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Dog ate my picnic

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givingitupok · 12/07/2025 20:36

Had a picnic with my child today in our local park. Random dog (Shar Pei) appeared out of nowhere and ran over to us. I stood up and picked up my child and ran in a panic and stood behind a tree (probably looked like a total fool doing so but there was nowhere else to go without running towards the dog!). No idea where the owner was at this point. Watched the dog eating our food and also drooling all over our lunch box. Owner suddenly appeared from a path that lead into the park screaming at her dog to 'get here now'. Dog totally ignored her and she had to grab it and literally drag it away and put the lead on it. She apologised but when I asked her if she was going to pay for our food she actually had the gall to say 'you should have picked it up when you saw him coming' !!! I have just got home and this literally only happend 45 mins ago so am still fuming. She did not pay for our food and despite initially apologising, was incredibly arsey and walked off in the opposite direction. My child is very upset and the worst bit is, he has SEN and made everything in the lunch box himself (spread the sandwiches, cut up the apples, broke the chocolate into pieces to fit it in the container, etc). This was quite a big thing for him and he's really upset. I am also on a low income and spent a lot on the food. I took a photo of her and it clearly has her face in it. Not sure why but I just felt like I had to do something. I am not going to name and shame, but I'm just so angry.

Not sure what I want from this thread. Just rather pissed off.

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Blackoffe · 14/07/2025 01:26

AngelicKaty · 13/07/2025 14:51

Well, like I said, I didn't mind seeing the dog - I was just surprised by it. And I haven't seen these reports, but I guess my hope was in vain then if some owners are allowing their dogs to defecate in shops - that's beyond disgusting!

Yes it’s very disgusting and selfish - can you imagine the poor cleaners, it’s hard enough having to clean after humans never mind adding this into the mix. https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-scotland-glasgow-west-64566448.amp

Many people warned this sort of thing would happen before the trial went ahead and were speaking against it on social media, but I guess the management were set on trying it out.

At least they had the sense to pull it when they realised the “naysayers” (many of them dog owners themselves) had been correct.

Dog outside Silverburn

Dog friendly shopping ends after poo complaints - BBC News

The Silverburn centre in the south of Glasgow announces it has to prioritise "human guests".

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-scotland-glasgow-west-64566448.amp

Blackoffe · 14/07/2025 01:08

DeedsNotDiddums · 13/07/2025 17:54

You can't have well-behaved dogs without actually teaching them to ignore things like loud noises and children and other dogs and unfamiliar circumstances. You can't have well-balanced dogs without exposing them to those things.
So essentially you want a dog that's well behaved, but with zero opportunity for an owner to train it so that it is bomb proof.
Make it make sense.

This makes no sense.

Nowadays these dogs are “exposed to those things” and still - look at the behaviour of many of them. They may have been banned from this specific shopping centre in Glasgow, but I see them in many other shopping malls, bookstores, restaurants, public transport etc the list goes on…

I grew up in the 90s and many people in my neighbourhood had chilled out well behaved dogs that didn’t invade places designed for humans such as shopping centres, libraries and restaurants. They didn’t need to be trained to be in these spaces, because most sensible people recognised they shouldn’t be there. For the sake of both the dogs and humans.

They got to sit at home with familiar faces and play in fields and walk around their neighbourhood and relax in their garden, which the dogs probably enjoyed more than going shopping with their owners for makeup and clothes.

many of the more dogs - particularly “lockdown dogs” - go to all these places I’ve listed above. You claim these spaces are an opportunity “to teach” them and yet they seem far more anxious, highly strung “reactive” and badly behaved.

I have seen people let their dogs run up to random people including me in public spaces and behave badly so no, the mere act of taking your dog in these spaces doesn’t automatically teach them how to behave. The owners need to actively train them and many are not.

And it’s not really acceptable to use public spaces as an opportunity to “teach your dog” if it negatively impacts people in the process such as having to dodge poo in shopping centres or as in the catch of OP having your picnic ruined.

And it’s all very well saying it’s the owners fault because yes of course it is, but the point is many of these owners exist and inflict their chaos on everyone. It not being the dogs fault doesn’t really help much.

We need more dog free spaces and many dog owners and dog lovers agree with this too. Not everyone needs to drag their dog around everywhere with them.

Blackoffe · 14/07/2025 00:54

WearyAuldWumman · 13/07/2025 14:58

The errant dog owner could have asked for her address in order to take the money round to her house? No need to even see the OP - she could have popped it through her letterbox.

The OP has made the point that she cannot afford to lose the amount of money that the lunch cost her.

Exactly. Or in today’s world she probably has a banking or money app like monzo or PayPal for easy money transfers.

With PayPal you just need to give them your email address, so you don’t even need to share bank details.

echt · 14/07/2025 00:44

OonaStubbs · 14/07/2025 00:39

dogs are a menace and need to be stopped or at least cracked down on and heavily restricted.

How do you stop dogs and what does that even mean? Or crack down on them? Or heavily restrict them?

You do realise that the context of dog ownership in the UK is one where successive governments haven't even got up off their arse to have compulsory registration.

OonaStubbs · 14/07/2025 00:39

dogs are a menace and need to be stopped or at least cracked down on and heavily restricted.

KiriG · 14/07/2025 00:06

givingitupok · 12/07/2025 20:45

It wasn't the whole thing, but I couldn't eat what was left as the dog had had its face in it. It did eat all of the chocolate though, cream cheese sandwiches and a box of grapes/apple plus drooled all over our cheese and crackers and bread sticks. Hummus was safe!

Sounds like the dog is going to be really ill and probably die as the owner will be unaware it ate grapes.

Allowing your dog to eat other people food and not control them can be lethal

AngelicKaty · 13/07/2025 23:02

aGirlLikeJesamine · 13/07/2025 19:17

only with vindictive sad people i believe,

You need to open your eyes and look around you. So many younger people do it, it's utterly commonplace.

echt · 13/07/2025 22:49

August1980 · 13/07/2025 21:18

Why did you run? Aren’t those dogs small-ish? Did he look dangerous?
I suppose he could have attacked you behind the tree if he was. Sorry this happened to you and your little boy.

Er...because she did. Presumably afraid. Shar-peis are medium-sized chunky dogs. I've found them consistently challenging to other dogs, though ones I've encountered indoors have been nice enough. They tend to charge up their objective.

Thereislightattheendofthetunnel · 13/07/2025 22:45

Op you did nothing wrong.

it’s the owner’s problem if the animal ate what it shouldn’t. You were happily in the park enjoying a picnic with your son.

The dog is not your responsibility. Tough luck for the owner

SunflowersInRain · 13/07/2025 22:43

"ran in a panic and stood behind a tree"

😂 😂 😂 😂

LillyPJ · 13/07/2025 22:36

August1980 · 13/07/2025 21:18

Why did you run? Aren’t those dogs small-ish? Did he look dangerous?
I suppose he could have attacked you behind the tree if he was. Sorry this happened to you and your little boy.

Even small dogs can be aggressive and bite. And not all dangerous dogs look dangerous. I was bitten by a very friendly looking dog off a leash who just jumped up and bit my arm. Luckily, it only ripped my thick coat and didn't break my skin but I was shocked. When its owner appeared from round a bend in the path (with three other dogs) and I told her what had happened, she just said that she hadn't known I was there. We were on a public footpath in a popular area so I don't know why she thought it was ok to let her dog loose.

eastegg · 13/07/2025 22:36

Gardeninrags · 12/07/2025 21:45

Complete overreaction by the OP to run away and leave all the food there IMO. Just hope the poor dog is ok

This is fudging the issue and blame-shifting.

Are you suggesting that by staying with the picnic, the OP might have deterred the dog? That’s not my experience of dog behaviour around food. Little deters them.

What does tend to work, is their shitty owners putting them on a lead.

Even if OP could have changed her behaviour to deter the dog, why should she have to do that? They’ll always be someone along to tell her she’s getting it wrong. No-one should have to second guess canine behaviour. It’s up to the owners to keep them under control.

Khayker · 13/07/2025 22:36

MyHeartyCoralSnail · 13/07/2025 19:09

What if the police turn round and say the Op acted unreasonable in allowing the Dog to consume toxic food and not making an effort to contact the owner. Maybe they caused needless suffering to an animal

Don't be rediculous. The owner is required to keep her dog under control and that includes eating something which may poison it. Had the dog been under control, it wouldn't have eaten the picnic. No blame can be associated with the OP, nothing to do with her, totally the owners fault.

SistaPB · 13/07/2025 22:32

Missingpop · 13/07/2025 22:28

Oh a good note if the dog ate the chocolate the owner will be paying a hefty vet bill because it will have most likely made the greedy little shit rather unwell

It’s not the dog’s fault! Jeez - why the hate for dogs?! This whole thing is a stupid mountain out of a molehill

Missingpop · 13/07/2025 22:28

Oh a good note if the dog ate the chocolate the owner will be paying a hefty vet bill because it will have most likely made the greedy little shit rather unwell

Hollyhobbi · 13/07/2025 22:27

SistaPB · 13/07/2025 22:13

What a ridiculous overreaction. Dogs are just scavengers and opportunists. Yes ideally the dog should have been under better control but some times mistakes happen. I also agree the owner could have been more apologetic but really the hysteria about a dog coming over is just ridiculous- if you’d have just sat there and covered the food it would have gone away. It’s very very unlikely that the dog would have been out to attack anyone and if it was its body language would have been a lot more aggressive. Maybe if you’re that terrified, go for a picnic somewhere that doesn’t allow dogs - there are many such parks and playgrounds!

The dog was supposed to be on a lead!

Horses7 · 13/07/2025 22:26

MyHeartyCoralSnail · 13/07/2025 18:38

Having your dog on a retractable lead is a terrible idea. Far better to be off lead and trained properly.
www.petmd.com/dog/general-health/are-retractable-leashes-bad

Rubbish - most owners have no control over their dogs off the lead, they don’t bother training either.
Owners and their dogs can be a nightmare - suspect you’re one of them.

Hollyhobbi · 13/07/2025 22:22

Whaleandsnail6 · 12/07/2025 21:58

Poor dog having such a useless owner.

Her actions in not adequately training her dog to be safe off the lead could now cause it to be seriously ill or die and it would be her fault

Good that you posted to try and warn her op...poor dog

The dog should have been on a lead!

Hollyhobbi · 13/07/2025 22:21

Zanatdy · 12/07/2025 21:54

Hope the dog survives, good you posted to try and warn the owner. Assume they were in a punnet, so she may have seen. My friend’s dog is bad for stealing picnic food. They have to schedule walks not at lunch in summer. It’s very embarrassing for them. You probably should have secured the food instead of running away. Running from a dog is never a great idea, and if it’s off lead in a public place it’s not going to a threat. Owner was rude, but probably embarrassed.

Said dog above ate someone’s McDonalds when on a long line in a car park waiting to get into his car as car driver had door open and his McDonald's lunch in footwell. His wife was fuming he didn’t take the guys number to arrange payment but he said he was so mortified he just needed to get out of there fast. Especially as the nearest McDonald's was 15 mins drive away.!

So your friend has another out of control, off lead dog then?

Hollyhobbi · 13/07/2025 22:18

Gardeninrags · 12/07/2025 21:45

Complete overreaction by the OP to run away and leave all the food there IMO. Just hope the poor dog is ok

No it wasn't.

Hollyhobbi · 13/07/2025 22:14

Gardeninrags · 12/07/2025 21:24

You should pay the vets bill if the poor dog is taken ill because you left dangerous food lying around. Really irresponsible of you OP

What on earth? I hope you are being sarcastic!

SistaPB · 13/07/2025 22:13

What a ridiculous overreaction. Dogs are just scavengers and opportunists. Yes ideally the dog should have been under better control but some times mistakes happen. I also agree the owner could have been more apologetic but really the hysteria about a dog coming over is just ridiculous- if you’d have just sat there and covered the food it would have gone away. It’s very very unlikely that the dog would have been out to attack anyone and if it was its body language would have been a lot more aggressive. Maybe if you’re that terrified, go for a picnic somewhere that doesn’t allow dogs - there are many such parks and playgrounds!

funinthesun19 · 13/07/2025 21:41

You should pay the vets bill if the poor dog is taken ill because you left dangerous food lying around. Really irresponsible of you OP

@Gardeninrags the owner can pay the bill herself for not being on control of her dog. That’s what she gets for being a bad owner.

Chickyhip · 13/07/2025 21:38

Anyone else read this whole thread just to see if the dog lived?

AJLOAL · 13/07/2025 21:36

Gardeninrags · 12/07/2025 21:24

You should pay the vets bill if the poor dog is taken ill because you left dangerous food lying around. Really irresponsible of you OP

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