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I’m so tired of people with dangerous dogs ruining the park for everyone else.

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Purplehat123 · 15/07/2025 13:35

I’m so tired of people with dangerous dogs ruining the park for everyone else.

Every time I take my children and our small cavapoo to the park, there’s always someone with an intimidating dog off the lead. Yesterday it was a man with a huge German Shepherd (and I mean huge), a bully breed on a lead, and an Akita off the lead just wandering around.

This is a busy, very suburban park, full of families and young children. And there I am, trying to scoop up my two toddlers, push the pram with the baby, grab the dog, and move away as fast as possible because I am not taking the risk of one of those dogs attacking. And let’s be honest, if something did happen, I’d have to sacrifice my dog to protect my children.

Even the two dogs that were technically on a lead, if they decided to go for another dog or child, there’s no way he could have held them back. They were enormous, powerful breeds.

And don’t get me started on the Akita. It was off-lead, trotting around freely as if that’s totally normal. Akitas were originally bred to guard property and hunt large game, including bears. They are strong, territorial, and known for being aggressive toward other dogs. They can be incredibly unpredictable and are not the type of breed you let wander freely in a public park full of children and pets.

Today it was a woman with a giant Rottweiler off-lead, paying absolutely no attention while she scrolled on her phone. Again, no control, no awareness. Rottweilers were originally bred to drive cattle and guard livestock, and they are incredibly strong, protective dogs. They have a natural guarding instinct, which can easily turn dangerous when not properly controlled. It’s no coincidence that they feature in so many fatal dog attacks, especially involving children. The number of child deaths caused by Rottweilers is horrifying and well-documented. It doesn’t matter how sweet you think your dog is at home but when a dog like that turns, it’s too late to stop it.

Far too many times my own dog, who is a total wimp and literally gets bullied by a chihuahua, has been attacked by dogs whose owners claim, “Oh, they never normally do that.” It’s always after the fact, once the damage is done.

And honestly, it’s the complete lack of awareness that really gets me. You might think your dog is friendly, but when you’re letting it freely wander up to children and other dogs, especially massive, powerful breeds, it’s terrifying. It might not scare you, but to everyone else, it’s incredibly intimidating.

I love dogs. I grew up with them. But this constant anxiety when I take my children out is exhausting. I shouldn’t have to be on high alert every time we go to the park because someone refuses to take basic responsibility for an animal that could cause serious harm.

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CoubousAndTourmalet · 18/07/2025 09:04

@Wordsmithery

Again, has it escaped your notice that these dogs did not "run over" to the OP and that two of them were on leads?

Do you expect people to not walk their dogs at all? To not have a dog? To go out at 4am with their dog?

Where will all this dog hate end?

I can understand the issue with out-of-control dogs but that doesn't appear to be the case here. Why should people receive abuse for walking their dogs on a lead?

Wordsmithery · 18/07/2025 08:44

Late to the convo, as usual.
OP, you're absolutely right. And it's insane the number of people on here who don't get the point.
Dogs in public places should always be supervised closely. No question.
Any dog can turn, in the right set of circumstances. Small dogs can be grumpy and nip or full-on bite. Large breeds bred to hunt, fight or protect can kill, due to bite strength and muscle mass. Once they turn, there's no going back.
And any dog running over to or jumping up at small kids can be pretty scary to said kid, regardless of how friendly the owner claims it to be.

nund · 18/07/2025 08:00

CoubousAndTourmalet · 17/07/2025 14:25

You sound just like me 😂90% of these references go over the top of my head too! Are you a 1964 vintage perchance?

No. I'm a genuinely old person. I'll not be exact in case people find me and send the dogs round, but a bit before 1964.

MightlySlad · 18/07/2025 06:59

CoubousAndTourmalet · 17/07/2025 18:23

Vegans probably. All those vegans that care about animals so much they want all our pets killed 😏

Agreed. Been vegan 23 years-lets not stop at pets--kill all the wildlife too so they don't have to suffer. And any humans whose quality of life isnt optimal.

TheGreatDownandOut · 17/07/2025 18:52

CoubousAndTourmalet · 17/07/2025 18:23

Vegans probably. All those vegans that care about animals so much they want all our pets killed 😏

😂

CoubousAndTourmalet · 17/07/2025 18:23

Onleemoi · 17/07/2025 18:19

Who’s they in this context LoonaStubbs?

Vegans probably. All those vegans that care about animals so much they want all our pets killed 😏

Onleemoi · 17/07/2025 18:19

Who’s they in this context LoonaStubbs?

TheGreatDownandOut · 17/07/2025 18:06

OonaStubbs · 17/07/2025 17:59

They should invent a disease to curb the excess dog population, like they did with Myxomatosis on rabbits in Australia. This would solve the problem in one fell stroke.

You are just the gift that keeps on giving aren’t you.

Pigs, robot dogs and now dog specific disease. Are you ok?

YeOldeGreyhound · 17/07/2025 18:06

OonaStubbs · 17/07/2025 17:59

They should invent a disease to curb the excess dog population, like they did with Myxomatosis on rabbits in Australia. This would solve the problem in one fell stroke.

That is people's pets you are on about.
You really need some therapy about your dog issues.

OonaStubbs · 17/07/2025 17:59

They should invent a disease to curb the excess dog population, like they did with Myxomatosis on rabbits in Australia. This would solve the problem in one fell stroke.

CoubousAndTourmalet · 17/07/2025 17:20

Auroraofthedawn · 17/07/2025 17:09

Literally all the dog owners insisting that their lil baby wouldn’t hurt a fly. We don’t care. Keep your dog on a lead, it’s not hard unless you are a selfish wanker.

Has it escaped your notice that two of the dogs the OP was panicking about actually were on leads?

YeOldeGreyhound · 17/07/2025 17:16

Auroraofthedawn · 17/07/2025 17:09

Literally all the dog owners insisting that their lil baby wouldn’t hurt a fly. We don’t care. Keep your dog on a lead, it’s not hard unless you are a selfish wanker.

That is not the same as someone saying they don't give a shit if their dog hurts a kid.
Am still waiting for a quote.

TheGreatDownandOut · 17/07/2025 17:14

Auroraofthedawn · 17/07/2025 17:09

Literally all the dog owners insisting that their lil baby wouldn’t hurt a fly. We don’t care. Keep your dog on a lead, it’s not hard unless you are a selfish wanker.

That’s not what that poster asked you…
Bit grumpy today are we?

Auroraofthedawn · 17/07/2025 17:09

YeOldeGreyhound · 17/07/2025 15:45

Please quote whoever said they don't give a shit if kids get hurt.

Literally all the dog owners insisting that their lil baby wouldn’t hurt a fly. We don’t care. Keep your dog on a lead, it’s not hard unless you are a selfish wanker.

CoubousAndTourmalet · 17/07/2025 16:17

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 17/07/2025 15:22

You were terrified of a dachshund?

That seems perfectly reasonable to me. I'm terrified of dachshunds. I know two locally, both highly reactive. Give me giant breeds anyday.

YeOldeGreyhound · 17/07/2025 15:45

Auroraofthedawn · 17/07/2025 15:05

Dogs should not be allowed off lead in public places. Dog owners couldn’t give a shit if kids get hurt, selfish arseholes. As proven by this thread.

Please quote whoever said they don't give a shit if kids get hurt.

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 17/07/2025 15:22

MrsMillyFluff · 15/07/2025 14:57

I'm sick and tired of entitled dog owners. I was walking home from work the other day, when a dachshund ran up to me, off lead, barking aggressively (I find the little yappy dogs are more aggressive than the large breed in my experience) It's owner was walking a golden retriever on lead and shouted to me that the dachshund was friendly (as it was aggressively barking and circling me) try as she might, she couldn't get it to return to her and the retriever then joined in barking and lunging on its lead. I was both terrified and furious! I shouted at her that her dog shouldn't be off lead if it didn't have recall. She replied, "oh he usually does" (?!) I replied that it wouldn't be over by me, barking, if it had recall. Why the hell should I, or anyone else endure this, what if it was a toddler or older person? 😡

You were terrified of a dachshund?

Auroraofthedawn · 17/07/2025 15:05

Dogs should not be allowed off lead in public places. Dog owners couldn’t give a shit if kids get hurt, selfish arseholes. As proven by this thread.

TheGreatDownandOut · 17/07/2025 14:27

BTW if someone told me I gave them Liam Neeson vibes, I would take it as a compliment

CoubousAndTourmalet · 17/07/2025 14:25

nund · 17/07/2025 14:16

Quite likely. Was it you with "Liam Neeson" earlier? I wonder what it means -- probably some aspect of contemporary popular culture that's passed me by. I'll ask my grandkids, they'll probably know.

(Is it a video game?)

You sound just like me 😂90% of these references go over the top of my head too! Are you a 1964 vintage perchance?

TheGreatDownandOut · 17/07/2025 14:25

nund · 17/07/2025 14:16

Quite likely. Was it you with "Liam Neeson" earlier? I wonder what it means -- probably some aspect of contemporary popular culture that's passed me by. I'll ask my grandkids, they'll probably know.

(Is it a video game?)

😂
Im growing to quite like you… dog murdering aside, of course

nund · 17/07/2025 14:16

TheGreatDownandOut · 17/07/2025 14:03

Total Liam Neeson vibes

Quite likely. Was it you with "Liam Neeson" earlier? I wonder what it means -- probably some aspect of contemporary popular culture that's passed me by. I'll ask my grandkids, they'll probably know.

(Is it a video game?)

CoubousAndTourmalet · 17/07/2025 14:13

ellie09 · 17/07/2025 14:07

Yes, I know personally of two XL bully's, who are extremely well trained and socialized.

I know a Bully locally too. He's fine with my big girl, unlike like a lot of the local small dogs that bark in her face.

My previous pup was viciously attacked at 16 weeks by an off lead Labrador. It's not always the ones you expect.

nund · 17/07/2025 14:08

CoubousAndTourmalet · 17/07/2025 14:00

How appropriate, given that I have a large French guarding breed 😁

But I feel perfectly safe; she never barks away from home turf and is never off the lead in public. For her own safety.
She's also not aggressive in the least but there are no doubt people here that would still label her dangerous. Like the now absent OP...

You seem like a decent dog person. That's fine. Chaqu'un à son gout and all that. Live and let live.

You others, with your nasty uncontrolled animals and your "He's only being friendly" shtick, watch out. As I may have said already.

ellie09 · 17/07/2025 14:07

FlyMeSomewhere · 16/07/2025 20:41

Do you live in a bunker?! Have you not heard of the bully XLs? You don't have to personally witness something to know which breeds are a risk! Not to mention that those dogs are easily controlled on a lead!

Yes, I know personally of two XL bully's, who are extremely well trained and socialized.