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To not lend my new car to step daughter and son

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Leo125 · 13/07/2025 11:26

Recently parents bought me a new car lovely little suv paid alot if money, all of a sudden my step daughter wants to speak to me after months of I don't want to play happy family's with you, don't want you to spend time with me and couldn't come up with a reason as to why apparently I have done nothing but just wants to spend time with her dad, absolutely support this and he regularly sees her alone and does activities of her choice all good!

Now all of a sudden she wants to reach out, I'm thinking this is because I have a smaller little runner of a car often comment how she likes it give it to me blah blah, I want to keep it and have no intension of giving it away worth at least 2k and I arnt in a position to afford to do that regardless
Fast forward to point in hand she's now asking dad to go on insurance and take it on a trip a long way they have already planned I have sod blatantly no even with insurance costs which I may add I'd or we would prob be expected to pay they would want to use alot at a guess and I don't want it tbh both young drivers am I just been mean or should I not back down to dp

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pinkyredrose · 13/07/2025 19:57

Deathinparadisefan · 13/07/2025 17:47

The bit where you said I was having a pop at the OP, whereas I was responding to another poster’s joke.

Oh I didn't realise!

harriethoyle · 13/07/2025 18:52

Thanks @LivMumsnet - apologies to anyone I’ve offended defending @Leo125 from the tide of piss-taking that was going on.

Bedknobsandhoovers · 13/07/2025 18:48

If you don’t want them to borrow it - then say no.

If you don’t want to have a discussion about it then say that the insurance is prohibitive/unavailable.

I wanted to insure one of our cars for my daughter and partner. Both 30s.Plenty of experience. Car nothing fancy.

Daughter- teacher- no problem.
Partner - in arts/creative work. Several companies wouldn’t allow her to be added. For any money. (And that’s before I knew she’d got 6 points!)

LivMumsnet · 13/07/2025 18:47

Evening.

We're just popping in here to ask for some Peace and Love please.

We've deleted a fair few posts which were reported to us. Just to explain, we don't like it when folk pull other posters up on their spelling and grammar. It's just not what Mumsnet is about and we'll usually take down posts of that nature if they're reported to us.

That said, if you see posts which you believe are breaking our Talk Guidelines, it's always best to report them directly to us and leave us to do the moderating. We'd prefer folk not to tackle other posters on the thread as all it serves to do is distract everyone from the topic of conversation.

Thanks all.

Internaut · 13/07/2025 18:31

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While you're busy getting on your high horse about this, @harriethoyle, you've fallen into the trap of being rude yourself. Why make allowances for OP but not for anyone else?

harriethoyle · 13/07/2025 18:30

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RealEagle · 13/07/2025 18:26

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Ohnobackagain · 13/07/2025 18:19

@Leo125 no they don’t get to drive your car but I wouldn’t trust them or DP not to give them the keys if you have a policy that allows ‘any driver over a certain age’ or even if DP caves because the SD’a own policy covers her third-party.

I’d also ask if the relationship with DP is otherwise happy? He needs to have your back.

RealEagle · 13/07/2025 18:18

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My post was not bullying,i said so you’re parents bought you’re husband a new car.He uses not the OP .

yakkity · 13/07/2025 18:15

Leo125 · 13/07/2025 12:34

Exactly correct x

What did dp use before your parents bought the suv for you?
Why does your dp use the new suv instead of the old car?
Because he uses it they (do and dsd) probably view it as a family car rather than your car.

you should be using it.

itsgettingweird · 13/07/2025 18:06

itsgettingweird · 13/07/2025 18:05

This.

You have to justify nothing.

You asked a question and it was perfectly clear without licking fault in spelling and grammar and anything else.

Hope you’re feeling better than you did?

And case in point my phone has gone and changed a word to licking from picking (changed licking to locking!).

It happens 🤷‍♀️

itsgettingweird · 13/07/2025 18:05

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This.

You have to justify nothing.

You asked a question and it was perfectly clear without licking fault in spelling and grammar and anything else.

Hope you’re feeling better than you did?

harriethoyle · 13/07/2025 18:02

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SpryCat · 13/07/2025 17:59

Just say no, it’s your car, your decision! Inform your DH you won’t be allowing his kids to borrow car.

saraclara · 13/07/2025 17:58

Leo125 · 13/07/2025 17:56

Just to let you know I was in intensive care and now have brain functioning issues so yes take the piss all you want with my spelling etc FYI I used to tutor English and maths once life's distroy now due to long covid

I'm sorry you had to cope with that, and now have to endure such childish mockery. Please ignore them and don't be put off from posting.

Leo125 · 13/07/2025 17:56

Just to let you know I was in intensive care and now have brain functioning issues so yes take the piss all you want with my spelling etc FYI I used to tutor English and maths once life's distroy now due to long covid

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saraclara · 13/07/2025 17:53

Absolutely pathetic posts mocking the OP here. I've reported them, because it's basically schoolgirl level bullying

harriethoyle · 13/07/2025 17:52

I hope all of those mocking op’s grammar are basking in their superiority. You have no idea of her challenges, including whether she’s dyslexic. But you are undoubtedly insufferable.

Mrsbloggz · 13/07/2025 17:48

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Deathinparadisefan · 13/07/2025 17:47

pinkyredrose · 13/07/2025 17:42

What's so funny?

The bit where you said I was having a pop at the OP, whereas I was responding to another poster’s joke.

pinkyredrose · 13/07/2025 17:42

Deathinparadisefan · 13/07/2025 17:12

🤣🤣

What's so funny?

RealEagle · 13/07/2025 17:40

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Deathinparadisefan · 13/07/2025 17:12

pinkyredrose · 13/07/2025 16:00

No need to take the piss out of OP's spelling, this isn't Pedants Corner.

Op just say no, if that doesn't work tell her to fuck off, she wasn't interested in you until you got your new car. If she wants one that badly she can buy one herself.

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FloofyBird · 13/07/2025 16:03

AgnesX · 13/07/2025 14:27

I'd be taking my new car to work. Leave the old one for DH. It'll take away any temptation to loan it to her.

But then I've got a suspicious mind.

This

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