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Nursery hand over comment. Would you complain?

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Evelyynn · 13/07/2025 00:11

Btw I’m not the parent. Or the nursery practitioner.

If your child was handed over to you, and the practitioner said ‘’we’ve had to have a chat with childs name today, as she hasn’t been using kind words to staff and has had a bit of an attitude’’. Would this be something you’d complain the manager about, the use of the word ‘attitude’? The child is 3.

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Oioisavaloy27 · 13/07/2025 09:07

I know a person that screams, swears and talks to their children like absolute garbage so when these children go into school I can imagine that the children display this sort of behaviour, monkey see monkey do. I can also imagine that same parent doing the same as your friend. Your friend is in the wrong the child needs to learn what's right and wrong and if nobody tells them how will they ever learn?

Whateverittakes1 · 13/07/2025 09:04

Evelyynn · 13/07/2025 00:11

Btw I’m not the parent. Or the nursery practitioner.

If your child was handed over to you, and the practitioner said ‘’we’ve had to have a chat with childs name today, as she hasn’t been using kind words to staff and has had a bit of an attitude’’. Would this be something you’d complain the manager about, the use of the word ‘attitude’? The child is 3.

Nothing wrong with the word attitude. I’m assuming she also not heard of the phrase “threenager” either 😉

MummaMummaMumma · 13/07/2025 08:57

What's the issue? Do you think the parents should not be told when they've been bad?
Surely the parent would ask for details on what happened?

ChiliFiend · 13/07/2025 08:51

Your friend sounds awful. Presumably she's not bothered to deal with her child's bad behaviour that was actually the subject of the report?

DaisyChain505 · 13/07/2025 08:50

Parent is offended because their darling angel isn’t being so darling.

Non problem.

Supergirl1958 · 13/07/2025 08:45

neverbeenskiing · 13/07/2025 08:42

There is a real problem in education, including Early Years, at the moment with parents jumping straight to making a "complaint" about concerns that could be resolved with a simple conversation. It takes up huge amounts of staff time to follow up and has a significant impact on staff wellbeing. I've seen many good Teachers pushed over the edge by ridiculous parental complaints and its definitely getting worse. I feel sorry for whoever ends up teaching your friends child.

I must admit that it’s very true! This is a huge reason as to why I don’t want to be in teaching much longer.

AmusedCat · 13/07/2025 08:42

This will be the same parent marching into school every day to complain, then wonder why said child is an out of control tyrant at the age of 10.

neverbeenskiing · 13/07/2025 08:42

There is a real problem in education, including Early Years, at the moment with parents jumping straight to making a "complaint" about concerns that could be resolved with a simple conversation. It takes up huge amounts of staff time to follow up and has a significant impact on staff wellbeing. I've seen many good Teachers pushed over the edge by ridiculous parental complaints and its definitely getting worse. I feel sorry for whoever ends up teaching your friends child.

Couldyounot · 13/07/2025 08:41

Evelyynn · 13/07/2025 00:15

It’s my friends child. She’s basically said that she’s put in a complaint to the manager about the wording. And has scheduled a parents evening with the room leader as she’s not happy about it at all

Oh, she is going to absolutely adore primary school

Brokenforsummer · 13/07/2025 08:39

CopperWhite · 13/07/2025 00:16

Your friend sounds like a nightmare parent who is going to raise a brat.

Yep. The issue here is the child calling the staff names. I would want to know what she had been saying and exactly how she was behaving so I could talk to my child about it.

Jamesblonde2 · 13/07/2025 08:39

Good grief, here’s a grip. Stop with the complaining mantra.

Thedoorisalwaysopen · 13/07/2025 08:39

Not hard to see where the 3 year old gets it from is it?
School is going to be fun

Supergirl1958 · 13/07/2025 08:38

100% NOT complaint worthy!
We are raising a generation of children who will never be disciplined by their parents and who will see fit to complain when educators discipline them. As educators, we will then be expected to apologise for doing the right thing. Then children will be raised to think that they don’t have be accountable for their actions at all. One of the many reasons I’m getting out of teaching!

JaneEyre40 · 13/07/2025 08:37

Evelyynn · 13/07/2025 00:15

It’s my friends child. She’s basically said that she’s put in a complaint to the manager about the wording. And has scheduled a parents evening with the room leader as she’s not happy about it at all

Absolutely ridiculous.

JaneEyre40 · 13/07/2025 08:36

Evelyynn · 13/07/2025 00:11

Btw I’m not the parent. Or the nursery practitioner.

If your child was handed over to you, and the practitioner said ‘’we’ve had to have a chat with childs name today, as she hasn’t been using kind words to staff and has had a bit of an attitude’’. Would this be something you’d complain the manager about, the use of the word ‘attitude’? The child is 3.

I'd have a word with the child... obviously

ChloeCannotCanCan · 13/07/2025 08:35

No, I wouldn’t complain at all. I might ask for a bit more clarification on the what exactly they were doing so I could address the behaviour with my child.

Bunnycat101 · 13/07/2025 08:35

Your friend is being ridiculous. Children need boundaries and behaviour management. Our nursery was always excellent at behaviour management- much better then school as staffing ratio was much higher.

SaintNoMountainHighEnough · 13/07/2025 08:24

Sounds like the apple hasn't fallen far from the tree.

EquinoxQueen · 13/07/2025 08:24

Let’s be honest, a nursery worker giving that feedback suggests that the 3 year old had a bit more of an attitude that day. Most parents would apologise and ask what the issue had been expecting specific examples. I think k it says a lot about your friend that they felt the need to complain, but that seems to be the society we are living in with such entitlement and little empathy for those who work to provide services to them.

Bikergran · 13/07/2025 08:22

Evelyynn · 13/07/2025 00:15

It’s my friends child. She’s basically said that she’s put in a complaint to the manager about the wording. And has scheduled a parents evening with the room leader as she’s not happy about it at all

Sounds like she's the one with the attitude!

Cucy · 13/07/2025 08:18

Lilactimes · 13/07/2025 08:00

god I would be mortified that my dc had behaved in such a way the nursery needed to point it out to me. I’d be wanting to discuss with them how to make things better.

I completely agree.

Sounds like the mum knows her DC is a bit of a brat and so instead of apologising and working ok her behaviour, she’s deflecting and trying to turn it around.

Waterbaby41 · 13/07/2025 08:09

You can see where the child gets her 'attitude' from!

Flutterbees · 13/07/2025 08:09

cadburyegg · 13/07/2025 00:23

Ha ha ha ha ha

If that was my child I’d be mortified at their behaviour, not complaining about the use of the word “attitude”

if the parent can’t see the problem they are the problem

This

ShesTheAlbatross · 13/07/2025 08:07

Evelyynn · 13/07/2025 00:15

It’s my friends child. She’s basically said that she’s put in a complaint to the manager about the wording. And has scheduled a parents evening with the room leader as she’s not happy about it at all

Oh dear. I feel sorry for this child’s future teachers.

My 3 year old can definitely sometimes have an attitude and I’d be fine with the nursery telling me that. I want to know if my children are being unkind or rude.

penmanship · 13/07/2025 08:06

OP, I have had to deal with 'those parents' before. I always wondered how they managed to hold down jobs and friendships etc with such an entitled attitude. What is she actually like as a friend? Do you have to tiptoe around her and always do what she wants?

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