DH annoyed, who is in the wrong?

Think you “DH” needs to see a doctor of a different kind.

Why did dh book time off work for the appointment? Only one of you needed to take him!

Your DH is apparently very very stupid and cannot be trusted to make health related decisions.

Regardless, you don't need his permission or input to take your child to the doctor, so just do it anyway and don't bother telling him unless he needs to know something.

Re "He is very nasty and abusive as well" - so you are putting plans in place to take your child away and protect them I presume?

I have no words to describe what I think of your husband. You really need to get away. He is dangerous and wrong. Look after yourself and your son.

@candalll while getting a car arranged think about the rest of your ducks you need to get in a row. When you are nearly ready to leave let every healthcare professional and and support you have know why you are leaving.

He will turn nasty and you need the team behind you so you can continue making the correct decisions for your son’s health, without this nasty idiot holding you back .

Have a conversation with your GP about your husband.

Your DH advised you that rectal bleeding was normal?
What the fuck is wrong with him?!!
He wants to take 'advice' from HIS friends, he doesn't want you or your child to see medical professionals, he doesn't want you to drive.
He sounds like a control freak.

I'm sorry you are in an abusive relationship. Your child is still young and you still have time to get him away from this situation, do it for both of you

My GP always says to me “you were right to come in” even if it turns out to be nothing, when bringing DS to her. Your DH is wrong.

Wow. Imagine you'd not gone to the appointment, and God forbid, your DC was poorly 😬

Assuming your DH is just stupid and not abusive, I'd tell him in no uncertain terms, that you'll be doing what you need to do to keep your child healthy and thriving, regardless of his feelings on it. And if he gets in a mood, then so be it. I had to do similar with my DH a few years ago, when I was expecting our first, and he took offence at me double checking any meat on my plate, was cooked through before I ate it 🙄 I basically said "If you get upset every day, for the rest of our lives and we argue, then so be it. Because I'm protecting our child". Wild that I even had to, as he's not normally such a dickhead. But just an odd thing he got a bee in his bonnet about - hopefully it's the same for yours. Mine did sulk a bit, but in fairness has never questioned it again, because he knows how it will go down!

if a gp asks you to come back you go back they dont just throe appts iout for no reason

your husband is abusive

You need to leave this man

He’s abusive, he is against you getting medical care (that in itself is a safeguarding issue)

He’s a shit, negligent parent and spouse. You wrote that he is abusive in the way he talks to you, that is abuse and your child is getting old enough to pick up on it. I hope the enlarged lymph node is nothing serious but always take your child to the GP, you are doing the right and responsible thing.

Read her posts

He's abusive

Can you get an appt for yourself with your GP and alert her to your husband's behaviour? A phone one would do.

And get advice from Women's aid to help you get away

He sounds scared and is projecting, it’s understandable but also a bit unevolved. Cbt might be good for your DH

Your DP is a dick. Your child is precious. Always trust your gut. Your DP is the one with the issues.

It's not often I'm shocked at what is written on mumsnet but my god, this has shocked me to the core.

This man is dangerous. You've also said he's nasty and abusive. You need to leave him and do it as soon as you are able.

Do you have support in real life OP?

Your husbands lack of concern in a truly concerning situation and blatant neglectful attitude is frankly quite worrying.

You are both responsible for the health and wellbeing of your child, good for you for doing the right thing. But for your husband to reprimand you for being a good parent, makes him a pretty shitty husband too. I know i would be divorcing his arse for that. And im guessing this isnt the only issue you've had to deal with judging by his ridiculously outlandish views.

Hea a fucking moron, if he tries to engage on it again just say you've said your piece and I'm getting our child checked regardless. Don't push your feelings about hospitals onto me or our child who has no such issues and hopefully never does.

Is he an anti vaxxer?

How many of his friends have a science qualification beyond GCSE?

Leave your husband - he is jealous, controlling, abusive.

I completely agree about the husband. He sounds vile.

With regard to the lymph nodes, it's reasonable that because of OP's experiences, the opinion of a medical professional can confirm whether further investigations are necessary.

Sorry OP, didn’t mean to be flippant. I’d say to your DH that it’s perfectly normal to listen to and act on medical advice.