AIBU to think it's a bit cheeky to want our house (when we're not even in it)?

If they were relatives, then yes. But I wouldn't want folk in my house in case they judged me.

God I have relatives that I wouldn't want to stay and who would definitely judge. You can't choose friends but not family!

I would only do it if it worked for me. I would let them stay and save them hundreds if they were looking after my dog while we were away and in turn saving me hundreds. But other wise, nope, no no way.

Never would this happen. I would absolutely hate the idea of people roaming around my house while I'm away.

Surely it depends on your relationship? I wouldn't want strangers in my house but my close friends why would I have an issue?

Depends if they’re actual friends or more aquaintances. I’m currently away for 8 weeks and have a rotation of people staying. I don’t care - I trust them.

Depends if they’re actual friends or more aquaintances. I’m currently away for 8 weeks and have a rotation of people staying. I don’t care - I trust them.

Will they be watering your plants and leaving it at least as clean and tidy as they found it? And contributing to bills? If so would consider.

I have been asked twice by different people, but they got the same answer: sorry , that doesn’t work for me.
We all survived, the friendship included

Tell them you’re listing it on Air BnB

You could say you’re having work done on the property whilst away?
That said, they actually should offer you more than airbnb&b? rather than trying to get it cheap😳.

Actually, it’s made me wonder, people who stay at friends houses when it’s empty, are they paying their way or is it a freebie with bills thrown in for an added bonus?

YANBU.

I have offered our house before to people I know might be in need of a holiday or could do with saving the cash, or to a couple of very good friends that we know would repsect the place and treat it like their own and not do anything to upset the neighbours.

But thats on my terms and I would never ask a friend the same and we have lot sof friends in desirable locations. Proper cheeky.

Absolutely not. I wouldn’t even let anyone other than close family borrow my car, let alone my house. If they break or damage anything or run up utility bills guess which sucker is paying for it? It’s weird to ask to stay in someone’s home when they aren’t there, really fucking weird. They weren’t even pretending to come and see you. They are users.

I wasn't really FFSing you, it was more if a general FFS.

I don’t even have a bathroom cabinet. Why so snappy?

Yes, having suffered from several burglaries and attempts, I am happy for the house to be obviously occupied. Plus I like my friends, that’s why they’re friends.

What a bunch of weirdos MN is sometimes! Assuming you like and trust these people, why wouldn’t you offer?

Don't FFS me.

yes it's MY personal space & I'm happy to let MY friends/famiily be in it 'unsupervised' 🙄🙄. I don't know what people imagine they have that's so unique/special/secret that they think FRIENDS are going to be 'snooping' to find.

I wouldn't give a rats ass if people look inside my bathroom cabinet. It only has the usual crap most people's bathroom cabinets have.

i now take medication for a couple of conditions. It's not in the bathroom cabinet though, it's in a tupperware box in the kitchen. If they had kids with them I'd remind them it's there (but anyone old enough to reach it, should be safe with it anyway) I don't care if they look in it, most if us know what medication other people take anyway.

What's in there you would be bothered by people seeing?

Which rooms? My house is much smaller now than when my cousin & family stayed. If a couple & kids stayed now I'd expect the couple to sleep in my room & the kids in the spare room. If I came home I'd sleep in the lounge. Yes my room has my stuff in it, but so what? They'd have to live out of their bags/suitcases & share hanging space if they need it?! Wouldn't bother me. Like I said, they're welcome to stay, but it's my home, not an empty air bnb/hotel room.

what would you want to be locking away? I'm genuinely interested, I can't think of anything?

Personally I consider myself very lucky to have a lovely house. I remember when I was younger with not much money, I received the kindness of friends and strangers many times. I'm delighted to pay it forward to others, and allow others to stay for free and experience my city. I'd consider it selfish to leave my house empty, not being used by anyone at all, just sitting there doing nothing for anyone

You’re perfectly in your rights to say no, so say no 🤷‍♀️ In my opinion, these are the sort of people who wouldn’t even return the favour so don’t put yourself out.

This all made me think of this article...
https://www.upworthy.com/askers-vs-guessers

Some people are Askers, and in "ask culture," it's normal and expected to ask directly for the things you want. It's also normal to say no to such requests. Asking culture is upfront, direct, and generally okay with saying no and being told no. If you want something, you simply ask for it without an expectation of any particular answer.

Other people are Guessers, and in "guess culture," you don't ask for things unless you're quite sure the answer will be yes. You might drop hints or make vague allusions to what you want as you try to gauge whether the person would say yes, or even to get an offer without having to ask. If you think the answer might be no, you simply don't ask.

Where Askers and Guessers clash the most is in the saying no part. Askers know sometimes the answer will be no, but they ask anyway. Because Guessers won't ask if the answer might be no, they might assume Askers expect all of their asks to be answered with yes. Saying no is uncomfortable to a Guesser, so being put into the position of having to say no to someone's ask feels rude.

Only a CF would even hint at this.
Say no and make sure Dh doesn't say yes by letting them know yourself.

Cheeky feekers, absolutley not !

What's the problem? What do you think they are going to do? Nobody is interested in your knicker drawer.