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To be disappointed in DD’s SATS results?

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CucumberSalads1 · 14/07/2025 22:15

I feel terrible for being disappointed, but she got 109 for maths, 109 for reading and 114 for SPAG.

She has historically always been greater depth. And I suppose I’m just concerned she’ll be streamed based on the “expected” results.

We didn’t do much prep at home at all, just looked at the odd question here and there for a week or so before.

I know these are good scores (before I get flamed)… she was just so close to greater depth and the scores aren’t that consistent with her ability.

I know I’m probably BU, but we all just want the best for our kids, don’t we? I don’t want this to hold her back in any way.

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BaldingMum · 14/07/2025 23:05

CucumberSalads1 · 14/07/2025 22:15

I feel terrible for being disappointed, but she got 109 for maths, 109 for reading and 114 for SPAG.

She has historically always been greater depth. And I suppose I’m just concerned she’ll be streamed based on the “expected” results.

We didn’t do much prep at home at all, just looked at the odd question here and there for a week or so before.

I know these are good scores (before I get flamed)… she was just so close to greater depth and the scores aren’t that consistent with her ability.

I know I’m probably BU, but we all just want the best for our kids, don’t we? I don’t want this to hold her back in any way.

Maybe you should have helped her put the effort in and take it more seriously if that’s how you feel? Hindsight is a marvellous thing though.

but I wouldn’t worry, as others have said they don’t have any weight in the real world.

Although I will say that my boy got mid to high 90’s. Dyslexic diagnosis. He was so very anxious about them, despite our reassurances. But he worked his bloody socks off for those results, and the relief on his face felt better than a lottery win. Proud. Very proud.

ToffeePennie · 14/07/2025 23:03

Say it with me
SATs are for the school, not the student. They technically shouldn’t be bought home, but left at school to demonstrate where the school is failing.
My year 6 got a 100, 97 and 98.
My year 2 got 106 and 109.
All of those scores are brilliant, considering they totally contradict the “assessment” given on their reports.
SATs are for the school and are not a true test of anything.

Heronwatcher · 14/07/2025 23:02

I don’t think everyone is being fair to the OP, it depends on where you are but I know of some schools that use SATS (a) to predict GCSE grades, and (b) stream in year 7 (although they don’t publicise it and I think they take into account the school’s feedback). So they do matter. But OP it’s not the end of the world and she’ll likely be in set 1 or 2, plus there is movement at secondary school between sets, so I wouldn’t stress, just make sure she’s on top of her work at secondary so she can show what she’s capable of.

Olidora · 14/07/2025 23:02

Cannot remember what my children got in their Sats . They did take 11+ so I probably just forgot about Sats ..it was a long time ago though.

bzarda · 14/07/2025 22:59

As a secondary school teacher, we test multiple times across the year and sets move around constantly in the core subjects. I couldn't tell you what any of my students got in their SATs. We don't care. They are used as a measure to monitor schools and ensure students make progress from primary to secondary, they won't hold her back in the slightest.

LOLOL82 · 14/07/2025 22:57

Ridiculous 😒

Newusername3kidss · 14/07/2025 22:57

Find it absolutely hysterical how some people get so wound up about SATs: they do not matter!!

All private schools I know don’t do them. My kids are at private and they do standardised tests every term just to check where kids are up to / hopefully see improvement and progress. Not compared to rest of class - just a sense check. If under 100 then would flag as potential cause for concern and they’d receive extra help.

seriously calm down

Aspanielstolemysanity · 14/07/2025 22:54

Sats don't matter.
Our secondary re tests them and juggles sets around as needed all the way up to GCSE

And at the end of the day, success and happiness in life is about a lot more than grades

TheShyMumX · 14/07/2025 22:54

I work in a school - SATs results mean absolutely nothing! The worst part of this is your potential negativity being picked up by her. Tell her you are proud she did a great job.

Kids start year 7 and are usually taught initially in form groups so they get to make a stronger bond with peers or in a vague ‘set’ while teachers make their own assessments and by the next term they are then put in actual sets based on ability in English, Maths and science. All other subjects will be quite random to fit timetables etc.
SATs are purely a test on the effectiveness of primary school teaching and not much of that is relevant to secondary school teaching.
Parents of ‘high achievers’ are often surprised when their angel gets put in a middle set rather than a higher one because the same with children who have appeared ‘less able’ through SATs results but actually show to have a much greater grasp of the secondary curriculum, particularly with English/Literacy.

OverripeBananaBread · 14/07/2025 22:52

I've got 2 teens.

One didn't take SATs due to covid, one I have no recollection of the results as it all paled into insignificance compared to the terminal illness and loss of a parent we were going through at the time (so absolutely no way she got to do her best either).

Both went to secondary where they were tested and setted in the first few weeks and sets are adjusted after termly testing. Both have never been below top set. Both on track for really good GCSE grades.

SATs mean absolutely nothing and you're mad to think that above average results are in any way detrimental.

Moonlightdust · 14/07/2025 22:52

“Greater Depth - Working at greater depth within the expected standard and has a strong understanding of the curriculum. Children with a scaled score of 110 and above are included in this group.”

So your daughter was in this category and very close with her other 2 scores. She did fantastically. I hope you didn’t show your disappointment!

zeibesaffron · 14/07/2025 22:51

My DD failed SPAG shes got 3 A’s at Alevel in Maths, Psychology and Biology - why would you worry about meaningless tests?? just enjoy the summer holidays- they re stream at secondary anyway!

Neemie · 14/07/2025 22:48

SATS don’t matter at all. The only thing to take away from this is that very high results generally require effort as well as ability.

UnlimitedBacon · 14/07/2025 22:44

🙄

Oaktre878 · 14/07/2025 22:44

Omg look at the state of the world at the moment, how can you even be stressed about this 🤯

Laura95167 · 14/07/2025 22:44

CucumberSalads1 · 14/07/2025 22:15

I feel terrible for being disappointed, but she got 109 for maths, 109 for reading and 114 for SPAG.

She has historically always been greater depth. And I suppose I’m just concerned she’ll be streamed based on the “expected” results.

We didn’t do much prep at home at all, just looked at the odd question here and there for a week or so before.

I know these are good scores (before I get flamed)… she was just so close to greater depth and the scores aren’t that consistent with her ability.

I know I’m probably BU, but we all just want the best for our kids, don’t we? I don’t want this to hold her back in any way.

Aren't they out of 120? Is this just a "humble-brag"?

OneAzurePlayer · 14/07/2025 22:42

HappyNewTaxYear · 14/07/2025 22:41

You’ve not bothered so much with the SPAG since then eh? 😉

😂😂😂 I haven’t to be fr

HappyNewTaxYear · 14/07/2025 22:41

OneAzurePlayer · 14/07/2025 22:35

Don’t feel terrible my brother last year got 81 in maths 84 in reading and 81 in SPAG my mum went insane over it I got 109 in SPAG 103 in r
reading and 107 in maths she didn’t shout at me so don’t feel bad my brother got much worse mine where years ago

You’ve not bothered so much with the SPAG since then eh? 😉

OneAzurePlayer · 14/07/2025 22:38

purpleme12 · 14/07/2025 22:38

Sorry but I just don't get how these would hold her back?

They don’t

purpleme12 · 14/07/2025 22:38

Sorry but I just don't get how these would hold her back?

OneAzurePlayer · 14/07/2025 22:35

CucumberSalads1 · 14/07/2025 22:15

I feel terrible for being disappointed, but she got 109 for maths, 109 for reading and 114 for SPAG.

She has historically always been greater depth. And I suppose I’m just concerned she’ll be streamed based on the “expected” results.

We didn’t do much prep at home at all, just looked at the odd question here and there for a week or so before.

I know these are good scores (before I get flamed)… she was just so close to greater depth and the scores aren’t that consistent with her ability.

I know I’m probably BU, but we all just want the best for our kids, don’t we? I don’t want this to hold her back in any way.

Don’t feel terrible my brother last year got 81 in maths 84 in reading and 81 in SPAG my mum went insane over it I got 109 in SPAG 103 in r
reading and 107 in maths she didn’t shout at me so don’t feel bad my brother got much worse mine where years ago

BlondieMuver · 14/07/2025 22:34

YABU!

My dd is just finishing Yr6, She didn't do SATs.

They don't matter!

mrsanflowerpot · 14/07/2025 22:32

DS got exceptionally good SATs results with GD and nearly full marks in everything, we’re really proud of him. He also went to his induction on Thursday and lost his tie. His tie…!

DD has just done her GCSEs and we’re tied up in knots about whether she’ll do well enough to get back into sixth form to do her chosen subjects, if she’d done her SATs she probably would have been on the lower end of EXS. She has never so much as lost a pen, has just qualified to coach younger children in an elite sport, and got a Saturday job at a local supermarket her friends were all turned down for. DS is unlikely to go on this path.

Kids - they make their own way whatever exam results say (I type muttering about having to buy a new tie before he even starts!).

Jamfirstest · 14/07/2025 22:32

My DDs scores were higher than that but she was still put in middle streams at secondary.then they did their own assessments and put her in top sets. So sats inconsequential even though she did well.

Mischance · 14/07/2025 22:31

Write out 100 times ....

SATs do not matter
SATs do not matter
SATs do not matter ...................