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Making another go of our relationship with an alcoholic

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P0p · 13/07/2025 08:14

Me and my partner having another go of our relationship we have a two year old son together too. My partner is an alcoholic but since we trying to give it ago he’s been good not drinking too much and being horrible with me we did have a argument on the 1st of July but it’s been two weeks and we’ve not had another one which is a good thing for me as we did it all the time. He is making more of an effort with our son but still making comments with me or trying to comment about my parenting but yet he just naps all day and leaves me to it to look after our son which that’s not changed since I came back to give it ago. I’m worried it won’t last long and that he will start being controlling and drinking again feel like he’s putting a front on. Has anyone been in a similar situation and been with an alcoholic? How long does the nice man last?

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P0p · 13/07/2025 08:32

This is what he is like he can be quite unpredictable a lot of the times and even if he’s sober he can still be unpredictable but he’s not as aggressive.

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Brokenforsummer · 13/07/2025 08:31

Just no. You have a son that you need to put first. If he said I’m going to AA and stopping drinking then I would say consider it in a year. But he needs the time and space to just focus on himself.

Stripeyanddotty · 13/07/2025 08:31

Just leave.

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P0p · 13/07/2025 08:30

He’s very lazy says it’s because he’s in agony all the time and his legs and he does have sleep apnea but he does catch up with sleep in morning and then goes for a long nap in the afternoon he gets plenty of sleep and still gets all the rest he needs but makes out he’s the one that is doing everything.

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YesHonestly · 13/07/2025 08:30

The best thing you can do for your son is to not allow him to be around an alcoholic.

INeedAnotherName · 13/07/2025 08:29

Your son will be damaged mentally and emotionally if you stay. It really is that simple.

Be a parent and remove your child from this abusive household. Then get yourself some therapy to work out why you think you aren't worth more than being this man's emotional punchbag.

SardinesOnGingerbread · 13/07/2025 08:28

Good Lord, who's the 25%? I worry about the alcoholic but worry just as much about the willingness with which you'd put a child in the environment of this. Please look into some personal therapy to help you understand why your bar for acceptable is so low.

I'm sure your own childhood hasn't left you with a lot of resources, so please do take good care of yourself and try to find healthy, supportive people that can show you love and care outside of sexual relationships.

Myfridgeiscool · 13/07/2025 08:26

I wouldn’t take the risk OP. He’s still being controlling and sounds lazy. I’d ditch him now.

HelloCheekyCat · 13/07/2025 08:25

Your son doesn't have a choice about who he lives with but you do, please don't inflict an alcoholic on him. Put him and you first and split up for good.

Bikergran · 13/07/2025 08:25

Just leave now. Don't waste your life.

Claymoreiron · 13/07/2025 08:23

That’s not great for your son. Children of alcoholics can be greatly impacted by a parent’s behaviour. Honestly, if he’s still drinking I wouldn’t hold out much hope of things working out. Is he getting help?

Toddlerteaplease · 13/07/2025 08:22

Please don’t do this too your son. It does t sound like a healthy environment to bring up a child in. Leave now before it’s too late.

Katemax82 · 13/07/2025 08:20

My husband is a binge alcoholic so can go weeks sober but then goes to town on booze. It can be awful..I wouldn't recommend it

GospelOakCloak · 13/07/2025 08:19

Hi OP my mum was an alcoholic and I wished my Dad had left her. She was aggressive and unreasonable in drink. I suffered greatly and am still trying to make sense of my awful childhood

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