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Dog ate my picnic

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givingitupok · 12/07/2025 20:36

Had a picnic with my child today in our local park. Random dog (Shar Pei) appeared out of nowhere and ran over to us. I stood up and picked up my child and ran in a panic and stood behind a tree (probably looked like a total fool doing so but there was nowhere else to go without running towards the dog!). No idea where the owner was at this point. Watched the dog eating our food and also drooling all over our lunch box. Owner suddenly appeared from a path that lead into the park screaming at her dog to 'get here now'. Dog totally ignored her and she had to grab it and literally drag it away and put the lead on it. She apologised but when I asked her if she was going to pay for our food she actually had the gall to say 'you should have picked it up when you saw him coming' !!! I have just got home and this literally only happend 45 mins ago so am still fuming. She did not pay for our food and despite initially apologising, was incredibly arsey and walked off in the opposite direction. My child is very upset and the worst bit is, he has SEN and made everything in the lunch box himself (spread the sandwiches, cut up the apples, broke the chocolate into pieces to fit it in the container, etc). This was quite a big thing for him and he's really upset. I am also on a low income and spent a lot on the food. I took a photo of her and it clearly has her face in it. Not sure why but I just felt like I had to do something. I am not going to name and shame, but I'm just so angry.

Not sure what I want from this thread. Just rather pissed off.

OP posts:
AngelicKaty · 14/07/2025 10:01

WearyAuldWumman · 14/07/2025 01:51

Yes. One of my elderly neighbours told me that he'd had to pick up his dog to stop it from being attacked - and then got a mouthful of abuse from the young chap who'd failed to keep control of his own vicious dog.

Yup, I've had this experience too - it's really shocking and very upsetting for a responsible dog-owner to meet an irresponsible one.
Microchipping of dogs has been a legal requirement for almost 10 years now - mandatory training should also be a requirement of dog ownership (I think this would weed out the irresponsible would-be dog owners as it requires commitment and effort, which so many of them seem to patently lack).

AngelicKaty · 14/07/2025 09:45

TheaBrandt1 · 14/07/2025 06:05

Dogs on dog free beaches enrage me. When ours were tiny we sought out dog free beaches. Still remember the woman with the huge off leash dog walking with her nose in the air smack through all the picnickers 🙄.

She sounds like an arrogant cow who objected to the restrictions and was making a "protest". 🙄BUT someone should have challenged her (politely). Entitled people will continue with their selfish, ignorant behaviour if no-one ever calls them out on it (again, politely) - silence just emboldens them.

echt · 14/07/2025 09:44

AngelicKaty · 14/07/2025 08:28

In Britain, it became a legal requirement for all dogs over the age of eight weeks to be microchipped and registered on an approved database on April 6, 2016.

Do they have to renew their registration?

My apologies for confusing this - I was mixing up nomenclature. I meant the equivalent of an annual licence renewal.

Horses7 · 14/07/2025 09:37

AngelicKaty · 14/07/2025 09:09

I think training should be mandatory. You just have to watch TV programmes like "Badly Behaved Dogs" and "The Dog Academy" to see that some owners are utterly clueless about how to communicate with their dogs.

Most dog owners just can’t be bothered to properly train their dogs. In fact I’d say 90% !
We’ve trained our dog to come when called (and it takes perseverance) but I still wouldn’t trust her without a lead.
The number of dogs who run off in the Lake/Peak District and then owners put signs up everywhere…saying they are so loved and part of the family. Some are missing for months according to Facebook groups. If they are so precious don’t let them off the lead - you wouldn’t let a small child run off where you can’t see them.

Poor dogs suffer from rubbish owners.

AngelicKaty · 14/07/2025 09:30

KiriG · 14/07/2025 00:06

Sounds like the dog is going to be really ill and probably die as the owner will be unaware it ate grapes.

Allowing your dog to eat other people food and not control them can be lethal

Read all of OP's posts. The owner is now aware that her dog ate a whole punnet of grapes and some chocolate (in addition to other non-toxic items) and has been advised to take her dog to the vet.

AngelicKaty · 14/07/2025 09:26

FullOfLoveAndObsessiveCleaner · 14/07/2025 03:53

I think her priority here was removing her child from potential harm, not the food. Any sized dog can be aggressive, not just larger dogs. By the time she had packed the food away that dog could have caused harm to her child. Dog owner did not have control of her dog so it should not have been off the lead to begin with. Responsible dog owner here. It's common sense!

Indeed, particularly when OP has told us that there are many signs in this park stating that dogs should be kept on leads.

Summeriscumin · 14/07/2025 09:10

And still people are tying themselves in complicated knots defending the dog and the owner.

It was just a dog. It should have been on a lead. Them's the rules. OP was perfectly entitled to have a picnic on the grass in a dogs on leads area. But the stupid dog owner thought she was above the rules - as so many dog owners seem to.

Dogs don't have rights, they are just pets. Children matter so much more and a little child's day was spoilt by the entitled behaviour of a pet owner. And yet some people defend it. Proves the entitlement of some dog owners I suppose.

AngelicKaty · 14/07/2025 09:09

Horses7 · 13/07/2025 22:26

Rubbish - most owners have no control over their dogs off the lead, they don’t bother training either.
Owners and their dogs can be a nightmare - suspect you’re one of them.

I think training should be mandatory. You just have to watch TV programmes like "Badly Behaved Dogs" and "The Dog Academy" to see that some owners are utterly clueless about how to communicate with their dogs.

AngelicKaty · 14/07/2025 09:01

OonaStubbs · 14/07/2025 00:39

dogs are a menace and need to be stopped or at least cracked down on and heavily restricted.

No, dogs aren't a menace. Humans domesticated wolves at least 20,000 years ago and dogs have provided great companionship ever since. The blame for some untrained and out-of-control dogs lays squarely at the feet of their stupid owners.

Manypets · 14/07/2025 08:56

Cherrytree86 · 14/07/2025 08:32

@Manypets

basically you’re saying that Op should just never leave her house then given that dogs can be allowed everywhere. Even just walking down the street she’s at risk from a dog not being in control of its owner and not being on a lead. No. Dogs should always be on leads and controlled by their owner, end of.

No. I am saying she was responsible for mitigating her own issues about being scared of dogs and gone to a more appropriate place for her to mitigate this happening AND The owner should of course had better recall and control and been a bit nicer. From what I can see they were not in the park but passing it so were not headed in to disrupt anyone purposely.

She has every right to sit where she likes and expect people to control their dogs around her but if she sets up on a football pitch she can expect a football to disrupt her picnic. If she sets up on the floor of a park its not beyond comprehension this could happen. Mitigate by finding a table and she can enjoy her space in peace without worry.

Given she is scared of dogs it seems an odd choice to
dit on the floor (even if she has the right to it) she could just have easily been writing a football landed in my hummus or a red kite swooped and took my chips.

Is she more annoyed by the dog, or the owners attitude.

Tennislives · 14/07/2025 08:56

Dog owner completely in the wrong.
I hope you report her OP.
The defence by dog owners of their mutts off lead and ruining a shared space is disgusting.

Yanbu to be very pissed off OP.

Hangingonthere · 14/07/2025 08:55

givingitupok · 12/07/2025 20:36

Had a picnic with my child today in our local park. Random dog (Shar Pei) appeared out of nowhere and ran over to us. I stood up and picked up my child and ran in a panic and stood behind a tree (probably looked like a total fool doing so but there was nowhere else to go without running towards the dog!). No idea where the owner was at this point. Watched the dog eating our food and also drooling all over our lunch box. Owner suddenly appeared from a path that lead into the park screaming at her dog to 'get here now'. Dog totally ignored her and she had to grab it and literally drag it away and put the lead on it. She apologised but when I asked her if she was going to pay for our food she actually had the gall to say 'you should have picked it up when you saw him coming' !!! I have just got home and this literally only happend 45 mins ago so am still fuming. She did not pay for our food and despite initially apologising, was incredibly arsey and walked off in the opposite direction. My child is very upset and the worst bit is, he has SEN and made everything in the lunch box himself (spread the sandwiches, cut up the apples, broke the chocolate into pieces to fit it in the container, etc). This was quite a big thing for him and he's really upset. I am also on a low income and spent a lot on the food. I took a photo of her and it clearly has her face in it. Not sure why but I just felt like I had to do something. I am not going to name and shame, but I'm just so angry.

Not sure what I want from this thread. Just rather pissed off.

My dog is a scavenger. She is a bouncy lovable animal who is, for the most part, well-trained and amazing with children. But when we are out, she is always on the lookout for food. If she found a picnic laid out, she would behave exactly as this other dog did and no amount of commands from me would stop her. So at this time of year, if we are in an open area where there may be picnics, I keep her on the lead at all times. I walk in quiet paths where we won't meet people eating.

I am so sorry that you met such a rude owner who didn't recompense you for your picnic without question. I keep an emergency fund in my dog-walking bag although I have never had to use it. I am baffled as to how some dog owners think that this is acceptable behaviour from their dog and from them, not all of us are so thoughtless and selfish.

OonaStubbs · 14/07/2025 08:54

So sick of people making excuses for dogs.

SistaPB · 14/07/2025 08:50

AngelicKaty · 14/07/2025 08:44

Didn't bother reading all of OP's posts then?

  • OP has no knowledge of dogs;
  • there were many signs in the park stating that dogs must be kept on leads.
The dog owner was in the wrong, not OP.

I actually read the full thread. Not sure I recall it saying that there were signs but I do agree that the owner should have had better control of the dog.
however God forbid that OP should actually educate herself and her son about what to do if a dog does come near. I don’t think society will be happy until it becomes like America where dogs are only allowed off lead in dog parks because people get so hysterical.
I’m not super fond of cats - they have been known to come in my house and garden- one once ate some of my roast chicken. Yes it was irritating but I didn’t rant, rave and contact owner for a replacement chicken!!

AngelicKaty · 14/07/2025 08:44

SistaPB · 13/07/2025 22:13

What a ridiculous overreaction. Dogs are just scavengers and opportunists. Yes ideally the dog should have been under better control but some times mistakes happen. I also agree the owner could have been more apologetic but really the hysteria about a dog coming over is just ridiculous- if you’d have just sat there and covered the food it would have gone away. It’s very very unlikely that the dog would have been out to attack anyone and if it was its body language would have been a lot more aggressive. Maybe if you’re that terrified, go for a picnic somewhere that doesn’t allow dogs - there are many such parks and playgrounds!

Didn't bother reading all of OP's posts then?

  • OP has no knowledge of dogs;
  • there were many signs in the park stating that dogs must be kept on leads.
The dog owner was in the wrong, not OP.
AngelicKaty · 14/07/2025 08:39

August1980 · 13/07/2025 21:18

Why did you run? Aren’t those dogs small-ish? Did he look dangerous?
I suppose he could have attacked you behind the tree if he was. Sorry this happened to you and your little boy.

Why don't you Google a photo of one? They're not very tall dogs, but they're heavy and powerful - males can weigh over 4 stone!

henlake7 · 14/07/2025 08:37

It is annoying when people don't keep their dogs on leads where they are supposed to.
But it's also tricky dealing with the summer people sometimes!

I once got told off by someone because my dog ran up to someone having a picnic. We entered a park we had been to regularly throughout the year only to be greeted by loads of people picnicking and some sort of fete going on.
My dog ran up to someone before I could call him back because the summer people had taken over the entire park.
Obviously it was wrong the dog ran up to someone but it was a totally unexpected scenario I hadn't trained him for.

I imagine the same applies if your dog is on there normal walk and suddenly finds free food on the floor!

AngelicKaty · 14/07/2025 08:32

GreatPoster · 13/07/2025 19:54

We had a similar experience when taking our grandchildren to the park for a picnic. The GC are nervous of dogs especially big bouncy ones. So dog and lady owner walked passed, the dog bounced up, we shooed it away owner walked on did nothing. We got picnic out, dog appeared back we shooed to no effect DH called out to owner to keep dog away. She said why should she as we shouldn't have food and her dog had as many rights as our GC.!

That isn't just an arsehole dog-owner, that's an arsehole full-stop.

Cherrytree86 · 14/07/2025 08:32

Manypets · 14/07/2025 08:26

They are both wrong imo.

If I were scared of something I wouldn't put myself in its path. If I had a dog I would do my best to control it.

@Manypets

basically you’re saying that Op should just never leave her house then given that dogs can be allowed everywhere. Even just walking down the street she’s at risk from a dog not being in control of its owner and not being on a lead. No. Dogs should always be on leads and controlled by their owner, end of.

AngelicKaty · 14/07/2025 08:28

echt · 14/07/2025 00:44

How do you stop dogs and what does that even mean? Or crack down on them? Or heavily restrict them?

You do realise that the context of dog ownership in the UK is one where successive governments haven't even got up off their arse to have compulsory registration.

In Britain, it became a legal requirement for all dogs over the age of eight weeks to be microchipped and registered on an approved database on April 6, 2016.

Manypets · 14/07/2025 08:26

Cherrytree86 · 14/07/2025 08:24

@Manypets

nah, however you may and try and wrangle it, the OP is not in the wrong, the dogs owner is. But I guess it’s karma seeing as that no doubt will no doubt have shat all over the floor all night

They are both wrong imo.

If I were scared of something I wouldn't put myself in its path. If I had a dog I would do my best to control it.

Cherrytree86 · 14/07/2025 08:24

Manypets · 14/07/2025 07:32

She has the right, she used it but didn't take into account other users of the park.

It is common sense...OP put herself in a public shared space where there are no controls over who goes where nor should there be it is
in the name public parks

At the start she had every right to pick up her picnic and put it somewhere where behind a sign that says no dogs or on a table and then the complete right to be offended if the same happens but come on..the floor..would she consider setting up on a football or cricket pitch suitable.

No..she would look for an appropriate place for her (away from the opportunity of dogs visiting) and imo setting up on the floor if you ate scared of dogs is taking that risk,

@Manypets

nah, however you may and try and wrangle it, the OP is not in the wrong, the dogs owner is. But I guess it’s karma seeing as that no doubt will no doubt have shat all over the floor all night

AngelicKaty · 14/07/2025 08:20

LemondrizzleShark · 14/07/2025 04:58

Lots do but twat dog owners just ignore it. DH was bitten on a supposedly dog-free beach, in the height of summer, by an off lead dog. His fault for jogging in sight of the dog, according to the owner. Runners and cyclists apparently always set this dog off, so what did DH expect?

Police weren’t interested.

And when your husband pointed out his dog shouldn't have even been there?

lemonraspberry · 14/07/2025 08:11

Manypets · 14/07/2025 08:05

Righto, everyone keep your dog in, this lady doesn't like them.

YAYYYY - life would be so much better.

Nope some owners can actually control their dogs. they can walk past without a lead and not be a menace to society. Manners all round.

I can see you are of the free spirit training and everyone must love your dog, like the idiot I encountered last night who gave his dog a treat after it hurled itself over someone. But it had a 'friendly' vest on so that is OK 🤔

Manypets · 14/07/2025 08:05

lemonraspberry · 14/07/2025 08:03

Because the whole of society has to adjust their life choices and become dog behavioural experts as dog owners have no manners, zero regard fro anyone except their precious fur baby. Dog bombing is unacceptable. It shows that too many are owned by people who have no idea what they are doing. I remember a time you could picnic outside without some out of control, half trained pest jumping all over you.

I will make sure to have picnics only with grapes, dark chocolate and coffee (actually quite a nice combination) and see if people can control their dogs then.

Pi$$ed off at being sniffed lunged at and jumped over, & seeing dog poo.dog poo bags lying around everytime I leave the house.

Righto, everyone keep your dog in, this lady doesn't like them.