To tell a child-free friend not to bring a vegan meal to my BBQ?

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Before I even made it to the end of the post I was thinking 'I'll bet there isn't a see next button at the bottom of this'. And quelle surprise there wasn't!

Your not wrong about the them either, although surely one would have done. Vegan or child free, both together are much too controversial.

This

So obviously a windup given it's 14 pages in of replies and Op hasn't been back.

1. You should provide vegan options because being a host means catering for those you have invited and making sure they enjoy it too
2. What has being child free have to do with bbqs and vegans. Are you often a twat?
3. Is your husband always dickhead?

Are you actually serious? You'd tell a vegan not to eat vegan food at a bbq, or tell them not to come?
Well I don't eat meat and I'd rather not be at your bbq if that's the attitude. For the record, I've never been to an event where the host hasn't provided for everyone.

Utter dick !

You're married to a man totally lacking in empathy. You invited a friend to your BBQ, presumably knowing she was vegan. You told her she could bring her own food. Then husband puts his size 11s down and ooh wifey changes her mind. Maybe. How will your friend bringing her own food disrupt your party? Why do you think she'll get on her vegan soapbox? Why are you not already catering for vegans and veggies? You invited her, were you not planning on providing food she could actually eat?

Are you cooking her food on a separate bbq to avoid cross contamination?

Perhaps tell her she can come, but only if she agrees to eat meat. She should also borrow a child and bring that along, so as not to alienate meat-eating parents.

Technically if you invited her and already know she’s vegan then you should supply vegan food too she has offered to bring her own, why would that be an issue for either of you? Your husband saying she should eat what you supply is a dick move. YABU to even think about entertaining him

You and your husband are both unreasonable to invite her knowing shes vegan and not provide food for her. At the very very very least she should be allowed to bring her own. Clearly you don't like this woman or it wouldn't be a problem I think. & your husband is a twat.

Can't you just serve a nice bean salad as one of the accompanying dishes and make sure she gets a whole portion of that as well as other salads and bread? No need for all this fuss.

You can’t invite someone to your house and cater for everyone but them. What she chooses to eat is entirely her choice and she sounds very easy going offering to bring her own food. Her being child free appears to be entirely irrelevant- unless you/your husband/you both are jealous of her perceived lack of responsibility. Both are you are behaving with a lack of social decorum and empathy- do you even like this woman?

Your DH is a prick and a really crap host. Is he really expecting a vegan to come and eat meat?

Your friend isn't expecting you to cater for her vegan needs (she obviously knows what your DH is like) and has said she will bring her own vegan food but even that isn't good enough for your shitty husband. He wants to ban all vegan food from the bbq. I hope he gets food poisoning from undercooked chicken, the absolute knobhead.

Hahahaha what an absolute prat your husband is!

Bringing her own food is fine as long as she isn't judgemental about what everyone else is eating.

Don't they just!

The themes are awfully predictable, too.

Well said @4forksache that's what happed with ppl I know too. When younger I tried being a vegetarian, but its not for me. I don't eat much meat but I eat it. But I would like better treatment of animals.

If she has been vegan since whenever then she probably would get ill eating meat.

Does your dh think that her food might look a little more appetising than the same old charred meat that usually gets served at a BBQ

This isn't real but if it was I'd be embarrassed to be married to such an insufferable twat.

Which is a shame because I really would like to know what her being childfree has got to do with it all

They do seem to be on the increase.

Another goady thread where the OP posts once…

DH now saying it’s actually rude of her and it’ll put ppl off eating their food if she’s sat there going on about lentil sausages and dead animals (his words not mine lol). He reckons if we’re hosting, she should just eat what’s provided or not come. I said she obviously can’t eat what’s provided and she wasn’t making a fuss, just asked. He thinks I should message and say no now.

Agree that DH is being a tw@.

Let her bring what she wants. I'd pick up one of those little disposable BBQ's for her (they're under a fiver in B&M) and let her crack on.

You'd be well in your rights to shut it down if she starts preaching to your guests, but expecting her to eat what she's given is ridiculous.