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To expect my neighbour to stop her son playing the recorder in the garden?

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Alonero · 14/07/2025 20:34

Not sure if I’m being precious but I need a sanity check.

Next door’s little boy (8ish?) has taken up the recorder and every single evening he’s out in the garden squeaking away. He’s clearly just learning – bless him – but it’s the same few notes over and over, really loud and really shrill. It’s been going on for a couple of weeks now and honestly it’s starting to drive me up the wall.

We’ve had all the windows open with the heat and it’s impossible to relax. You can’t have a conversation in the kitchen without it sounding like you’re being heckled by a flock of geese. I tried to hint to his mum the other day – said something like “ooh, we’ve been treated to quite the performance lately” – and she just laughed and said he’s a musical genius in the making. Right.

I don’t want to be the grumpy neighbour who ruins a kid’s joy but surely there’s a time and a place? Or at least… maybe indoors with the windows shut?

AIBU to think a bit of peace in your own garden isn’t too much to ask?

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TroysMammy · 14/07/2025 20:47

I'd dig out my 50 year old recorder and show off by playing Bright Eyes or Annie"s Song.

Ilikemymenlikeilikemycoffee · 14/07/2025 20:45

Jesus this would drive me potty! Whenever my son gets the recorder out I distract him and hide it! It’s a bloody hideous noise. In fact I think I’ve thrown it away!

Alonero · 14/07/2025 20:44

He usually goes for about 30–40 mins, sometimes longer if he’s “composing” (his word, not mine). It’s always early evening so we’re trying to cook, get DC bathed etc and it’s just constant tooting.

You’re probably right that his mum’s had enough indoors and shoves him out. Might try the music idea – maybe a bit of ABBA will drown it out and encourage a duet 😅

Also very relieved to hear recorder stardom isn’t a big pipeline – if this is a short phase I’ll grit my teeth and get through it!

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DwarfPalmetto · 14/07/2025 20:43

YABU it's a child playing in his own garden during daylight hours. It's just normal household noise.

Dreamerinme · 14/07/2025 20:41

‘Heckled by a flock of geese’ 😂

How long does he play for? Maybe it drives his DM up the wall and that why he’s out in the garden. Put on some music of your own just loud enough to block it out. Never heard of anyone become a recorder-playing superstar so it will probably be a short-lived phase.

Sprig1 · 14/07/2025 20:37

He can't be playing for that long, surely. Leave him to it.

Namenamchange · 14/07/2025 20:36

How long does he play for?

Dangermoo · 14/07/2025 20:35

I know it's not really funny but I couldn't help 😂

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