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Exhausted and DH has invited child over for a playdate

36 replies

BubbleGumSplit · 13/07/2025 18:31

Ive spent the weekend away at a brownie camp with DD. During the night there were some very upset home sick children and an unwell child which I had to get up to help with and therefore I had very little sleep. I then had to be up and lively all day with the kids of course. So long story short Ive come home exhausted. Only to find that my DH has organised a play date here for my youngest child so there's 2 very excited kids running about when all I want is quiet and rest. I suggested DH take them out for a walk for a while because Ive totally burnt out and hes said hes too busy. AIBU to think hes being a bit selfish here. He knew how tired I was. I had told him on the phone.

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ThejoyofNC · 13/07/2025 18:39

Busy doing what? Surely if he arranged it then he's watching them?

Unless it was a last minute plan then it would have been a bit crap cancel it just because you're tired. He should have just agreed to take them out/keep the noise away from you so you can rest.

redskydelight · 13/07/2025 18:38

I agree just have a bath and go to bed. Presumably your youngest would be there anyway, so the house wouldn't be "quiet"?

doneandone · 13/07/2025 18:37

But if he arranged the play date then he needs to be present for it. Take yourself off for a bath and some chill time and leave him to deal with it all.

BCBird · 13/07/2025 18:37

He invited them. He should run the show

Dweetfidilove · 13/07/2025 18:37

All you need to do is take yourself off for a nice rest and leave him to it.

SixteenClovesOfGarlic · 13/07/2025 18:37

Is he not supervising them? He needs to be un-busy and deal with his choice to host a guest.

Givenupshopping · 13/07/2025 18:37

MaryTheTurtle · 13/07/2025 18:35

Why should the other DC miss out because you’re tired

The DC shouldn't miss out, but the OP's DH arranged the play date, so he should take responsibility for the children involved.

HarryVanderspeigle · 13/07/2025 18:36

Time to take to your sick bed and leave them to it. On the plus side, your younger child has inbuilt entertainment.

Moonnstars · 13/07/2025 18:35

Surely if he organised the playdate he should be the one entertaining the children.

MaryTheTurtle · 13/07/2025 18:35

Why should the other DC miss out because you’re tired

Sminty2 · 13/07/2025 18:34

Just have a lovely long bath and go to bed. His invitation, his responsibility. You’ve done enough.