DH expects me to seduce him

It doesn’t sound like he’s very giving does it. Or considerate. Or helpful. Why do you want a baby with him? If he can’t be bothered to create it with enthusiasm and care for you why is he suddenly going to be man of the year caring for baby?
Sorry that’s frank but he sounds selfish.

Hereagain334

*Why the fuck should I have to seduce him??? He's taking on zero mental load/responsibility! But whinges about pressure. And loves to boast how he'll 'knock me up'... yet is pretty much incapable.’

op you sound so angry and to be honest like you hate him. Do you love him? While I agree what he says is probably irritating when as women we know sex is high on man’s agenda, assuming he should just be ready doesn’t sound great either. And most men surely take on a percentage of the load/ responsibility/ worry, just not the amount that’s needed, they’re not just sperm donors

Hideous isn’t it.
Don’t post at night tho, it’s crawling with them.

I agree that not having children is valid but we really do need to get rid of our children should be seen and not heard attitude.

Do you like this man? This is not how I would write about my DH. Do you want a baby with your DH or do you want a baby? As others have said most men are really easy to seduce and if it helps keep things moving - why not?

Thing is, a line on an ovulation stick isn’t the biggest turn on for women either.

You do the turning on after the decision I guess!

I’ve never heard of a man (no underlying issues) having trouble with the cup, So why would he have more trouble with his wife?

I get it after several rounds, when it’s starting to disappoint. But early on?

I’d feel disappointed too, OP.

What if he took responsibility for reading up on vitamins and making super healthy meals as his contribution? Slightly off the wall, but would that help you feel less alone?

Are you bored? Or triggered somehow by this thread? Sick of seeing your name

I think you need to get a life tbh. You've commented on this thread a stupid amount and added very little of value.

Does he find it impossible to 'perform' if he's under pressure? If so don't tell him when the right time is, but be obviously keen, I don't think a pole dance in the bedroom or excessive seduction is necessary, might even have the opposite effect if he has performance nerves.

Or he's really not keen on having a baby with you, most men jump at sex anytime it's on offer.

At least I have met the occasional man who qualifies as a decent human being…

But it's also not normal for her to expect her husband to 'perform' on command and be like a robot with no foreplay.

If a man treated his wife like that, we'd be rounding on him and rightfully so. As wrong as it is for the husband not to have interest in knowing the fertile days (ever thought maybe that is a protection mechanism so it's not in his mind so he doesn't feel pressure to perform? Sounds like a good strategy to me) the OP doesn't sound like she sees her husband as a human, just a robot to perform on command.

Why are you saying 'thank you master ' as the domme?

He should be saying " thank you Mistress " or you could say "good boy"

Bit unusual to flip the dynamics...

Maybe women need to accept when a man doesn't want a child and that no child is better than an unwanted one.

So many women blind themselves by their own selfish desires that they would rather bring children into shitty homes than either pursue a better match or accept being child free.

Chidlren aren't mandatory and many do find them an annoyance. Rather than change their minds we need to continue teaching that having children is a choice and that not having them is valid and should be defended if so.

Maybe if we stopped telling men and boys that children are an annoyance that you may have to put up with if you want a wife/girlfriend then they'd start pulling their weight like they do in other countries where children are valued and prioritised.

You have two options on those peak days:

• use sex as a tool to get pregnant
• enjoying being "united as one" with the person you love

The first option doesn't make getting pregnant any more likely. In fact, stress is said to make getting pregnant harder.
Our bodies are smart - trying to enjoy the moment as an act of love may help your body know it is in a secure environment to grow and take care of a baby.

TTC can be a really frustrating time. Your husband's comment and your reactions suggest your relationship is now lacking a bit in love?

My husband and I found learning about the 'five love languages' (physical affection, acts of service, words of affirmation, quality time, gift giving) useful in reviving that sexual spark, plus just helping our relationship.

It sounds like your husband would really values you showing you are physically attracted to him through actions (physical affection - rub those arms and make a show of feeling his muscles), and you may be more acts of service in which you want him checking in on how your fertility tracking is going.

Sounds like she/he has been drinking. Such angry weird posts

I would think twice about having children with him. If he can’t put in the effort to make a child, is he really going to put in the effort to raise a child?

I feel your frustration, it took me years to get my dd but my dh never once told me that I had to seduce him! He wanted a baby too and knew it was going to be “work” to get one. We tried to ensure we had sex for fun through out the month but during ovulation he did what was needed.