MIL made me feel unwelcome.

Are you mad? You never knew anyone to tandem feed?

Your comment was ill-informed as the child isn't 'tiny'.

There are no studies that reliably demonstrate that supplementary breastfeeding an 18 month old causes miscarriage.

If there are, do please share.

I don't like the sound of the OP either, but no need to use bad science here.

@PeapodMcgeeTheres no need for childish name calling and personal attacks! A quick google will show you that what I’ve said is correct. Grow up!

Completely accept what you are saying here and I don’t disagree with you at all. Problem is that people don’t see that and just as all the PP here are judging on the initial circs given of the evening, likely so is your MIL - people don’t see intricacies of a relationship behind doors just what they see in public and people will always be protective of their own. MIL is just being protective of her daughter. It’s not a night out down the pub with your mates to stay out, it’s a family holiday and they want to see you looking after your family unit.

Sounds like you had the misfortune to holiday with a bunch of MN man-haters, who can’t overlook their hatred of men to consider that your wife is perfectly capable of independently making a decision to leave you at a BBQ (hardly a party!) and go back by herself, without you having coerced / bullied her into doing so.

(And you’ve come to totally the wrong place for advice, basically the stock answer here is: whatever a man does is wrong).

Your baby is still tiny enough to be breast fed and she’s pregnant already? Poor woman.
Also, she shouldn’t be breastfeeding whilst pregnant, it can bring on a miscarriage

I don’t understand why you weren’t going back with DW?

I think she sounds a rude, condescending bitch, I'd of done exactly what you did and left, I'd of also called her out on it too.
Sneaky spiteful old woman

Dear god mate you posted this in this site
your like a lamb to the slaughter
you never were going to come out of this good 😀

Yeah, as @BeachPossum and many since have said: you looked like a tool OP. A hot, pregnant wife should not be left to drive a hour and put the toddler to bed while her husband stays out drinking with her family. You’re supposed to be a team!

Yeah we do loads separately. We work separately, have separate friends, go on separate weekends away, separate annual holidays even (him with his friends and me with mine). But nice try.
If we were on a family holiday together, with our children, he would come back with me, help put the child to bed and we’d chill together for the evening, rather than carry on drinking with my parents when he’d been drinking with them all day.

They had spent all day together. Do you two not do anything separately? That’s really unhealthy

How does he get involved with breastfeeding a baby? Do tell.

he has explained, she does the night time routine as she breastfeeds baby and he does the morning routine. Do you expect her to hover around when he’s doing the morning routine instead of sleeping in?

I think everyone has hit the nail on the head - the family were probably surprised you weren’t going back with your wife to help her with bedtime etc, especially as she’s pregnant.

MIL shouldn’t have made the comment that she made though.

Do you normally struggle with social cues and reading people? It's obvious your in-laws see you as someone they spend time with only when with their daughter. They were also judging you for not going home with your pregnant wife and assuming you'd be welcome to cram into their car with them.

The remark you made about 'not being welcome' was childish and petulant.

They were probably surprised that you wanted to stay and presumably carry on drinking instead of going home to help your pregnant wife. If this is not all made up of course!

Interesting that you can't get involved with babies bedtime, pregnant wife breastfeeding and all that but in the next breath you're Dad/husband of the year as you 'help out' with baby breakfast? Do you lactate in the morning?

you really shouldn’t have made the comment you did - it’s a celebratory event for your in laws - you should have held your tongue even if you were offended.

In this scenario my husband would have come with me because he’d rather come and spend the time with me and his child than carry on drinking with his in laws. Nothing to do with tambourines or moral support.

Why? She was driving anyway as she was the one not drinking. She is breastfeeding so he couldn’t do much anyway. Between them he does the mornings she does the evenings

Do you think he should have gone along for moral support and to bang a tambourine ? Does she get up in the morning to give him moral support when he does the morning routine?

people care so weird.

Cheerio Darling, hope you find your way back to the holiday cottage!! Fingers crossed you don’t break down in this sweltering heat whilst pregnant and with a baby! Anyway best of luck, I’m getting back on the Pimms and about to whip old Jonty at the Croquet! All the best old girl!!!

If I were in your wife’s shoes I would’ve expected my husband to come home with me, especially as she’s pregnant. MIL probably thought it was odd that you were staying.

But your question isnt about your wife… it’s about your MIL.

And it looks like she wasn’t happy tharnyou didn’t go back with your pregnant wife and toddler.

Not much of a mystery really…

Even more reason to go back with her. Pregnant, driving an hour with a baby back to a holiday cottage. Did she know the way? Is she familiar with the roads? Your MIL thought ‘What? So your staying here whilst my pregnant daughter drives home to breastfeed the baby and put them to sleep, whilst you have a few more beers. Well as long as you’re alright!!’

Fuck me.