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Parents choosing not to vaccinate their children

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MidnightPatrol · 13/07/2025 08:39

A child has died in Liverpool as part of an outbreak of measles. 17 are currently hospitalised with it in the city, as part of a wider outbreak.

73% of children in Liverpool are vaccinated against measles - vs an England average of 84%.

A rate of 95% immunisation is required for herd immunity. No child in the UK needs to be getting measles - we can vaccinate against it.

In Liverpool, there is a risk of a widespread measles outbreak due to this low rate of immunisation - it is very infectious, so the risk to the population is significant.

If you are a parent that doesn’t get your child vaccinated, why?

Should the government not be using further incentives to encourage people to take up vaccination - are a third of Liverpudlians really against vaccinating their children?

Should non-vaccinated children be limited from accessing nursery or schools (as in other countries)?

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Lafufufu · 13/07/2025 14:29

I'd be so interested to see interviews with the parents of these children...

Do they have regrets?
do they wish they had vacinated their kids?
are they doubling down on vaccines all being a big pharma conspiracy for bill gates to put chips in us?
What is going on in their brains?

I am yet to be made aware of any campaigners who are in the "i was antivaxer but then my child died..." camp but thry must exist

BungleWasBrill · 13/07/2025 14:27

adviceneeded1990 · 13/07/2025 14:19

The only person I know who didn’t give their child the MMR is also a nurse!

I remember various nurses on TV during the pandemic insisting that the Covid vaccine was dodgy and that they would not be getting it "because no-one tells me what to do."

Mind-boggling.

BungleWasBrill · 13/07/2025 14:23

chipsnmayo · 13/07/2025 09:05

My cousin never vaccinated her now adult children because 'god will save them'. It makes my eyes roll even more given she is an intelligent person.

In what ways is she an intelligent person?

That justification of hers does not make her sound remotely intelligent.

PermanentTemporary · 13/07/2025 14:22

Yes @Needlenardlenoo… and something like the Swallows and Amazons book where they were all in quarantine for weeks because Nancy had a really nasty case of mumps. Was it Pigeon Post? Must reread those.

maudelovesharold · 13/07/2025 14:22

MsJemimaPuddleDuck · 13/07/2025 12:58

There is a choice. Single jabs are available you just need to pay for them which they clearly don’t want to do.

Yes, Hobson’s choice! You’d be hard pushed to find a private clinic offering single jabs. Some private clinics do import unlicensed single vaccines, I believe. Why not bring them under the umbrella of the NHS, or facilitate licenced single vaccine production in the UK? Like I said, they’ve been pretty much outlawed.

Needlenardlenoo · 13/07/2025 14:20

PermanentTemporary · 13/07/2025 13:48

The spectrum of antivaxx opinion does feel like a social contagion. Ironically.

I had measles as a baby, a few weeks before I was due to have the vaccination. So it’s always scary when posters talk about how much more ‘comfortable’ they would ‘feel’ if vaccinations were delayed, by an unnamed number of weeks or months, according to zero evidence. So that more children could die?

It perhaps helps that I grew up on a steady diet of Victorian and early 20th century children’s books. It is truly incredible how many of those books involve children being ill, dying and a constant drumbeat of tension about ‘wasted time’. Childhood disease was simply known to be likely to take anything up to ALL your children. At least half was quite normal. And they spent weeks and months being ill.

I do listen to experts, because if it were up to me I would happily have given ds every jab in the book before leaving hospital after his birth. I’ve paid to have vaccinations that weren’t on the schedule as well. Experts have determined that it is probably better to do the schedule of vaccinations for babies relatively late, when they’re a few weeks or months old, so I bowed to their well-considered recommendations.

I had that experience too re the books! I was a primary age child in the early 80s and loved reading. My grandpa used to deal in secondhand books and used to pass on everything he thought I'd read (that was unsaleable). The diseases! A common plot line was that someone would get measles, scarlet fever, diphtheria, TB...

PermanentTemporary · 13/07/2025 14:20

I do believe in ‘buts’ @adviceneeded1990 … but (see what I did there) so many objections seem to be based on straightforwardly wrong information, at least when it comes to vaccination.

It’s difficult to pick out the moments of reasonable doubt either tacked on to or buried within a mountain of bullshit sometimes, and that goes all ways I guess.

adviceneeded1990 · 13/07/2025 14:19

Blueuggboots · 13/07/2025 11:58

I have a friend who is a nurse who has chosen not to vaccinate her youngest child. It beggars belief!!

The only person I know who didn’t give their child the MMR is also a nurse!

adviceneeded1990 · 13/07/2025 14:15

C8H10N4O2 · 13/07/2025 12:53

“I’m not an anti vaxxer but…"

See also “I’m not anti abortion but I just think it should be limited..." (to the point of being inaccessible.

There were not “huge risks” and there is not evidence of causal links between vaccines and subsequent episodes of illness. There is rather more evidence of causality between Covid and subsequent episodes of illness.
Covid was a new and serious disease which itself was not well understood. The vaccines were new so didn’t have the track record of eg Smallpox or measles but were tested on healthy volunteers (I worked with many of them) long before they were approved for use. Initial roll out was to those most at risk from Covid.

As @Parker231 points out 8 billion vaccinations and 55 deaths, only a few of that 55 have any real suggestion of a causal link.

As PP say - anti vax conspiracists were loud and furious long before Covid. As for “why would they do that” - follow the money. There is a lot of money to be made out of successful conspiracy theories. Hasn’t done Wakefield’s bank balance any harm - got him established on the celebrity circuit.

I had my children in the 90s. I had no trouble finding information on vaccines and their safety/risks/benefits. It was perfectly clear to read. It was also very evidence that it contained veriafiable data unlike the high temperature emotive bullshit from the antivax lobbies.

Is it so hard to understand that very few things are black or white and that in general it’s perfectly acceptable to have a “but” on what you think is ok and should be accessible? I don’t believe a lot of what we were fed about covid, nor do many others, people lost their trust in the mainstream media and in Government spokespeople during that time. Primarily because of things said by those people that have since been proven to be lies. That doesn’t make everyone a rapid anti vaxxer TikTok lunatic tinfoil hat wearing conspiracy theorist, it just means people started to question information.

Plenty of people are pro choice but with a legal limit by the way - the UK law has a “but” of the 24 week cut off apart from in exceptional circumstances. In that same way I am pro vaccinations “but” wouldn’t receive a covid jab.

TheWisePlumDuck · 13/07/2025 14:10

Is there any data of the ethnicity of the children who aren't vaccinated?

It seems to be people with English as a second language missing their babies vaccination appointments in this area.

minnienono · 13/07/2025 14:10

I personally think the new childcare subsidies should be contingent on being up the date with vaccinations unless medically contraindicated. Eg from 9 months you must have completed the infant course, from 18 months mmr. Works in other countries

Cynic17 · 13/07/2025 14:08

Adults, of course, are free to make any decisions they like for themselves. But when it comes to their children, one could argue that failure to vaccinate could be classed as abuse, or at least neglect. And the impact on other children is not negligible either. Maybe it is time to make school enrolment conditional on full vaccination? Or maybe it will take several deaths to make idiot parents think again?

MsJemimaPuddleDuck · 13/07/2025 14:08

Skippydoodle · 13/07/2025 13:54

Everyone should have free choice. If you & your kids are vaccinated then it’s no skin off your nose, why get in such a knicker twist about something that absolutely won’t affect you - because you are vaccinated.

What about those who cant have it due to cancer or other health reasons? Why should they be put at risk because people want to be idiots.

Littleredracecar · 13/07/2025 14:06

BoredZelda · 13/07/2025 13:35

Here’s where this whole thing becomes ridiculous. Nowhere in the (now wholly debunked) Wakefield study, was it suggested single vaccines would eliminate the (non existent) risk of autism. This little nugget was given to the media by (shock horror) a doctor from a private clinic who just happened to offer vaccines at £100 a pop.

Coincidently Andrew Wakefield also filed a patent for a single measles vaccine 9 months before his (debunked) study. What an amazing coincidence that is!

Alpacahacker · 13/07/2025 14:03

titchy · 13/07/2025 13:30

You can’t have it separately - at least one is no longer manufactured.

If you google it there are several clinics offering it as a single vaccine 🤷‍♀️

HerVagestyTheQueef · 13/07/2025 14:03

Skippydoodle · 13/07/2025 13:54

Everyone should have free choice. If you & your kids are vaccinated then it’s no skin off your nose, why get in such a knicker twist about something that absolutely won’t affect you - because you are vaccinated.

Utter rubbish. The more a disease circulates, the greater the potential for mutation. If this happens then even the vaccinated won't be protected.

And those unable to have the vaccine, or who have lost immunity are left very vulnerable from having so many unvaxxed around.

Take your choice, but I'd prefer if you stayed out of our schools if you're too stupid to realise that vaccination against deadly diseases is a good idea.

Littleredracecar · 13/07/2025 14:01

TheeNotoriousPIG · 13/07/2025 13:22

I vaguely remember coming across something (either in a documentary or possibly a newspaper article) where anti-vaxxers were saying that they were concerned about the use of formalin/formaldehyde in the MMR vaccination, which might be part of the reason why some people choose not to vaccinate their children.

I know that there are risks attached to formalin/formaldehyde (I see it regularly on containers at work), but I suppose that you have to weigh up the risks in comparison to the potential illness and/or fatality of your child.

I don’t understand this concern about formaldehyde at all. Formaldehyde is naturally occurring in the body as a by product of metabolism. The average adult produces approximately a shot glass amount of formaldehyde a day whereas the amount of in a vaccine is minuscule.
As always it’s the dose which is important.

Doggielovecharlotte · 13/07/2025 14:01

Yea and absolutely no unvaccinated children in school or nursery

PermanentTemporary · 13/07/2025 13:59

@skippydoodle the absolute libertarian position doesn’t work (imo it hardly ever does) because there is a percentage of children who genuinely can’t be vaccinated and must rely on the extraordinary enterprise that is public health vaccination. It’s also not really ok that an increasing number of parents are risking long periods of suffering and ill health on other people (their children).

CuriousKangaroo · 13/07/2025 13:58

Anti vaxxers are idiots. I’m usually more articulate than this, but frankly it’s all that needs to be said. There is no point in arguing with them, because they are too stupid to understand reasonable points or science.

fireplaceember · 13/07/2025 13:58

Skippydoodle · 13/07/2025 13:54

Everyone should have free choice. If you & your kids are vaccinated then it’s no skin off your nose, why get in such a knicker twist about something that absolutely won’t affect you - because you are vaccinated.

Because not everyone can be vaccinated and the last thing children on chemo need is children with measles who wouldn’t have it if they had been vaccinated

Doggielovecharlotte · 13/07/2025 13:58

I feel outraged and heartbroken at the same time

children walking to get water killed in Gaza and people won’t take this “no risk” privilege and are risking others health

so blo**dy outraged!

BoredZelda · 13/07/2025 13:57

Needlenardlenoo · 13/07/2025 13:37

@BoredZelda my child is fully vaccinated.

That doesn't prevent me appreciating there are barriers in the way of other people accessing vaccinations for their children. Mostly boring, but surmountable ones.

I appreciate there are perceived barriers, and in some extreme cases, actual barriers, but when the list of those things just don’t add up it’s open to question how valid they are.

I’m sure if you ask someone who just never bothered, couldn’t be arsed, or hadn’t done it for some other reason they didn’t want to admit, blaming poor GP access sounds plausible on the face of it.

What is true, is there are barriers to healthcare generally for some groups of people. Lack of trust, lack of local provision etc. This is primarily the case for non white populations, but can also impact on some low income families. Lack of vaccinations in those areas is only a very small part of a much bigger problem that needs to be addressed.

Simonjt · 13/07/2025 13:57

Skippydoodle · 13/07/2025 13:54

Everyone should have free choice. If you & your kids are vaccinated then it’s no skin off your nose, why get in such a knicker twist about something that absolutely won’t affect you - because you are vaccinated.

It does effect them, we need vaccination along with herd immunity, it also protects the small number of people who genuinely cannot have certain vaccines, and those going through chemo, radiotherapy etc.

Player62 · 13/07/2025 13:55

NotrialNodeal · 13/07/2025 09:34

My children have had all their vaccines but I didn't follow the nhs schedule as I was concerned about overloading. So i booked seperate appointments for each one. The GP surgery and vaccination staff were understanding. The way the NHS schedule is set up is about cost saving more than anything. People with concerns about overloading young children should know they can space them out.

Exactly. I mentioned to the nurse that my DS had cried his eyes out at his previous vaccine appointment and it was very difficult to console him. She offered to give the vaccines over separate appointments. If it’s possible to do it for a relatively trivial reason, I’m sure parents can ask if they’re worried about overloading.