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Constance Marten case — I feel the police have some responsibility too

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Siff · 15/07/2025 09:46

I know Constance Marten and her partner made dangerous and illegal choices, and I’m not excusing that — a baby died and that’s heartbreaking. But I can’t stop thinking about the way the case was handled and whether the police have some responsibility in how things unfolded.

As a mum of four who’s struggled mentally after birth, I keep thinking: if I had just given birth, was vulnerable, and felt like the whole world was hunting me down — would I have thought clearly? Probably not. The media coverage was intense, and the police were everywhere. The pressure must have been overwhelming.

I honestly believe the fear created by the police operation pushed them into making more and more desperate and risky decisions to stay hidden. It wasn’t just a search — it felt like a witch hunt. No safeguarding, no attempt to reach her as a vulnerable mother, just a hard push to capture and punish.

I think that approach had consequences. The police must take some responsibility for creating the kind of fear and pressure that led to this tragedy. The way they went about it likely made things worse — not better — for the baby.

It’s easy to say she was selfish or unstable, but mental health in the postnatal period is fragile. People don’t always think rationally when terrified. I just wish there had been more humanity in how it was all handled.
Anyone else feel the same?

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notacooldad · 15/07/2025 11:17

In my experience removal of the child(ren) is the last resort, not the default

In my expierence you are absolutely right.

With most families, social workers to try resolve the issue and work on better outcomes for the family,often using a multi agency approach . If a child needs to be removed they will look for suitable family members to help out.
Its only when things are at absolute crisis and a there is a serious safeguarding issue will a team remove children immediately.

If every child was removed because things weren't good, where would they all go? There is a shortage of foster carers and placements for children and generally children are best placed in the care with their mothers and want to be with them. It is much cheaper in the long term to help mum to become a better parent than to spend on placements.

StrawberryFlowers · 15/07/2025 11:17

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 15/07/2025 11:15

But the outcome wouldn't be different. They would have just allowed their baby die in a foreign country instead.

Edited

Yes. Baby could have lived quietly with the violent rapist in another country. Would have been fine.

Donttellempike · 15/07/2025 11:16

WestwardHo1 · 15/07/2025 11:02

https://www.thetimes.com/uk/crime/article/constance-marten-life-prison-jail-7vjrql7dh~

Sorry for the Times linke (paywall), but in the comments section it says she was awarded legal aid. I can't get my head around that.

What an appalling pair of evil people.

What do you think legal aid is for? Everyone deserves to be properly represented at court.

Should only the rich have the right to a fair trail?

Or should there be affordable legal representation for all, regardless of means.

It’s how justice in a democracy works.

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 15/07/2025 11:15

PrincessJasmine1 · 15/07/2025 11:02

Honestly, I don't understand why they didn't leave the country when she was still pregnant. They must have known they would be hunted in this country because of their SS history. They could have lived in their own way somewhere else where nobody would know them or ever heard of them. It's so strange they didn't leave.

But the outcome wouldn't be different. They would have just allowed their baby die in a foreign country instead.

Startyabastard · 15/07/2025 11:15

As another poster said: their attitude said alot!
Constance was arrogant and rude as well as Mark being so. Vile people!

Whosenameisthis · 15/07/2025 11:13

PrincessJasmine1 · 15/07/2025 11:02

Honestly, I don't understand why they didn't leave the country when she was still pregnant. They must have known they would be hunted in this country because of their SS history. They could have lived in their own way somewhere else where nobody would know them or ever heard of them. It's so strange they didn't leave.

According to the bbc her family/she believed her family had taken a travel ban out.

chances are once the authorities knew she was pregnant a border alert would have gone out.

it’s possible they didn’t have passports. If Gordon had convictions or was on bail he may have had restrictions on travel.

again, you may think it’s strange but aren’t you making conclusions without full knowledge of the circumstances?

WestwardHo1 · 15/07/2025 11:12

Simonjt · 15/07/2025 11:10

What was her income at the time of the crime? You can’t deny someone legal aid due to a previous job.

It wasn't a job. It was from her family trust fund. It was in the BBC article yesterday.

DiscoBob · 15/07/2025 11:12

Commonsense22 · 15/07/2025 09:50

Yes
More specifically, enforced closed adoptions which just don't work well.
They had had 4 children removed and forcefully placed for adoption. Engaging with social services had 0 chance of a happy outcome for them.

So many other countries allow open adoption and provide a chance for vulnerable parents to keep in touch with their birth parents even when these are unfit to care for them.

Both parents missed more than half their arranged visits with their children while they were in foster care. When the children cried having been stood up yet again, Marten just coldly said they need to look at the bigger picture.

I think drugs must have been involved. Not just cannabis. I can't think of why they would not turn up for their kids if they wanted them back so badly. Gordon threw her out of a widow and her and the baby could've died. But she still stayed with him and that's why the kids couldn't be with them. Well, one of the reasons.

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 15/07/2025 11:11

hideawayforever · 15/07/2025 10:43

They can't win, whatever approach they take, someone will always say they were wrong.

It particularly takes the cake when that someone hasn't even bothered to read the reports properly before sticking the boot in.

Jellycatspyjamas · 15/07/2025 11:10

AddictAlice · 15/07/2025 11:06

I kind of agree with you. It only takes a few things to go wrong for many of us to find ourselves in a similar situation. There but for the grace of God.

It really doesn’t, this was a catalogue of repeated decisions and refusal of help and support. It’s incredibly hard to remove children from their parents - there’s a huge amount of intervention along the way and very clear warnings about the potential consequences. It’s much more than a few things going wrong.

Simonjt · 15/07/2025 11:10

WestwardHo1 · 15/07/2025 11:08

Yes I understand that. But also (at one point at least) had an income of £250,000 a year.

And many many other people with a much smaller income are denied legal aid aren't they?

What was her income at the time of the crime? You can’t deny someone legal aid due to a previous job.

Simonjt · 15/07/2025 11:09

AddictAlice · 15/07/2025 11:06

I kind of agree with you. It only takes a few things to go wrong for many of us to find ourselves in a similar situation. There but for the grace of God.

I’m certainly not a few things wrong away from dating a rapist, abusing my children or leaving a newborn baby in a freezing tent then shoving them in a carrier bag with some rubbish once they’re dead.

LindtLindor · 15/07/2025 11:08

They were already living in a tent when she was pregnant with the first baby, before any involvement with social services or the police. There was no reason to be doing that so they were making terrible decisions long before they went on the run.

WestwardHo1 · 15/07/2025 11:08

Coffeeishot · 15/07/2025 11:07

She didn't ask her family or her trust fund for money she refused so.was "entitled " to legal aid she also kept firing her solicitors, she sounds a deeply unpleasant person without any remorse for any of her actions.or decisions.

Ah, ok.

WestwardHo1 · 15/07/2025 11:08

Whosenameisthis · 15/07/2025 11:05

It’s a key tenant of the justice system that everyone has the right to a defence.

if she qualifies for legal aid it it correct that she would get it.

no matter what she’s done she is entitled to legal counsel.

Yes I understand that. But also (at one point at least) had an income of £250,000 a year.

And many many other people with a much smaller income are denied legal aid aren't they?

HRTQueen · 15/07/2025 11:07

Siff · 15/07/2025 09:46

I know Constance Marten and her partner made dangerous and illegal choices, and I’m not excusing that — a baby died and that’s heartbreaking. But I can’t stop thinking about the way the case was handled and whether the police have some responsibility in how things unfolded.

As a mum of four who’s struggled mentally after birth, I keep thinking: if I had just given birth, was vulnerable, and felt like the whole world was hunting me down — would I have thought clearly? Probably not. The media coverage was intense, and the police were everywhere. The pressure must have been overwhelming.

I honestly believe the fear created by the police operation pushed them into making more and more desperate and risky decisions to stay hidden. It wasn’t just a search — it felt like a witch hunt. No safeguarding, no attempt to reach her as a vulnerable mother, just a hard push to capture and punish.

I think that approach had consequences. The police must take some responsibility for creating the kind of fear and pressure that led to this tragedy. The way they went about it likely made things worse — not better — for the baby.

It’s easy to say she was selfish or unstable, but mental health in the postnatal period is fragile. People don’t always think rationally when terrified. I just wish there had been more humanity in how it was all handled.
Anyone else feel the same?

I think you need to read up on the background of this case

And also put your experiences aside and how you might have felt

Ultimately the concern was about the welfare of a new born baby and how they in the past (past behaviour so often repeats) had neglected their children to such an extent all were taken into care. This does not happen because they were not particularly caring parents this happened because they are neglectful parents who put themselves first

Coffeeishot · 15/07/2025 11:07

WestwardHo1 · 15/07/2025 11:02

https://www.thetimes.com/uk/crime/article/constance-marten-life-prison-jail-7vjrql7dh~

Sorry for the Times linke (paywall), but in the comments section it says she was awarded legal aid. I can't get my head around that.

What an appalling pair of evil people.

She didn't ask her family or her trust fund for money she refused so.was "entitled " to legal aid she also kept firing her solicitors, she sounds a deeply unpleasant person without any remorse for any of her actions.or decisions.

grumpygrape · 15/07/2025 11:07

kidscanwatchcbeebies · 15/07/2025 09:54

In cases of domestic violence or abuse it does worry me that the default action seems to be removal of the child(ren) rather than support of the mother.

That isn’t a comment on this specific case, it’s a general observation.

In my experience removal of the child(ren) is the last resort, not the default.

AddictAlice · 15/07/2025 11:06

I kind of agree with you. It only takes a few things to go wrong for many of us to find ourselves in a similar situation. There but for the grace of God.

Whosenameisthis · 15/07/2025 11:05

WestwardHo1 · 15/07/2025 11:02

https://www.thetimes.com/uk/crime/article/constance-marten-life-prison-jail-7vjrql7dh~

Sorry for the Times linke (paywall), but in the comments section it says she was awarded legal aid. I can't get my head around that.

What an appalling pair of evil people.

It’s a key tenant of the justice system that everyone has the right to a defence.

if she qualifies for legal aid it it correct that she would get it.

no matter what she’s done she is entitled to legal counsel.

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 15/07/2025 11:05

The only "failure" there was was with letting a violent rapist who raped someone when he was 14 and threatened to kill her children, who assaulted police officers in the hospital and who likely pushed his pregnant partner out of a window so she miscarried roam free.

The actual case, they were doing what needed to be done. Health services were pleading for them to hand their baby over for her own safety.

They could have left her somewhere safe and stayed on the run. They could have left her body to be found respectfully. They didn't.

They acted so poorly in court that the judge said he'd never seen anything like it before

Disgusting pair of humans

This is when mandatory sterilisation sounds like a good idea

PollyBell · 15/07/2025 11:05

No they are to blame, sticking a vulnerable and any other label on it does not excuse it or make anyone else at fault, I am tired of endless excuses used whenever a woman does something wrong, giving birth or having a child/ren is not an excuse for anyone whether mother, father, grandparent or anyone else

Society keeps on coming up with labels it doesn't stop children being harmed

ShallIstart · 15/07/2025 11:04

Well I think these two people were not in anyway within the boundaries of a normal mother experiencing post partem issues.
Everything in their life stories is so far from a normal upbringing and life that they seem to be drtached from reality.
Both seemnto have phychiateic issues far beyond a postpartem depression. They were dangerously detached and volatile and had prior history of extreme behaviour.
Both seem not to understand what they have done wrong.

itsnotagameshow · 15/07/2025 11:03

Allswellthatendswelll · 15/07/2025 10:39

It's really distateful the aristocrat thing. As if we should care more/ be scandalised because she had some posh relatives.

I feel very sorry for her other children who had a terrible start in life and I have limited sympathy for the fact she kept having them to be honest.

Yes I feel deeply sorry for the children. I too have limited sympathy re her repeated pregnancies, but I can kind of see why it happened. I am not sure I buy 'evil' over seriously mentally unwell. Such a tragedy.

myissuemychoice · 15/07/2025 11:03

luckylavender · 15/07/2025 10:55

It was never proved

Was that when the children were removed though ? Or maybe I’m getting mixed up ?