To tell a child-free friend not to bring a vegan meal to my BBQ?

The issue is not about her bringing her own food (which clearly she will have to do if there is nothing vegan on offer) but whether you want her there at all to be "preachy."

Your husband is a dick.

If your friend sits there eating a vegan sausage and telling you all you are meat eating murders then she'd be a dick. But I presume she won't be and she'd just avoid a BBQ if that was the case. Personally if I invited a vegan friend to a BBQ, I'd buy and cook a vegan sausage for them. So I think she's being nice and saving you the trouble

You should be providing vegan food for your guest as the host.

Why mention that she’s child free?

Of course you should cater. Create a "Rocking Vegan Fun Zone" next to the bins. Provide a lettuce, bowl of water. There she can pontificate that she's definitely saving the world and all her animal equals. Then after the sermon she can kick back with the flies and enjoy the self satisfying smell of her own farts.

A good host would provide something for a vegan friend.

Following as I'm hoping that the OP comes back to explain why the friend's childfree status is relevant to her veganism. 😂

Why would you not provide a vegan option for her? As a host it is gracious and kind to provide for the dietary requirements of all your guests whatever they may be. Nobody should be invited for dinner or a BBQ at someone's home and feel compelled to bring their own food. Your DH is a dick and sounds a little simple.

you hubby is not being awful

Can't beat this answer 😂

DH now saying it’s actually rude of her and it’ll put ppl off eating their food if she’s sat there going on about lentil sausages
He's wrong here

and dead animals
and right here

does she have form for being a self-righteous PITA and rudely going on about it in other people's homes?

Also to echo PPs - OP please explain what your friend’s parental status has to do with any of this?! If she had kids would you be more willing to cater for three dietary requirements?!

You’re not really asking if she should bring her own food are you, you’re asking if you should uninvite her.

I’m just taking the piss. As previous posters said I think OP is bored and has come up with something to get posters frothing

What a strange OP. Don't understand why we need to know they are childless?

The normal thing to do is to provide food for all your guests. If you invite a vegan then you provide some vegan options for them. (although I do note this never happens the other way round- vegans seem to expect everyone to eat vegan when they host)

First reply nails it as usual. Unless your DH is happy to set up a separate vegan cooking area and grill some veggies for her and research a whole vegan BBQ menu? Tell him he’s being a fucking twat.

If you’re not going to cater for all your guests properly then yes yabvu to not allow her to bring her own food. If you’re hosting why would you allow someone to sit there with an empty plate or not a proper meal because you’re not hosting right. Very rude of you and DH

So what were you expecting your friend to eat if you aren’t going to cater to her?

You are rude to not have some vegan options for her, and then incredibly rude for not wanting her to bring something she can eat.

I’m guessing you will be tight hosts who give their guests one burger each.

@BBQDramaQueen

your husband sounds a prick. Not everyone wants to eat animal corpse. He needs to show your friend some respect.

if you’re inviting a vegan you should provide some vegan options. Sort that out, OP. Basic hosting.

thirdly it’s totally irrelevant that your friend is child free. Is she somehow less worthy and deserving in the minds of you and your husband because she isn’t a mother?? Re- evaluate that.

HTH.

Your DH is awful. Does he not like your friend and wants to purposely exclude her? Or is he just making her life choices about him and taking on himself to be offended?
as the host you should technically be catering for your vegan friend as you would all your other guests - unless you are also expecting your meat eating friends to bring their own main courses too? By inviting her and then not providing a mains like you are all the other guests you are basically saying you don’t really care whether she eats a proper meal or not and that you care about your meat eating guests more.
your friend has done no wrong - she has inferred from the invite that she isn’t going to be fed so has asked to bring her own food so she doesn’t go hungry.

Hello Op, not coming back to discuss your dickish DH and your lack of hosting abilities, quelle surprise.

No one has ever starved or had meager offering at my house. It's much more labour intensive to cook veggie burgers from scratch, I substitute the egg binding with olive oil,so they are vegan friendly,easy to pop to the shop and get beef burgers. People have little imagination. Im old school I cook from scratch. Plenty of flavour I do a mean sweet potato dhal..

Your Dh sounds utterly awful. I wouldn’t let a non allergic person bring their own food to my house, but that’s because I cater for my guests! Isn’t that what normal people do?

Glad I don't know yur husband, what an arse. And that I have no firns who would evre think this is a question worth asking.

What on earth does being child free have to do with anything?

Your DH is an ignorant and exclusionary twat.

Pretty much what everyone else has said - I’m veggie & I wouldn’t trust your DH to cook for me because he sounds like the kind of prick who would sabotage the food on purpose, but I also wouldn’t dream of lecturing everyone else on not eating meat.

The only reason I can think of for childfree being relevant is that the friend might have form for lecturing people about that too.

What’s her child free got to do with it? I think you should make an effort to provide a vegan option. Either way it’s fine to bring her own food. Your husband’s response is a bit odd. Does he not like your friend?

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