I know on other post i have said i get on well with my Mil and we usually do but this last visit she really upset me. I am disabled and stopped working in January, my husband also changed his job to a part time one so he could take care of me. I get ESA and PIP. I went to bed early and when my husband came up he was really angry, i asked him why and she had apparently been ranting about him being a 'benefits bum'.
The next day when i was there, she started up again and was going on about 'Why can't he work full time' and 'Why couldn't he just walk into a £50k job and pay someone else to look after me', 'She's not happy' and how 'It's not what she wanted for him'. She is totally deluded to expect him to be able to find a job with a salary like that especially in the current jobs market, the average salary is only about 25/30k.
Does she think its what i wanted? That i chose to become disabled and have to give up working, use a walking stick and wear AFOs in my 30's. It took everything i have not to burst into tears cos although she didn't come right out and say it it felt like she was blaming me for him only working part time and him having to look after me. He did his best to defend me saying 'it was his job to look after me.' 'We didn't want a stranger coming in and doing it for him' but when she gets a thought in her head changing is nigh on impossible.
The next morning she had the nerve to ask him why he couldn't claim PIP for him autism.
As if her visits don't wear me out enough, am to be upset by all of this. He is not a' benefits bum' he is a carer, he knew what he signed up for when he married me.