Retired in laws won’t come pick up dog before my due date

Either you’re taking the piss, or you know your staffy is a nightmare and don’t trust it, in which case, rehome

I wondered if the dog is problematic

It’s not about ‘fur babies’ or whatever else certain posters have implied.

it’s about managing the introduction of a baby in the best manner to keep everyone calm & happy.

unless the dog has spent time with in-laws previously (which for all I know it might have done) sending it away and then bringing it back will create disruption and anxiety which will make it more difficult to integrate.

why make life harder?
Get a dog walker & sitter in now so you’ve established a nice routine that will give you a bit of freedom when you are knackered.

i had an August baby (a long time ago) - you are going to have a lovely summer.

9 days before your due date?
My first was born at 41+3. I text my dad to go round in the morning (he’s local admittedly) and take doggo for a walk and give him breakfast. Dad offered to take dog home with him but I said no thanks as wanted dog to not feel left out - he was a well behaved lovely dog however.

you could be asking your in laws to have your dog for 9 days, plus two weeks overdue potentially, plus two weeks after.

Either you’re taking the piss, or you know your staffy is a nightmare and don’t trust it, in which case, rehome

in short, YABU.

Yabu

Exactly that. Keep the dog in his own home, and keep the baby separate for a while. Stop being ridiculous. What do you think everyone else does?

Even in the extremely unlikely time window that you went into labour exactly the second your partner left chances are he would be back in time. 9 days out many people's partners are still at work etc as baby could be up to 2 weeks late.
How will the dog come back are you expecting in laws to make the journey then? You say it will just be you two when the dog and baby meet are the in laws going to be allowed in to meet their grandchild? I'm not a dog person but I've never known anyone send a dog away to be unsettled living with someone else before returning home to a baby in their space....

Another dog owner that shouldn’t have a dog!

You are being over dramatic to say the least and please rethink the plan for your poor dog. Your home is the dogs home and you want to turf it out? I had a German Sjepherd when I bought both of my babies home and it never occurred to me not to have him there - we got into a routine and he was brilliant with them. I enjoyed my dog walks with pram and on our own for a breather from baby!

This is the most entitled thing I’ve read on here in a long time!

Jesus wept. YABU. I can’t believe you actually expect your in laws to do this.

As a FTM who is currently 9 days overdue with a 13 year old staffy at home...YABU 😅

I didn't expect to go this far over. Its unlikely youll go into labour exactly 9 days nefore your due date. Plus I wouldn't want to send my dog away from her home. We will all learn to settle in together.

I assume you've never owned a dog before. You don't send it away for a month to reintroduce it to its home with a new member of the pack.
Idocy at its finest.
Also yabu

The dog will understand if you walk in the house with a new baby after a day or two in hospital. He will be confused if he’s sent away for weeks, then has to spend four and half hours in a car then comes home to find this new crying baby.

You are over complicating things massively.

I am of different generation - we had a dog before having my son. It would not have crossed my my mind to ship the dog off pre baby. In order to integrate the dog with the baby - we kept the dogs regime the same. The dog had the same walks and had the same amount of fuss. For me it was quite a nice break post birth to take the dog for a walk. We had no problems with the dog and the baby.

As others have said, it seems an unreasonable ask for your in laws to do that round trip, and entirely reasonable for your DH to meet them half way so far ahead of your due date. But again, as others say, obviously you know your dog best, but this doesn’t sound like the best idea in general. If you send the dog away they are going to come back unsettled as it is, nevermind a new baby. In my experience it’s best to settle into family life straight away, introduce the dog carefully as soon as you get home and make her feel part of it so she can bond, rather than rejected.

You are asking way too much of the in-laws. There’s helping out and then there is being taken for mugs. Just leave the dog at home, you don’t need to send it away for two weeks.

Agree with this! Do the right thing by your dog and just leave him home and give him some credit. Imagine being sent away from your home and arriving back after missing your family to find there’s a new family member. Just leave the dog in his home, he’ll adapt just fine. You’ll just unsettle him.

The chances of you having a baby 9 days early, in the 4 hours your DP is driving, are so small as not to be worth worrying about.

I assume you've never owned a dog before. You don't send it away for a month to reintroduce it to its home with a new member of the pack.
Idocy at its finest.
Also yabu

Not just being unreasonable to ask them to get the dog, but also to send your dog aways for such a long time! Poor thing.

YABVU but it’s likely hormones! It’s crazy you expect them to do this for you!