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Measles vaccination.

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Slimagain · 13/07/2025 17:17

Just heard the tragic news from Alder Hay children’s hospital . This post is not about this specific heartbreaking case as none of us no the reason for none vaccination. There are very specific circumstances where it is not advised or should be delayed .. (immunosuppressant, thrombocytopenia, allergy to Gelatine etc) .. but given the fact that MOST children do not fall into that category. What on earth reason can parents be thinking if not vaccinating against this serious, life threatening disease .. ? I worked in a developing country in the 90s with MSF.. administering this life saving vaccine. Each camp we worked in had a 100% take up from those children clinically advised to have it. Do we really need to see hundreds of kids suffer deafness, brain damage and death before parents stop believing nonsense on SM ..

Our average uptake is at a three year low for first dose . 88.9%. Way below the WHO target of 95%. The worst area is London at 82%. why ?

AIBU - I don’t want my child vaccinated
YANBU - Of course I do./Have

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Whyhaveibeencutoutofmamsnot · 15/03/2026 08:12

Oxo01 · 14/03/2026 23:09

I agree with you. But just to add they would have to take time off work if the child sadly died due to measles.

The first MMR was originally at 15-16 months but was changed to 12 months so it came under most people's maternity leave.
Although some clinics make it difficult by having vaccine sessions only on one afternoon per week.

Oxo01 · 14/03/2026 23:09

urghhh47 · 14/07/2025 18:47

Honestly I think the 2 main problems are non English speaking communities not understanding the schedule and secondly parents having to take time off work to take a child to be vaccinated. Not all parents can easily miss work then add in difficulties getting an appointment in the first place. I believe that the bringing forward of the 2nd MMR dose to 18months old will help uptake. It's also less traumatic for an 18 month old than a 3 yr old.

I agree with you. But just to add they would have to take time off work if the child sadly died due to measles.

pointythings · 14/03/2026 22:19

Poohbear333 · 14/03/2026 22:12

Wow, to be so knowledgeable about how things are documented. It must be true then.

Well, you can choose to believe me or not. I've got 25 years in the NHS, including 12 years in research management. You've got conspiracy theories.

Poohbear333 · 14/03/2026 22:12

Wow, to be so knowledgeable about how things are documented. It must be true then.

pointythings · 14/03/2026 21:53

Funny. So do I. Years in health research, we also used the yellow card system to report adverse reactions.

Poohbear333 · 14/03/2026 21:06

I just know how professionals document.

pointythings · 14/03/2026 20:49

Poohbear333 · 14/03/2026 20:41

Of course they are, but not due to the vaccine . Don’t be silly to believe everything that is documented by ‘professionals’

Or you could try not to believe in conspiracy theories...

Abd80 · 14/03/2026 20:43

Some stupid parents actually believe they know better than the actual WORLD Health Organisation. Very worrying.

Poohbear333 · 14/03/2026 20:41

Of course they are, but not due to the vaccine . Don’t be silly to believe everything that is documented by ‘professionals’

pointythings · 14/03/2026 20:38

Poohbear333 · 14/03/2026 20:26

is anything ever documented about the deaths caused by vaccinations?? NO. That’s not news it is!!

Don't be silly. Adverse vaccine reactions are documented and recorded.

Poohbear333 · 14/03/2026 20:26

is anything ever documented about the deaths caused by vaccinations?? NO. That’s not news it is!!

Gothamcity · 03/08/2025 18:13

It's when parents say they chose not to vaccinate due to the (much debunked) "link" with autism. I always want to respond, "would you rather an autistic child or a dead one?" There's no point in trying to argue that their beliefs into what the vaccine can cause, isn't true, so I feel this is the best response. And it's funny how when there's a local outbreak, the parents who refused the vaccine all suddenly want it. Obviously just relying on herd immunity when it suits them, not realising that herd immunity doesn't work when more and more people take up the same unfactual views as them. And the poor children who's parents refuse to protect them, and the ones who can't have the vaccines for whatever reason, are the ones that suffer. I believe it should be mandatory if you want to enrol your children into education. Same as kenneling a dog. The rules are simple, either play by them or don't, but if you don't, you don't get to put others at risk.

jetlag92 · 03/08/2025 18:06

There's a good reason @Poohbear333 hasn't come back to this thread.

My son contracted measles a couple of months after his first MMR (as one doesn't always confer complete protection) he was very unwell for a couple of weeks, but now has an amblyopic (lazy) eye.

ApiratesaysYarrr · 03/08/2025 17:57

Poohbear333 · 14/07/2025 18:30

From a number of studies

  • “vaccines contain harmful ingredients such as aluminium, mercury formaldehyde, human Fetal cells, dna, animal proteins & dna, glyphosate, polysorbsyes, other carcinogens, neurotoxins and toxins. When injected it bypasses the body’s natural defence system and becomes far more potent. Formaldehyde has been banned from injectables in most European countries but not in the uk. Any level of Aluminium is linked to Alzheimer’s, seizures, dementia, sids and cancer. It also accumulates in the brain. “ please ask your gp or HV what the ingredients are within the vaccine that you are injecting into your child, you may be surprised at the response. Do the research. Make your decision based on informed consent, not from sm hype.

You say that these studies are from child psychology, legal documents etc, but they are stating incorrect facts.

"any level of aluminium" - aluminum is found in many foodstuffs like tea, herbs and cereals. The level of aluminium in our bodies is low but not zero

Mercury (or more correctly thiomersal) has not been a constituent of vaccines for 20 years - thiomersal was removed from vaccines (at least in the UK) by 2005, and this was considered to be a precautionary measure aimed at reducing lifetime exposure to mercury, rather than because of evidence of harm). A meta analysis of vaccine data of over 1 million children https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/24814559/ did not find any link between thiomersal and autism.

A study in Finland carried out over 14 years with 1.8 million children participating did not show evidence of a link between MMR and autism (Pediatric Infectious Disease Journal 2000;19:1127-34) - and there are many other large studies that show this as well.

Your comment that injecting "bypasses the body's natural defence system" is not really correct either - injecting bypasses our skin and gut, which have their own defences, but our body and blood is literally teeming with immune defences, which is why it's fortunately rare that a minor scratch or graze (which also then allows germs to bypass the skin) turns into serious infection.

Vaccines are not associated with autism: an evidence-based meta-analysis of case-control and cohort studies - PubMed

There has been enormous debate regarding the possibility of a link between childhood vaccinations and the subsequent development of autism. This has in recent times become a major public health issue with vaccine preventable diseases increasing in the...

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/24814559/

McKiek · 03/08/2025 16:32

Not everyone is anti-vax. I think some people really find it hard to organise the vaccinations. I struggled to get my youngest her booster, because it had to be done by a nurse at our surgery and she only worked two mornings a week. They were difficult days for us with work, nursery etc. This is in the middle of a big city. We got it done, but I really believe we need to make it easier for people.

MooseBeTimeForSnow · 03/08/2025 16:26

I’ve just been looking at the stats here in Alberta as we currently have close to 1600 confirmed cases across the province. Take up is roughly 71%, but as low as 24% in some areas in the south.

Silentwitless · 03/08/2025 15:49

Everyone should just download the WHO data sheet, adjust all the published statistics into comparable data and then it just becomes a maths decision rather than an emotional one. No name calling, no calling the other 'side' stupid, when everyone is just trying to do the best thing for their kids.

Aimtodobetter · 16/07/2025 18:06

DameEdnaAverage2 · 15/07/2025 10:28

I understand this logic, I really do but fear is the greatest judgement-clouder! It was a friend's child and was proven to be the vaccine (they had a large payout) and equal to a worse case scenario of measles.

I am desperately trying to rationalise that this does not mean my child will be injured but then I think "what if?" and I am back to square one. It also doesn't help that my partner with a science PhD is also reticent (for the same reasons as myself) but is open to do whatever to keep our son safe. I will book him in today and what will be will be - I can't let my fear dictate this.

Well done for fighting the fear - i can understand it but it really isn’t matched by the balance of evidence which is extraordinarily on the side of these vaccinations. I personally do think it’s sometimes unhelpful that medical professionals are now so “it’s your choice” when they should be making it clearer which choices are ones where the evidence is overwhelmingly on one side. I remember feeling infuriated when my kids were born that the midwives weren’t more emphatic about the importance of the vitamin k injection (I knew how important it was and so had it for both of them but it almost felt like I was having to chase them for it).

LookingAtMyBhunas · 16/07/2025 17:43

Teapot13 · 15/07/2025 11:22

One thing that won’t change anti-vaxxer’s minds is calling them stupid.

i am 100% pro-vaccine—mine have always had the full schedule plus private (chickenpox) when we lived in UK. But people are distrustful of Big Pharma, which actually is very understandable. That’s what needs to be addressed and it’s not clear how.

It may be understandable in other countries with private healthcare and insurance, it's much less understandable in the UK.

GiveDogBone · 15/07/2025 18:46

Poohbear333 · 14/07/2025 23:40

What you mean, like how the Covid vaccine eradicated Covid.

You idiot, just because the Covid vaccine hasn’t eradicated Covid (in the same way the flu vaccine has not eradicated flu) doesn’t mean that (i) it’s not beneficial for the vulnerable to have both or either vaccines, or (ii) that other vaccines for different diseases have not eliminated, or effectively eliminated those disease.

God you’re a moron.

banananas1999 · 15/07/2025 17:28

Slimagain · 13/07/2025 17:17

Just heard the tragic news from Alder Hay children’s hospital . This post is not about this specific heartbreaking case as none of us no the reason for none vaccination. There are very specific circumstances where it is not advised or should be delayed .. (immunosuppressant, thrombocytopenia, allergy to Gelatine etc) .. but given the fact that MOST children do not fall into that category. What on earth reason can parents be thinking if not vaccinating against this serious, life threatening disease .. ? I worked in a developing country in the 90s with MSF.. administering this life saving vaccine. Each camp we worked in had a 100% take up from those children clinically advised to have it. Do we really need to see hundreds of kids suffer deafness, brain damage and death before parents stop believing nonsense on SM ..

Our average uptake is at a three year low for first dose . 88.9%. Way below the WHO target of 95%. The worst area is London at 82%. why ?

AIBU - I don’t want my child vaccinated
YANBU - Of course I do./Have

Measles vaccine antibodies lasts for about 10 years, if yours was more than a decade ago (which is the case for most adults)- you too are unvaccinated. “A 2019 Italian study estimated that circulating anti-measles IgG antibodies decrease 10–15 years after the second dose of MMR” .

MugsyBalonz · 15/07/2025 17:00

One of the most insidious things about contracting measles is that it makes your immune system 'forget' how to fight off infections, even ones you've already encountered, and this immune amnesia can last several years. So not only are you taking on all the risks associated with measles, you're also vastly increasing your chances of catching multiple other illnesses and all the risks associated with each of those too.

Karatema · 15/07/2025 15:27

I “lectured” both my DC to ensure their DC had the MMR because my DH’s uncle lost both his DS to measles. Neither of their DP recovered from the losses. As soon as my eldest was born, the uncle was on my case to ensure my DS had all his vaccines. Until I met him I, mistakenly, thought measles was like chickenpox, not that serious!

SharpLily · 15/07/2025 14:18

DameEdnaAverage2 · 15/07/2025 10:28

I understand this logic, I really do but fear is the greatest judgement-clouder! It was a friend's child and was proven to be the vaccine (they had a large payout) and equal to a worse case scenario of measles.

I am desperately trying to rationalise that this does not mean my child will be injured but then I think "what if?" and I am back to square one. It also doesn't help that my partner with a science PhD is also reticent (for the same reasons as myself) but is open to do whatever to keep our son safe. I will book him in today and what will be will be - I can't let my fear dictate this.

Vaccine injury exists, I don't think anyone is trying to deny that. However the point is that serious, life changing reactions to vaccines (I'm not talking about a snotty nose for a few days) are far, far less likely to happen than the life changing results of even a fairly mild case of measles (I had a mild case, the side effects are for my whole life). You so have to do a risk/benefit analysis but the numbers are overwhelmingly in favour of vaccinating.

TizerorFizz · 15/07/2025 14:11

@Cynic17 That’s totally my view. They don’t see child deaths and don’t understand the stats on these illnesses either. Parents were so grateful for vaccinations decades ago when so many dc did die. Now we think it’s someone else's dc.

Liverpool at 73% is awful and I would be wondering what the NHS is doing about it. I believe in Australia you cannot start school without the required vaccinations. We should do that here because non vaccination in large numbers means no vaccination at all for everyone. We need to get a grip.