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To wear my hair long at 40

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BreatheitAllIn · 13/07/2025 13:05

I'm sick of hearing what society deems as unacceptable after turning 40. I will cut my hair when I damn well please. Why do they get to decide? Does society tell men what they shouldn't do?

Recommendations for natural shampoos that reduce hair loss, aid hair growth, and aren't too expensive would be appreciated! I'm noticing my usual shampoos like L'Oréal Elvive etc are making my hair look flat, and not as much volume.

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BreatheitAllIn · 13/07/2025 17:04

TroysMammy · 13/07/2025 16:48

I'm 57 and up until 2 months ago my straight hair was long, past my bra strap. I only cut it to a bob because 1) I was fed up with it 2) I'm going grey and my hair is fine 3) I wanted my monies worth of the £38 wash, cut and blow dry. Previously I paid that for for a 1 - 2 inch trim.

I know, it's extortionate isn't it, esp since covid. I pay similar just for a trim, and that's cheapest around as well!

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Lilith666 · 13/07/2025 17:04

I hope not! I am 55 and still have long hair. I wear it up mostly unless I am going out and it is easy to take care of. I like Olaplex and Liz Earle haircare.

TroysMammy · 13/07/2025 16:48

I'm 57 and up until 2 months ago my straight hair was long, past my bra strap. I only cut it to a bob because 1) I was fed up with it 2) I'm going grey and my hair is fine 3) I wanted my monies worth of the £38 wash, cut and blow dry. Previously I paid that for for a 1 - 2 inch trim.

CoubousAndTourmalet · 13/07/2025 16:42

Wow! @salsamad Your hair is very beautiful 😍

elledee412 · 13/07/2025 16:38

I’m 32 but short hair looks awful on me. I’ll be wearing it at least to my shoulders until I die or it all falls out, whichever comes first. I do think my days of waist-length hair are probably over though, as I’m currently 7 months pregnant.

FWIW, at 55 my mother has always had her hair at least to the shoulder (except one time as a child where my grandmother tried to cut it herself).

BreatheitAllIn · 13/07/2025 16:37

CoubousAndTourmalet · 13/07/2025 16:22

I might regret this... but here goes... Freshly washed, but uncombed. I'm 61 and well past caring what anyone thinks.

I hope my hair is so long and thick at 61!!

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fireplaceember · 13/07/2025 16:30

ForZanyAquaViewer · 13/07/2025 16:26

That may be the prettiest hair I’ve seen in my life.

Thank you! It doesn’t look like that daily, and takes a lot of gel Grin

netflixfan · 13/07/2025 16:29

iwillcallhimgeorge · 13/07/2025 13:21

I’ve got long grey hair and I’m 50. And most definitely not a model. My hair is lovely.

I’m sure your hair is lovely. Im sorry I many in your 70s and 80s

salsamad · 13/07/2025 16:29

I’m almost 60 with long hair and I love it. I’m lucky because it’s thick and there’s minimal grey but i do take care of it.
I have it trimmed every 6/7 weeks at hairdressers & 1/4 foil highlights 4 times throughout the year - though it lightens naturally in the summer.
I wash it 3 times a week, one wash with Aussie Mega shampoo followed by brisk towel dry then a good conditioning balm left in for 3 minutes then rinsed out.
I love my hair and won’t be cutting it anytime soon.

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ErrolTheDragon · 13/07/2025 16:28

64, I’ve never had short hair and no plans to do so any time soon. My hair is straight, fine but plenty of it, fair with just a few whites which don’t really show up. I use the tresemme clarifying shampoo first and then usually a ‘volume’ shampoo and conditioner - Aussie, John Freida, Elseve recently

Itiswhysofew · 13/07/2025 16:28

Dontcallmescarface · 13/07/2025 15:24

I am about to hit 60 and the only reason I have short hair is because I look like Crystal Tipps when it's long. If it wasn't so wild and thick then my hair would most definitely be longer.

Crystal Tipps has got lovely hair😌💜

ForZanyAquaViewer · 13/07/2025 16:26

fireplaceember · 13/07/2025 16:05

I’m 41 and growing mine! I lost about 1/3 of it to food poisoning so I’ve been trying to grow/thicken it before my next cut
the only thing that’s really changed is my colour, I’m much less orange now

That may be the prettiest hair I’ve seen in my life.

Summertime62 · 13/07/2025 16:23

I’m 42 and have waist length hair. Wash it about once a week. Swapped from elvive to Pantene. But know hair dressers hate both of those 😂

I often put a hair mask and hair oil in and leave for a couple of hours before washing. I take collagen and a regular multi vitamin

CoubousAndTourmalet · 13/07/2025 16:22

I might regret this... but here goes... Freshly washed, but uncombed. I'm 61 and well past caring what anyone thinks.

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Gettingbysomehow · 13/07/2025 16:21

Mine is waist length in my 60s and still looks good.

Livpool · 13/07/2025 16:20

TaborlinTheGreat · 13/07/2025 16:00

I know that, logically. Nevertheless, even with shampoos I really like, my hair starts to get a bit duller and sadder looking if I use one for a long time and perks up when I switch to another. I have no idea why.

I agree with this!

If I use a new one then it does feel better! I think it is probably psychological and you just think it has worked differently because it is different

BlueberriesBanana · 13/07/2025 16:19

Go for it! The quality of mine isn't as good now but I had it long until I was 44.

BreatheitAllIn · 13/07/2025 16:18

AliceMcK · 13/07/2025 13:26

I cut my hair in my early 40s but only because I always wanted to try short hair and my time for getting that skinny body I always wanted was running out so I did it anyway. I liked it but I’m now back to long hair and I’m 49. I find it easier to manage and have no intention of cutting it again, I’m loving it atm.

i use L’Oréal Professional. It’s more expensive but you can get it on sale regularly. I also occasionally use Avon detoxing shampoo and conditioner, I bought it for my teens greasy hair and will occasionally give mine a wash with it, or use it on holidays so I’m not carrying too many different shampoos ( 5 people with different hair).

I never liked the elvive shampoos, found they always made my hair feel greesy and heavy regardless of type I used.

Ive never been one to splash money on toiletries but I now fully appreciate spending the extra on a decent shampoo. I feel I use less because my hair is in better condition and it’s fully worth it.

Maybe look at things like Olaplex for mature hair, OGX do a mature hair shampoo, I’ve used the greasy hair one, again bought for teen dd and used, it was her go to shampoo till I got her the Avon one to try. Kerastase and Christophe Robin is also a good shampoo brand. But I’m sure there are others out there.

My friend has sworn by collagen supplements for her hair and nails, I’ve just started Elevate but it’s too soon to say. Same friend uses Philip Kingsley, I tried his swim cap recently which I loved but not anything else.

Mature hair, 😂I'm definately feeling old now!
Thanks for the recommendations, will check these out.

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Livpool · 13/07/2025 16:17

I am 45 and didn’t realise I was supposed to cut my hair?! I thought this was only a thing with my Nan’s generation

Purpledaisybug · 13/07/2025 16:12

I’m 51 and my hair has never been longer than it is now. I’m lucky enough to be a natural blonde and it’s still very light.
I use the Pantene menopause shampoo, we live in a soft water area and my hair is in pretty decent condition at the moment.

Itiswhysofew · 13/07/2025 16:08

I've heard it said and it's something i would've once agreed with, but not anymore.

I do think, however, that some people suit short/er hair better than long, me being one of them. I've never suited long hair, so I definitely wouldn't have it that way at my age of 58.

HungreeHipp0 · 13/07/2025 16:06

My mum once told me that when you become a mum you should have short hair 😂

fireplaceember · 13/07/2025 16:05

I’m 41 and growing mine! I lost about 1/3 of it to food poisoning so I’ve been trying to grow/thicken it before my next cut
the only thing that’s really changed is my colour, I’m much less orange now

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BreatheitAllIn · 13/07/2025 16:04

LovingLimePeer · 13/07/2025 15:38

I had a 'helpful' hairdresser tell me that as we age, we should cut a lot of the weight out of our hair and consider shorter styles. I'm 38.

I was obviously polite at the time but decided to be contrary and am now trying to maximise the amount of length/ waviness in my hair. Bollocks to her, I'll do what I like.

Mine put layers in, looked terrible so I grew them out!

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TaborlinTheGreat · 13/07/2025 16:00

yakkity · 13/07/2025 15:56

How exactly does hair get used to shampoo? By what mechanism?

hair is constantly growing and getting cut. It doesn’t have a brain or a memory. Shampoo and conditioner are very basic products that cleanse the debris and grease and then Smoothen the cuticles. There is no getting used to going on

I know that, logically. Nevertheless, even with shampoos I really like, my hair starts to get a bit duller and sadder looking if I use one for a long time and perks up when I switch to another. I have no idea why.