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Nursery hand over comment. Would you complain?

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Evelyynn · 13/07/2025 00:11

Btw I’m not the parent. Or the nursery practitioner.

If your child was handed over to you, and the practitioner said ‘’we’ve had to have a chat with childs name today, as she hasn’t been using kind words to staff and has had a bit of an attitude’’. Would this be something you’d complain the manager about, the use of the word ‘attitude’? The child is 3.

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Tourmalines · 13/07/2025 03:40

Your friend is overreacting. Of course the child should be pulled up on her attitude and what exactly were the unkind words ? Oh hang on, just ignore her bad behaviour !!!

PollyBell · 13/07/2025 03:38

Complain about what? I would presume they see enough children to take it as a suggestion and if this was my child i would listen

DeadSpace3 · 13/07/2025 03:36

Evelyynn · 13/07/2025 00:11

Btw I’m not the parent. Or the nursery practitioner.

If your child was handed over to you, and the practitioner said ‘’we’ve had to have a chat with childs name today, as she hasn’t been using kind words to staff and has had a bit of an attitude’’. Would this be something you’d complain the manager about, the use of the word ‘attitude’? The child is 3.

What? Why would you complain? Patents need to be told that their dear little golden toes is actually a complete shit.

fount · 13/07/2025 03:20

How else should she have phrased it? The word 'attitude' is fairly neutral, imo. If the child has been behaving poorly, it has to be brought up somehow. Parents who imagine or pretend that their little angels can do no wrong and are somehow incapable of poor behaviour (or that poor behaviour should be ignored) until they're older (and what's the magical age? 5? even older?) are doing their children a disservice.

BreakingBroken · 13/07/2025 03:07

Three especially closer to four can have “attitude”.
I hope your friend has back up child care plans.

transformandriseup · 13/07/2025 02:53

Oh wow things are only going to get worse if they are offended by this.

I was told by nursery that DD at 1 was taking food from other children and I immediately thought it was something I would have to work on rather than take offence at what had been said.

Babyghirl · 13/07/2025 02:32

So to take the light away from her daughters behaviour she's turning it around on how the nursery worded it, how about your friend parents her daughter and teaches her manners and respect.

FrangipaniBlue · 13/07/2025 02:16

Evelyynn · 13/07/2025 00:15

It’s my friends child. She’s basically said that she’s put in a complaint to the manager about the wording. And has scheduled a parents evening with the room leader as she’s not happy about it at all

Well I guess at least now the nursery knows where child gets her attitude from

SouthernNights59 · 13/07/2025 02:09

Evelyynn · 13/07/2025 00:15

It’s my friends child. She’s basically said that she’s put in a complaint to the manager about the wording. And has scheduled a parents evening with the room leader as she’s not happy about it at all

And people wonder why no-one wants to go into teaching/childcare!!

Honestly, what a storm in a tea cup. If I was the manager I would be hoping your friend moved her child away, in fact I would encourage it.

JustSawJohnny · 13/07/2025 02:00

Your friend is ridiculous.

3 year olds can be proper sassy little monkeys and the staff should be correcting poor behaviours.

slashlover · 13/07/2025 01:51

The next 15 years are going to be fun. Is she a PFB?

Blondebakingmumma · 13/07/2025 01:47

So rather than focusing on her child’s behaviour, she’s choosing to be offended. Wow, slow clap for her parenting skills

2chocolateoranges · 13/07/2025 01:25

That complaint will honestly get laughed at by management and staff. Totally ridiculous complaint!

mums attitude isn’t that great, no wonder the child has an attitude.

inequalities · 13/07/2025 01:21

So, instead of asking the nursery what the unkind words were that her own child used and how she displayed an attitude, her first and only choice is to feel aggrieved at the word attitude. And this is why teaching is a very difficult career. By the time this little princess makes it to secondary school, she will have an even bigger attitude(and ego) and will know that's ok, as mummy has her corner.

Spudthespanner · 13/07/2025 01:13

Ugh Christ 🙄

steff13 · 13/07/2025 01:13

CopperWhite · 13/07/2025 00:16

Your friend sounds like a nightmare parent who is going to raise a brat.

Indeed. One was wonder where the child got her attitude...

Samiloff · 13/07/2025 01:12

Your friend is ridiculous. It’s perfectly possible for a three-year-old to have a bad attitude, e.g. hasn't been brought up to know they should do what the adults in charge ask them to do.

Balloonhearts · 13/07/2025 01:09

Jesus. That kid is going to be a spoilt brat. With an attitude.

Itsawildworld85 · 13/07/2025 01:04

This is hilarious !

ur friend must be having the best life if this is all she has to worry about

alexalisten · 13/07/2025 00:30

What would you of preferred little shit

cadburyegg · 13/07/2025 00:23

Ha ha ha ha ha

If that was my child I’d be mortified at their behaviour, not complaining about the use of the word “attitude”

if the parent can’t see the problem they are the problem

BasilandTom · 13/07/2025 00:22

Maybe the nursery staff member could have worded it better but some 3 year olds are little ‘threenagers’ and can be utterly rude and obnoxious. Your friend will be ‘that parent’ but if that’s a hill she’s willing to die on then so be it. Her and her daughter are going to have rough ride through education with both their attitudes.

ShamrockShenanigans · 13/07/2025 00:18

Christ, I've never met a 3 year old who doesn't have attitude?!

If I was going to complain about anything, it'd be one adult saying to another "she hasn’t been using kind words".

I can feel a bit of sick in my throat at that patronising language 🤢

Remember, parents are not children.

Eastendboysandwestendgirls · 13/07/2025 00:17

The very fact the parent has complained about the wording speaks volumes.

CopperWhite · 13/07/2025 00:16

Your friend sounds like a nightmare parent who is going to raise a brat.

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