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To not lend my new car to step daughter and son

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Leo125 · 13/07/2025 11:26

Recently parents bought me a new car lovely little suv paid alot if money, all of a sudden my step daughter wants to speak to me after months of I don't want to play happy family's with you, don't want you to spend time with me and couldn't come up with a reason as to why apparently I have done nothing but just wants to spend time with her dad, absolutely support this and he regularly sees her alone and does activities of her choice all good!

Now all of a sudden she wants to reach out, I'm thinking this is because I have a smaller little runner of a car often comment how she likes it give it to me blah blah, I want to keep it and have no intension of giving it away worth at least 2k and I arnt in a position to afford to do that regardless
Fast forward to point in hand she's now asking dad to go on insurance and take it on a trip a long way they have already planned I have sod blatantly no even with insurance costs which I may add I'd or we would prob be expected to pay they would want to use alot at a guess and I don't want it tbh both young drivers am I just been mean or should I not back down to dp

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ThirdStorm · 13/07/2025 11:34

You can have two cars if you want and you get to decide who drives them. It’s a no from me. You reap what you sow, a lesson SC will learn. Will your DH support you?

MrTiddlesTheCat · 13/07/2025 11:34

Is your DH shutting her down or ecouraging her entitlement?

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 13/07/2025 11:32

Which car is she after ?

SixteenClovesOfGarlic · 13/07/2025 11:31

Sell your old car, your vehicles are not your boyfriends kids business.
He can buy and insure cars for them if he wants.

reversegear · 13/07/2025 11:29

Sorry this is your car? Why is your DH allowing her to go on insurance, this isn’t up to them at all. And personally I’d be saying no way.

Greenqueen40 · 13/07/2025 11:28

Sell your old one, you have a brand new one now. Problem solved