To expect my neighbour to stop her son playing the recorder in the garden?

It will drive me up the wall, but it is his garden.
Plays (or commits the offence ) during normal hours, and is a child that has probably been kicked out from somewhere else.

I remember when I played bloody Titanic over and over in a 3bedroom flat. Not surprised my mum ended up like that.
Can’t wait for my child to start playing it too…I need to check if playing inside the greenhouse is legal or if there’s some grey areas there🥲

I’m impressed! My son will do 5 mins of his keyboard practice at most!

@Alonero You can create a mute for the recorder quite easily with a bent piece of cardboard - it fits in what I think was called the fipple. Suggest you make a few and lob them over the fence in a weighted envelope. (Or attached to a brick, depending how you're feeling.)

Every night when he starts go out with a tambourine and join him.

Oooh you've actually inspired me. Our neighbours are obnoxiously noisy. I might try sending the children out for recorder practice every now and then just to remind them noise travels.

I have no issue with chatting, but noone wants their neighbour'S music taste imposed on them every weekend

Gosh I think it's rude and inconsiderate to practise an instrument with the window open, let alone actually outside - even if you are musically proficient. I don't think this is acceptable at all, as a regular thing.

With sympathy I agree

You can’t have a conversation in the kitchen without it sounding like you’re being heckled by a flock of geese

🤣🤣🤣 sorry op but this is brilliant

Agree

Play this loudly every time and see if there's a change:

Sounds like "torture" to me.

This.
It's inconsiderate of his parents to allow it for that long. It's definitely not normal household noise as someone has commented.

If it continued I'd be saying something to his parents..in a nice way!

I don’t think there’s a lot that can be done as this comes within the remit of reasonable household noise (unless he’s doing it at 4am in the morning). It would piss me off no end, mind you.

Some people are just bloody selfish - I would never inflict that on my neighbours. Since we’ve had to have the windows open all day there’s always one idiot playing drum and bass at full blast.

I don’t think there’s much to be done. I don’t see his passion for the recorder lasting very long, mind you.

Remember if he’s pissing you off, he’s probably pissing other people off too so maybe someone else will say something. You’ve tried to appeal to her better nature but she sounds a bit thick - maybe someone else will have a moan soon.

O lord I remember when my dc were learning the recorder, I came very close to murder a few times! Your neighbours should not inflict this on anyone else, yanbu. If you know someone with a set of bagpipes perhaps you could borrow them and join in with the kid in the garden every time he plays, that might give them pause?

I work from home. All through that lovely lockdown summer the U3A recorder group practised socially distanced in next door's garden. It was absolute torment.

Not true, years ago we lived in a flat. One of the rules of the block of flats was no music practice. One of the other flat owners played double bass in an orchestra and nobody ever complained. When she practiced. A friend of hers from the orchestra who played violin moved in with her and proceeded to practice her violin. Within 2 days the rest of the block of flats had complained so she moved out. Violins otherwise known as vile din.

Think yourself lucky it's only a recorder.
My neighbour's son plays a trumpet in the garden shed every night 🤣😂 !!

I'm not OP. I wouldn't mind if my neighbour's kids learned recorder. I'd probably give them some help.

My neighbour's kid does have an annoying ball habit though. Through it, I rediscovered the joy of music. Including the recorder.

I made much the same point to another mum at the Y1 wincingly-awful recorder assembly. She looed at me unbelievably snottily and said she had studied recorder at music college. What. Were. The. Odds.

😂😂

Oh I have good news for you! I played recorder until I was about 15, I loved music and wasn't allowed another instrument. I used to get music scores from the library and practice all summer. It's a miracle I lived to adulthood really, when I hear a recorder now it's the worst sound ever!

Though I am half deaf now, so high notes are distorted.

I think the upthread suggestion to him of taking up drums would be excellent revenge on his mum 😊

@Alonero play the long game and imagine how satisfying it’ll be when he’s a teenager and your kids are learning the recorder. I’d advise adding al fresco violin or trumpet recitals at 9am on weekends.

He's allowed to play his recorder in the garden just as you're allowed to listen to music with explicit lyrics. If his mum has a problem with the coincidence that you're playing your music at the same time as he is, she has full autonomy to ask him to come inside.

Sorry OP. This post made me laugh. His mum
is a genius

OP does your neighbour have other children that could pick up the recorder? You could be in for a treat!