their little yappy monsters because they can pick them up. It is lazy dog ownership.

ALL dogs should be well trained, not just big dogs.

OonaStubbs · 16/07/2025 21:33

Just ban all dogs. Then there would be no more deaths by dog, no more barking. It would literally be a win/win situation.

FlyMeSomewhere · 16/07/2025 21:16

Let's look at the fact that those that can't now legally buy Bully XLs are getting Cane Corsos! A large 50kg dog that's already banned in several countries and another several have strict breed specific legislation for them! Too many people have this desire to have danger breeds or any breed they can teach to be an aggressive status dog! That's why all dogs should be on leads because too many like their dogs to be aggressive and risky!

FlyMeSomewhere · 16/07/2025 21:11

spoonbillstretford · 16/07/2025 20:27

Not mine. She barely raced as she was too lazy to chase anything. This makes her a fantastic pet and we have two cats also. I'd have sighthounds anytime, they are wonderful, and I have always been a cat person at heart.

You do see mimsy daft nervous small dog owners picking their dogs up around her sometimes. Good as it's more likely to be their untrained pampered made up breed ankle biters that are so overbred you can barely identify it as a dog any more that cause a problem. Ridiculous humans.

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Jesus you really have it in for little dogs! At least people can pick them up and control them!

eastegg · 16/07/2025 21:03

FOJN · 15/07/2025 15:02

You've labelled the dogs you saw as dangerous but haven't described any dangerous behaviour. I think your anxiety is getting the better of you and it certainly will be transmitted to your dog which will affect the way other dogs interact with it.

I understand the concern about the damage larger breeds can do but dogs aren't dangerous just because they are large.

Most fatal dog attacks happen in the dogs home, the victims are usually the owner or family members. Your children are statistically more likely to be bitten by your dog than one they encounter when they are out of the house. Nearly all children treated for dog bites in hospital were bitten by the family pet, quite commonly a Labrador.

This is rather hollow advice when you’ve got a large powerful dog running towards your child and the owner is scrolling on their phone. A bit like saying most sexual abuse of children happens in the home so don’t be too worried about that strange man who stares at the children’s playground.

YeOldeGreyhound · 16/07/2025 21:01

dynamiccactus · 16/07/2025 20:56

Just because you can, doesn't mean that you do.

I could have a BBQ when everything is tinder dry. But I don't, because I am not an entitled (and brainless) idiot.

Ok, spend your life thinking that people who take their dogs to places that welcome dogs are idiots and entitled. I will spend my life thinking people like you are exactly that.

FlyMeSomewhere · 16/07/2025 20:59

dynamiccactus · 16/07/2025 20:56

Just because you can, doesn't mean that you do.

I could have a BBQ when everything is tinder dry. But I don't, because I am not an entitled (and brainless) idiot.

That sadly sums up a generation of adults today, it's like the hosepipe bans, I've seen so many idiots saying they'll ignore it out of spite and they seem to stupid and selfish to care that they'll bring standpipes and rationing down on everyone!

FlyMeSomewhere · 16/07/2025 20:56

People on here are exactly the issue! They don't acknowledge how responsible they need to be and how dangerous their large breeds are! A dachshund will not kill anyone, it'll nip! People need to stop using the ridiculous little dog argument! It's not a little breed that's been killing and maiming for the last few years. Large muscular locking jaws that fit around a child's head are never going to be comparable to a tiny muzzle!

This arrogance adds to the nervousness already caused by so many people having dogs off leads now - there's been dog attacks where I live and unfortunately in one case the poor dog that was injured was off a lead and trotted towards an aggressive dog that was on a lead so yes all dogs ideally need to be on a lead for safety

dynamiccactus · 16/07/2025 20:56

YeOldeGreyhound · 16/07/2025 14:23

Someone taking their dog to a place where it is a allowed does not make them selfish or entitled. In fact, you are the entitled one .

Just because you can, doesn't mean that you do.

I could have a BBQ when everything is tinder dry. But I don't, because I am not an entitled (and brainless) idiot.

dynamiccactus · 16/07/2025 20:56

YeOldeGreyhound · 16/07/2025 14:23

Someone taking their dog to a place where it is a allowed does not make them selfish or entitled. In fact, you are the entitled one .

Just because you can, doesn't mean that you do.

I could have a BBQ when everything is tinder dry. But I don't, because I am not an entitled (and brainless) idiot.

dynamiccactus · 16/07/2025 20:54

Catladywithoutacat · 16/07/2025 16:21

Of course she hasn’t because the world revolves around her

Which cafes don't allow dogs? They all do!

OonaStubbs · 16/07/2025 20:51

All dogs are dangerous.

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