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Dd(10) uninvited from party

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freddiewini · 13/07/2025 18:56

Dd (10) was invited to a girl in her classes leavers party after their last day. She’s not best friends with this girl, just friends but she was excited. All the girls invited( only 8 in total ) some of the boys.

She has now been uninvited because the boy the girl fancies told his friends he fancies dd. Dd doesn’t even like this boy or care about boys in general (thank god) But the girl doesn’t want dd at her party because he will be there. Dd has since been called names and been made fun of by this girl at school.

Her mums answer when I queried was just sorry but you know what girls that age are like when it comes to boys.

I would be unreasonable to let dd have her own party here wouldnt I? Dds best friends mum is encouraging me to. We have more room and a swimming pool and I know dd is generally more liked, girl has history of being mean and upsetting people.
What if we have it this weekend, (they breakup Tuesday after) inviting the other girls but obviously not the one who’s been mean to her? I

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murasaki · 13/07/2025 19:13

Another vote for do it.

alcoholnightmare · 13/07/2025 19:12

Do it. And get takeaway pizzas delivered!

SordidSplendour · 13/07/2025 19:12

Absolutely do. This other girl is getting set up to be a man centered woman which is tragic.

MsJemimaPuddleDuck · 13/07/2025 19:12

freddiewini · 13/07/2025 19:10

Oh wow, I was expecting it to be a resounding no.

I really really want to, I don’t want dd to be upset and excluded but I don’t know if I can let her be the mean girl excluding someone else and making them upset

Well… that girl doesnt care about your daughter so why should you?

Disturbia81 · 13/07/2025 19:11

In this case I say go for it. Petty is usually undignified but DD has been shittily uninvited for a reason that isn’t her fault, and is pathetic. It’ll be a good lesson.

freddiewini · 13/07/2025 19:10

Oh wow, I was expecting it to be a resounding no.

I really really want to, I don’t want dd to be upset and excluded but I don’t know if I can let her be the mean girl excluding someone else and making them upset

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BoredZelda · 13/07/2025 19:10

GrannyGoggles · 13/07/2025 19:07

Don’t. Go high, not low

How does that help her daughter?

BoredZelda · 13/07/2025 19:09

Bigger, better party for sure. Inconspicuously so. I’d go full on petty with this one and if the mother complains “well, you know what girls are like with parties nowadays”

And raise the name calling with the school.

GrannyGoggles · 13/07/2025 19:07

Don’t. Go high, not low

Overthebow · 13/07/2025 19:07

Absolutely go ahead and do it.

ncduetooutingsituation · 13/07/2025 19:06

Yes. Do it!

MsJemimaPuddleDuck · 13/07/2025 19:06

Do it. Your teaching the girl & her mother a valuable lesson here that its not nice to be mean. Her mother obviously isnt teaching her.

KeepCalmAndPretendItIsOnTheLessonPlan · 13/07/2025 19:04

I think that would come under reaping what you sow and might be a decent lesson to both the girl and her mum.
I'd also prepare yourself for a text message from said mum, at which point you shorten your reply to: Sorry, I'm sure you know what girls that age are like when it comes to being hurt and humiliated in class.
As an aside, it is damned scary how many young girls are seeking validation from boys so early. I think the modern parlance is thirsty but good God, TikToks should be banned.

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