To think overnights at their dads will have to stop soon?

I wouldn’t be allowing overnights without their own beds.

why should they have to share - their dad isn’t forced to share with someone else so why is it ok for his children

id end overnights and tell him to get the beds or take you to court

That doesnt mean that SS shouldn't be asked to look at this.

He could bed share with the eldest and the youngest takes the camp bed. It is up to the children. Also childcare needs will change when your eldest is a teen and more self sufficient. So I wouldn't be worrying.

My brothers shared a double bed until one moved out at age 23, I don’t see a problem until your DS don’t want to do this anymore.

They really wont.

I think they should have their own beds. You don't say how far away their dad lives, which if nearby does mean one or both could come home at night if it becomes unreasonable or unworkable.

Ffs,social service's,have better things to be doing with their time then telling off a dad for not having separate beds.

Yes, if one or both children are uncomfortable with the living/sleeping arrangement then their father needs to be told they need separate beds.
Tbh its not long for the children to make their own choice and vote with their feet , but being made to share beds is not appropriate at their ages.

What’s the real reason you want to stop overnights op?

If they are both boys and he's happy to give up his double bed I think you should leave them to it. When he is parenting it's not for you to decide what happens at his place.

As long as its a double bed he can buy the boys sleeping bags if they are sleeping on the same bed.

Its only eow.
I often used to sleep in my nans bed when I stayed with her on a weekend or slept on the sofa

For goodness sake. Emissions ???? Social services?????

do you really think SS will be interested when there are children in the UK without a bed, no food and dirty clothes.

You need to step back. They don’t need their own beds. My two slept on airbeds at their dads for years. Now they are strapping young men with a lovely relationship with their dad.

dont interfere.

The 10yr old will start puberty soon and will have night time emissions, they do need separate beds, not necessarily separate rooms but yes.
I would talk to social services about this, they could do an assessment on the accommodations provided by their father and make recommendations for him to follow.

It’s not ideal but I think you’re being unrealistic if you really think it’s a deal breaker.

Such nonsense, they’re both boys, they're young and sharing the same room doesn’t mean they can’t get changed separately.

Your only concern should be whether you are negatively influencing your children on the matter (youngest, especially from what you have written). Leave them be and try not to be so controlling and encourage the relationship with their father.

YABU. 2 brothers sharing a bed every other weekend isn't going to do them any harm. When I was a teen most weekends were spent at sleepovers sharing a single bed.

Yes,I often shared with my sister even though we both had our own rooms.

TBH, I really don't see that this is an issue until the kids find it a big issue at least. My two shared a bed on purpose at that age (we moved quite often, and were often in temporary flats where there was only a double bed for them to share anyway, but mainly because they were used to having someone near)

Even now, when they're both teens (similar age gap) - when we go on holiday and the hotel has a double and a single, they might share (it depends who's been annoying each other the most/what the single looks like - eg. if it's small, I'm the shortest to I take it, and they'll share, otherwise it might be me and one of them)

Mine don't generally stay over at their dad's but, I think that when they do they share a bed (despite him having a massive house) - just for comfort really - it's a strange place for them to sleep in, so they prefer to be in the same room - and he doesn't bother with a kid spare room, just has double beds.

I suspect there was more going on than just the beds in your case
There are whole families living in one room or very limited space due to being homeless they won't all.have their own bed.

While it's not ideal it's not terrible and thr relationship with his dad is more important than having perfect sleeping arrangements.

The older child says he doesn't mind so I wouldn't go blazing in stopping overnights he can tell his dad if it's a problem. It's not ideal but as long as you have no safety concerns I don't think there's much else you can do. If your younger child has problems sleeping there they can speak to dad don't quiz him with leading questions as you will know young kids can say anything

id buy a single air bedand just send them with them. One on the double, one on the single & dad on the sofa. Problem solved and would only cost £20 max.