Dd(10) uninvited from party

Well done for putting your daughter first and letting her enjoy a get together with her friends when she's been excluded. I can't understand why others would put a bully above their own child's feelings. It's not like you are doing the get together on the same day, I can't understand the issue at all.

We have a girl like this in my daughters class, its a nightmare as it's such a lovely class otherwise.

I hope your daughter is having a great time with her friends.

If your DD is upset and a party would help then go for it

hope your daughter had THE BEST party !

I would have done it too OP!

It's not really the lttle girls fault, her mom should speak too her about being spiteful it's learned behaviour obviously off the mother who is endorsing her daughter too act that way ! personally I'd throw my daughter a pool party but invite the girl too show mother your not petty or spiteful and maybe the girl will learn a valuable lesson off you and your daughter about being kind.

I’d have a party too. Hope you’re DD had a great time x

I'd do exactly what you've done! Hope your dd has the best time.

Another hoping DD had a great time. Too many are frightened to call out bullying. Well done for making a stand

Throw the party! You’ve got a swimming pool! Your daughters aura points are gonna be sky high 😂

Hope the party went well and your DD had an amazing time!

You did the right thing giving your DD the same experience as the others without inviting the bully!!

I hope your daughter enjoyed her leavers party with her friends. Well done mum 👏🏻 I would have done exactly the same. Your dd knows you have her back and that mean girls dont win.

Love it golden! The girls who at primary used to leave dd out are still in their fixed all girl friendship group having sleepovers at 16 and are dying to be invited to the glamorous parties dd now goes to with her fun mixed cool crowd. Do enjoy abit of karma.

Hope you the party goes well and your daughter and her friends have a great time. I don't see anything wrong with what you're doing.

I’m all for this. I threw my 15 year old daughter a party on valentines day because a handful of her group of friends had planned a galentines sleepover and not invited her and a couple of others and then tried to keep it a secret (while simultaneously talking about it non stop 🙄). I let DD invite a load of her friends (girls and boys) and she said to the others sorry I know you can’t make it cos of the sleepover. They were annoyed because house parties are very few and far between in their circle as none of us particularly want to give up our house for a loud group of teens.

Sometimes petty makes you feel better 🤷 .

I actually disagree, as you will be doing the same thing back to this girl. Be the better person (it’s very hard) but hold your head high and ignore them

I agree with you 100% let your daughter have an amazing party. Show her that you will show up for her and have her best interests at heart. She will always remember how you had her back and that’s the most important thing.

She’s is throwing it on a different day.

I just feel like your self esteem doesn't have to depend on other people's validation.

So you were excluded from a party, that says more about them than it does about you.

Make a mental note that this child is a nob that you don't want to be involved with and move on.

I don't think taking other people down is what a healthy person does, a healthy person focuses on protecting themselves not attacking others.

I think retaliating is the opposite of strong. I think it's is weak, it shows that your self esteem is fragile, that you need to hurt others to feel good about yourself. I think a strong reaction would be to not invite them to future things that you hold and throw your own leaving party on a different day. Don't let her take a away a leaving party from your daughter by throwing your own and show that you don't accept her mean behaviour by not inviting her to it.

If it doesn't clash, I would do it.
And girls aren't 'boy mad' at 10 at all. Nonsense. Yes, there may be a bit of low-level fancying but this girl/mum is being ridiculous.

I recall that there's an overlap. The daughter is friends with the other girls in the class - there's only a small number - and a few of the boys. Some posters have expressed concern over the fact that the other girl will be the only girl not to be invited, but that's almost inevitable given that boys are in the majority in the class.

i Wonder if they’re inviting the same people that’ll attend bully girl party

Agree you cant ask the bully op.

That would be wet.

But I think there is a middle ground between being a "wet wipe" and stooping to the same level of behaviour. The other girls mum probably thought she was teaching her dd to be strong and just get exactly what she wants.

ETA ...when actually she was just letting her dd be a twat.

I remember this did happen at my children’s junior school and I know it’s normal development for some kids (it’s usually innocent ‘liking’ or pretend ‘going out with’) but what made me cringe myself inside out were the mothers that encouraged it with cutesy dates and pictures on Facebook.

What she said!!!!🙌🙌

Wow.... this is what girls this age (10) are like??!!! with boys????!!! Mines not!!!. Why on earth has the mother of this 10 year old let this happen. My daughter is 10 and there is no way I would let her behave like this. And certainly not over a boy. I mean I can't believe it really what utter shit these stupid people are perpetuating.

#behind

But, only if you are the OP and her upset daughter, not the bully or the bully's mum.

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