To think you can drink tap water in a 1st world country!

But @Drowninginconfusion you aren't responsible for him being homeless if you chuck him out. Firstly because his behaviour is the reason he is being thrown out. Secondly because he could stay with family even if he doesn't want to and doesn't get on with them. And thirdly because he ultimately could find other solutions like getting a job, renting a room, staying with friends etc. You need to remember that you are not being nice by not making him leave, you are ultimately hurting yourself and your children and that is not a nice thing to do. He has made you so exhausted and whittled down you can't even face making him leave - imagine how much better you will feel when you can breathe and have space in your own house?

The water sounds like the least of your worries

It's fine and safe as its heavily regulated in the UK.

However ....he's not altogether wrong about the hormones as that's been proven. There's also the issue of forever chemicals, lead in the pipes depending on the age of your home and believe it or not a link with lots of cancers from bracken where it grows near the rivers and contaminates water sources and even milk.

Who knew bracken ferns cause cancer? My plants went straight in the bin lol.

I've been drinking water in hard-water areas all my life. And here I am.

I was under the impression that Trump goes in for the sort of crackpot health nonsense that you do.

Well it's his body he can put what he wants in it so long as he is prepared to go and get it and pay for it.

No, not all water in first world countries is treated and maintained to the same standards. Some is very pure (I think maybe places like Norway) and probably hardly needs to be treated at all. It doesn't have the chlorine taste UK water has. I've actually drunk from streams in Norway, albeit from ones very high up. I wouldn't even consider that in the UK.

Some is treated with lots of chlorine, fluoride, amines I think. I have had tap water from the south of the US that tastes very sulphurous.

He sounds a bit insufferable though with his hypocrisy.

Water aside Op, you clearly despise your oh and most of the post consisted of you deriding him. Why don't you do you BOTH a favour and just split up? Sounds like you would both be happier doing your own thing.

If I can be straight with you. I only see unhealthy fat people or processed food eaters buy those 20 plus packets of water at the supermarket.

It’s never healthy people.

Only drinks bottled water, but smacks out chicken and chips.

@Drowninginconfusion massive squishes. You and your children deserve better.

you deserve a home without his presence and the atmosphere he brings.

It is sad he can’t go to his family etc but no doubt that is a situation if his own making.

He is an adult and can figure out how to rent his own place.

c’mon OP now is the time to make a plan for freedom. Or face another 5/10/20 years of this as he won’t get better. And as his health worsens and his health conspiracy and dad’s deepen… retirement loom… you’ll end up his carer…

he’s sucking the life out of you.

Well, that's total bollocks.

Hard water is perfectly safe to drink, and actually can be better for you because of the extra minerals.

Plus well over half the UK is in a hard or very hard water area. Pretty much all of England actually.

I love it when people come online and spout total garbage. At least do a little google first?

No matter what your tap water is like, your OH sounds insufferable and I wish you luck in sorting your life out, sounds like you will be exponentially happier without him. You sound like a good parent, he less so as he is setting a terrible example to your children. Glad you have your sister on side, it really helps to be able to talk through your problems and let off some steam.

You deserve better than this, you really do. And your kids!

He isn't an evil irredeemable human just because you don't want to have a relationship with him. There's another thread running where a woman's partner is so stingy he's saying he should pay less if she eats leftovers or a extra packet of crisps. She appears to be reluctant to leave in case that means she's a gold digger. People (mostly women but not always) do often seem to be reluctant to remove themselves from a bad situation because they feel that staying in it proves they're nice. Respectfully, and as someone who understands the psychology of what he's doing, it's horseshit!

He's an adult. I don't think you've said anything to indicate he is a SAHD or something that means he contributes equally in a non financial way that makes him not financially independent. Clearly the issues run much deeper but you don't have to shackle yourself to this forever just because he'd need to look after himself.

When I lived in London, I never drank it because it was disgusting. I’m in the NE now and it’s fine.

MsDDxx

They love it! (Hate it personally too!)

I had a holiday in Scotland bought bottled water, didn't have ice in drinks, got very unwell and lady in guest house casualty said lots of guests get ill and she believes it's the water from their taps and she uses it in making tea to go with the breakfast each morning. We were speechless if she knew it was making guests so violently ill why not use bottled water for them and charge a few pounds more.

@Oscarbravoromeo Your comment is rude and glib. You suggest that somebody can't share an option unless they have personally undertaken nationwide sampling.

No, I suggest they shouldn't claim to have done extensive research unless they have. Reading articles written by others is not extensive research.

It seems you've done some desk research, but it's pointless to say so without detailing what you found and providing your sources.

Why? Sparkling is awful.

When I was at college, half a century ago, I had to study the way water was purified where I lived. They wanted a detailed piece about settling tanks and such. What they got was, the water company pumped it up from a deep well in the chalk to the top of the hill, wafted a small amount of chlorine by it, put it in a closed reservoir from which it was gravity fed to the town. I shouldn't think the hormones and the plastics have found their way though the chalk yet. And most of my life, except at college, I've been imbibing hard water, mostly ground water, not recycled stuff. Seem to be doing all right.

It's been known for a long time that bottled water from plastic bottles contain micro-plastics. An old BBC article saying just that - News link
He needs to go to the doctor about his bowels, it could be a number of things, including gluten or worse colon cancer.

Don’t be ridiculous- I live in one of the hardest water areas and I’ve drunk it for 43 years - I’m not scaled up inside 😂😂😂😂😂

I don’t know, it depends. I’ve always lived in a hard water area and prefer the water, but I really don’t know what the water company were about near where my Nan lived. It genuinely was undrinkable - like pool water. We got her a Brita jug.

This man is an absolute plum.

I don’t know op for peace maybe just don’t discuss it, my dh is much much healthier than me and we’ve both learnt to just accept we’re both different (in this way at least, lots of other problems to deal with🙈😅)