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To think you can drink tap water in a 1st world country!

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Drowninginconfusion · 13/07/2025 22:10

My OH will not drink tap water and it drives me insane. He just drove 20 minutes home at 10pm because he left half a bottle of water on the side at home and no shops are open and in his words ‘I take my water seriously’

I think the reason it drives me insane is because the reason he won’t drink it is because of the hormones etc in it but yet he has spent his whole life being obese. He goes through intense phases of working out and eating really well and loses weight but ultimately he is still obese and thinks that the one time he got to 17st is some sort of achievement that he needs to tell me about allllllll the time. He drives without a seatbelt on, he took pretty hard drugs as a young man and has always drunk alcohol (although he barely does these things now) I think another reason is that he constantly watches strong men / sports personalities talking about their workouts and nutrition and he insists on telling me about things that I have no interest in and have told him as much - after many years of politely saying ‘ooh interesting’ whilst secretly thinking ‘I bet you weren’t thinking about the processed meats giving you cancer when you ate your McDonalds wrap for breakfast 😡’ or ‘I’m 9 years older than you and manage to get more done in any given day than you do despite the fact that I’m not interested in an ice bath’ I know there’s no link to obesity from tap water but Jesus Christ something has to kill you! I doubt it will be the rusty pipes or hormones in the water! He had the audacity to ask me if I felt comfortable eating a sweetie the other day (not fat shaming me, I’m not fat, more that he wanted to make the point that there were no ingredients on the wrapper, pretty sure there were no ingredients on the sweet and sour chicken from the Chinese that he ate last night either 🤪)

I also know lots of you are going to tell me to get a grip and let him live as he pleases but if you had to listen to him go on and on about it whilst he’s sat there sweating and needing 400 bowel movements a day you would find it a hard pill to swallow.

Do you drink tap water? AIBU to think that in an emergency a bit of tap water isn’t going to kill you!

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muddyford · 14/07/2025 06:37

Couldn't agree more!

Ribecx · 14/07/2025 06:36

Hulabalu · 14/07/2025 06:34

i wonder what is so bad about drinking hard water ? Thx

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Nothing - it's absolutely fine to drink.

IwasDueANameChange · 14/07/2025 06:35

If you live in a hard water area then no you can't drink it, well unless you filter it first

This is utter rubbish 🤣

You can of course drink hard water. All uk cold water (mains) tap water is safe to drink unless the tap is labelled otherwise. Its among the cleanest in the world. I actually hate how soft water tastes.

Ribecx · 14/07/2025 06:35

Drowninginconfusion · 13/07/2025 23:59

We have two children, he would never dream of not strapping them in correctly though.

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Until they get to the age where they notice dad's not wearing a seatbelt so think it's not important.

I couldn't be with someone who would let children sit in the car watching him drive without a seatbelt as if it's not a big deal and just a choice you can make.

Seatbelts aren't optional.

belladeli · 14/07/2025 06:35

Which posts? Do you mean the ones that bang on about dangerous chemicals and then claim that there was no intention to alarm anyone?

The ones that extrapolate acknowledging something factual into something else.

I posted straight after one article that I don't filter my water....so I clearly haven't scaremongered myself 😆

@summertimeinLondon

It's factual that hormones & PFAs are in tap water. I am surprised so many were unaware. Does this mean I don't drink it? No. I also eat bacon...

Hulabalu · 14/07/2025 06:34

Devilsmommy · 13/07/2025 22:38

If you live in a hard water area then no you can't drink it, well unless you filter it first. It won't kill you once in a blue moon though. Does he drink milk at all? If yes, ask him why he can accept all the hormones in that but not water😂 he sounds very conflicted with his healthy living whilst being obese

i wonder what is so bad about drinking hard water ? Thx

OrdinaryGirl · 14/07/2025 06:33

It’s not normal to have a bowel movement 5-6 times a day - also OP you said he feels unwell and he hasn’t seen a doctor about this? My first thought is that he needs to go and get checked for bowel cancer asap.
Commonest things are commonest, but if cancer hasn’t yet been ruled out as a cause for these symptoms, getting a GP appointment should be top priority for today.

Jennyathemall · 14/07/2025 06:32

Your husband is an idiot and you’d be better off without him

Ribecx · 14/07/2025 06:31

We're all human and irrational.

We contradict ourselves in many of our behaviours.

If you fully analysed yourself, you would find areas where you are a hypocrite too.

Platypusdiver · 14/07/2025 06:31

I thought bottled water was worth for your health because of chemicals leeching from the plastic

Tell him about the microplastics in bottled water.

Lairymary · 14/07/2025 06:29

Filtered tap water. Definitely not straight from the tap as in my area it tastes like bleach. It sounds like you don't like him very much........

TheyFuckYouUpYourMamAndDad · 14/07/2025 06:27

Devilsmommy · 14/07/2025 06:03

As I've said mine is absolutely disgusting so it was more a preference

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Your post was not stating a ‘preference’ though…you backtracked pretty quickly once you were called out.

You literally say ‘If you live in a hard water, NO you CAN’T drink it unless you filter it first’.

Which is not the same at all as saying, ‘water in my area tastes foul so I prefer not to drink it’.

Two totally different statements.

SilenceOfTheTimTams · 14/07/2025 06:24

belladeli · 14/07/2025 06:18

Is it a lack of comprehension that results in these posts?

Acknowledging something factual doesn't mean anything else about from acknowledging that!

Which posts? Do you mean the ones that bang on about dangerous chemicals and then claim that there was no intention to alarm anyone?

belladeli · 14/07/2025 06:18

Is it a lack of comprehension that results in these posts?

Acknowledging something factual doesn't mean anything else about from acknowledging that!

CrownCoats · 14/07/2025 06:15

Devilsmommy · 13/07/2025 22:38

If you live in a hard water area then no you can't drink it, well unless you filter it first. It won't kill you once in a blue moon though. Does he drink milk at all? If yes, ask him why he can accept all the hormones in that but not water😂 he sounds very conflicted with his healthy living whilst being obese

Of course you can drink hard water. Humans have lived in hard water areas for millennia. Do you think they just didn’t drink? The whole of London is a hard water area and people manage just fine.

belladeli · 14/07/2025 06:12

Oh dear, tap water scaremongering. A few Guardian articles pandering to its gullible hippy dippy readership and we’re all being poisoned!

How on earth is it scaremongering to say that there are hormones & forever chemicals in the water?

As I said I don't bother to filter my water as personally I am not concerned about the presence of the two things!

SilenceOfTheTimTams · 14/07/2025 06:08

Devilsmommy · 14/07/2025 06:03

As I've said mine is absolutely disgusting so it was more a preference

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That’s not what you said in your first post though. You said:

If you live in a hard water area then no you can't drink it, well unless you filter it first. It won't kill you once in a blue moon though.

Which is obviously saying that tap water is so dangerous that you shouldn’t drink it unfiltered more than “once in a blue moon”. What a load of nonsense.

TheyFuckYouUpYourMamAndDad · 14/07/2025 06:05

@Oscarbravoromeo

Obviously whilst wearing your tin foil hat! 🙄 Ffs! 🤦‍♀️

Devilsmommy · 14/07/2025 06:03

TheyFuckYouUpYourMamAndDad · 14/07/2025 06:01

Of course you can drink it in a hard water area 🤦‍♀️Where on earth have you got this bit of disinformation from?? No need to filter it either…it’s high in calcium and magnesium and is generally thought to be even more beneficial than soft water areas!

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As I've said mine is absolutely disgusting so it was more a preference

sashh · 14/07/2025 06:02

Unless he is buying something like Perrier he is drinking tap water. I live somewhere the water doesn't taste good so I filter it.

www.gov.uk/guidance/compare-types-of-bottled-water

TheyFuckYouUpYourMamAndDad · 14/07/2025 06:01

Devilsmommy · 13/07/2025 22:38

If you live in a hard water area then no you can't drink it, well unless you filter it first. It won't kill you once in a blue moon though. Does he drink milk at all? If yes, ask him why he can accept all the hormones in that but not water😂 he sounds very conflicted with his healthy living whilst being obese

Of course you can drink it in a hard water area 🤦‍♀️Where on earth have you got this bit of disinformation from?? No need to filter it either…it’s high in calcium and magnesium and is generally thought to be even more beneficial than soft water areas!

materialgworl · 14/07/2025 05:55

off topic but do you like him? Confused

Chat2025 · 14/07/2025 05:49

Tap water is fine but personally I prefer it chilled so would put a jug or (reusable) bottle in the fridge.

I prefer filtered water as I think it tastes better so we have a water filter. Live in South East.

When I lived in France, everyone drank bottled water even though the tap water is fine to drink. This seemed a great waste to me. My French family tell me this is now changing somewhat as people look at the environmental impact.

Your DH sounds annoying, op.

Happyhappyday · 14/07/2025 05:47

ChocolateGanache · 13/07/2025 22:52

This.

Although, speaking as a Londoner I love MY my tap water but can find it tastes horrendous in other soft water areas - even if your skin & hair do feel softer 😆

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OMG, London water tastes absolutely minging 😂. I lived there for 15 years and we had to have a plumbed in fridge so it was at least very cold and filtered. But no, it certainly wasn’t harmful!

Devilsmommy · 14/07/2025 05:43

CurlewKate · 14/07/2025 05:41

Of course you can drink hard water. Don’t be silly.

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I more meant that I wouldn't because mines bloody disgusting 😅

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