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Dog ate my picnic

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givingitupok · 12/07/2025 20:36

Had a picnic with my child today in our local park. Random dog (Shar Pei) appeared out of nowhere and ran over to us. I stood up and picked up my child and ran in a panic and stood behind a tree (probably looked like a total fool doing so but there was nowhere else to go without running towards the dog!). No idea where the owner was at this point. Watched the dog eating our food and also drooling all over our lunch box. Owner suddenly appeared from a path that lead into the park screaming at her dog to 'get here now'. Dog totally ignored her and she had to grab it and literally drag it away and put the lead on it. She apologised but when I asked her if she was going to pay for our food she actually had the gall to say 'you should have picked it up when you saw him coming' !!! I have just got home and this literally only happend 45 mins ago so am still fuming. She did not pay for our food and despite initially apologising, was incredibly arsey and walked off in the opposite direction. My child is very upset and the worst bit is, he has SEN and made everything in the lunch box himself (spread the sandwiches, cut up the apples, broke the chocolate into pieces to fit it in the container, etc). This was quite a big thing for him and he's really upset. I am also on a low income and spent a lot on the food. I took a photo of her and it clearly has her face in it. Not sure why but I just felt like I had to do something. I am not going to name and shame, but I'm just so angry.

Not sure what I want from this thread. Just rather pissed off.

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Notouchingmybhuna · 12/07/2025 22:01

Zanatdy · 12/07/2025 21:54

Hope the dog survives, good you posted to try and warn the owner. Assume they were in a punnet, so she may have seen. My friend’s dog is bad for stealing picnic food. They have to schedule walks not at lunch in summer. It’s very embarrassing for them. You probably should have secured the food instead of running away. Running from a dog is never a great idea, and if it’s off lead in a public place it’s not going to a threat. Owner was rude, but probably embarrassed.

Said dog above ate someone’s McDonalds when on a long line in a car park waiting to get into his car as car driver had door open and his McDonald's lunch in footwell. His wife was fuming he didn’t take the guys number to arrange payment but he said he was so mortified he just needed to get out of there fast. Especially as the nearest McDonald's was 15 mins drive away.!

Tell your friends to keep their damn dog on a lead until they train it properly.

frecklejuice · 12/07/2025 22:00

Hopefully the dog ate the chocolate and she ends up with a massive vet bill. Fucking irresponsible dog owners puss me off.

vodkaredbullgirl · 12/07/2025 21:58

Gardeninrags · 12/07/2025 21:57

No, my dog would eat the child as well as the picnic

😂

Whaleandsnail6 · 12/07/2025 21:58

Poor dog having such a useless owner.

Her actions in not adequately training her dog to be safe off the lead could now cause it to be seriously ill or die and it would be her fault

Good that you posted to try and warn her op...poor dog

BlueyNeedsToFuckOff · 12/07/2025 21:58

Gardeninrags · 12/07/2025 21:24

You should pay the vets bill if the poor dog is taken ill because you left dangerous food lying around. Really irresponsible of you OP

You have to be kidding? OP is perfectly entitled to have what she wants as a picnic - the dog’s owner should never have let the dog get in a position where it steals someone’s food.

Gardeninrags · 12/07/2025 21:57

IMustDoMoreExercise · 12/07/2025 21:55

Are you the rude dog owner???

No, my dog would eat the child as well as the picnic

IMustDoMoreExercise · 12/07/2025 21:55

Gardeninrags · 12/07/2025 21:45

Complete overreaction by the OP to run away and leave all the food there IMO. Just hope the poor dog is ok

Are you the rude dog owner???

Tulipvase · 12/07/2025 21:55

Jimmyneutronsforehead · 12/07/2025 21:48

Grapes are toxic to dogs because of mycotoxins and tartaric acid. A dog would need to have level 10 luck to eat a whole punnet of grapes and not have any side effects at all.

Size and weight do play a part, but it's also fairly unpredictable because vets can't pinpoint a safe amount per kg and toxicity can occur even in modest amounts.

A standard UK punnet could be between 300-500g or 30-50 grapes.

Median weight for a sharpei would be roughly 25kg.

That means that for a small punnet of 300g or 30 grapes, this dog has eaten more than 1 grape per 1kg of its weight, possibly more.

The Merck veterinary manual estimates it's a known toxic level for dogs to ingest 1 grape per 4.5kg of bodyweight.

Although there is no safe amount and dogs have died from eating far less, even 1 grape, and some have eaten more and not had any symptoms at all so there is clearly more to it than weight alone that is not fully understood.

Symptoms usually start within 6 hours, and treatment is best started before symptoms occur, so I hope for the poor dogs sake that they aren't sensitive to grapes at all.

Thanks.

I think it was the unknown levels of toxicity I was thinking about. My own dog unfortunately ate a chunk of fruitcake at an unknown point and luckily was fine. She is a Labrador though. And of course I know my experience is limited and not conclusive.

Zanatdy · 12/07/2025 21:54

Hope the dog survives, good you posted to try and warn the owner. Assume they were in a punnet, so she may have seen. My friend’s dog is bad for stealing picnic food. They have to schedule walks not at lunch in summer. It’s very embarrassing for them. You probably should have secured the food instead of running away. Running from a dog is never a great idea, and if it’s off lead in a public place it’s not going to a threat. Owner was rude, but probably embarrassed.

Said dog above ate someone’s McDonalds when on a long line in a car park waiting to get into his car as car driver had door open and his McDonald's lunch in footwell. His wife was fuming he didn’t take the guys number to arrange payment but he said he was so mortified he just needed to get out of there fast. Especially as the nearest McDonald's was 15 mins drive away.!

givingitupok · 12/07/2025 21:53

MyCyanReader · 12/07/2025 21:52

@givingitupok post the photo on your local FB group.

I'd state politely that the dog was off lead and ran over and ate your picnic, so can the owner get in contact to arrange paying you the £XX for the food her dog stole. I'd then also point out the dog ate lots of grapes so her dog will need to see a vet. If it was dark chocolate I'd also mention that as dogs can't eat that either.

I have added the picture now. It was milk chocolate.

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MyCyanReader · 12/07/2025 21:52

@givingitupok post the photo on your local FB group.

I'd state politely that the dog was off lead and ran over and ate your picnic, so can the owner get in contact to arrange paying you the £XX for the food her dog stole. I'd then also point out the dog ate lots of grapes so her dog will need to see a vet. If it was dark chocolate I'd also mention that as dogs can't eat that either.

nocoolnamesleft · 12/07/2025 21:51

Gardeninrags · 12/07/2025 21:45

Complete overreaction by the OP to run away and leave all the food there IMO. Just hope the poor dog is ok

The owner was clearly not in control of the dog, so getting out of there was an eminently reasonable instinctive reaction.

freshpyjamas · 12/07/2025 21:49

Gardeninrags · 12/07/2025 21:45

Complete overreaction by the OP to run away and leave all the food there IMO. Just hope the poor dog is ok

To run away from an off the lead Shar Pei that is running at you and your CHILD whilst its owner hollers at it to stop is not an over reaction - it’s a heat of the moment decision out of fear.

I say this as a life long dog owner.

Do remove your head from your arse.

givingitupok · 12/07/2025 21:49

Gardeninrags · 12/07/2025 21:45

Complete overreaction by the OP to run away and leave all the food there IMO. Just hope the poor dog is ok

Well I'm sorry for being scared of dogs. The dog's safety was not my responsibility.

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Jimmyneutronsforehead · 12/07/2025 21:48

Tulipvase · 12/07/2025 21:29

I’m not sure that is how it works from what I was told. Chocolate (theobromine) toxicity can be by weight consumed and size of dog from what I’ve read.

Grapes are toxic to dogs because of mycotoxins and tartaric acid. A dog would need to have level 10 luck to eat a whole punnet of grapes and not have any side effects at all.

Size and weight do play a part, but it's also fairly unpredictable because vets can't pinpoint a safe amount per kg and toxicity can occur even in modest amounts.

A standard UK punnet could be between 300-500g or 30-50 grapes.

Median weight for a sharpei would be roughly 25kg.

That means that for a small punnet of 300g or 30 grapes, this dog has eaten more than 1 grape per 1kg of its weight, possibly more.

The Merck veterinary manual estimates it's a known toxic level for dogs to ingest 1 grape per 4.5kg of bodyweight.

Although there is no safe amount and dogs have died from eating far less, even 1 grape, and some have eaten more and not had any symptoms at all so there is clearly more to it than weight alone that is not fully understood.

Symptoms usually start within 6 hours, and treatment is best started before symptoms occur, so I hope for the poor dogs sake that they aren't sensitive to grapes at all.

Hb7x3 · 12/07/2025 21:48

Gardeninrags · 12/07/2025 21:24

You should pay the vets bill if the poor dog is taken ill because you left dangerous food lying around. Really irresponsible of you OP

😂😂😂 seriously????

Gardeninrags · 12/07/2025 21:45

Complete overreaction by the OP to run away and leave all the food there IMO. Just hope the poor dog is ok

LillyPJ · 12/07/2025 21:45

You are right to be pissed off. All dogs should be under control in public places. Some dog owners are just irresponsible and I'm sorry you encountered one of those.

DreamingofTimbuktuagain · 12/07/2025 21:45

Gardeninrags · 12/07/2025 21:24

You should pay the vets bill if the poor dog is taken ill because you left dangerous food lying around. Really irresponsible of you OP

I really hope this is sarcasm. If not I genuinely despair

nocoolnamesleft · 12/07/2025 21:38

GCAcademic · 12/07/2025 21:33

The best thing to do in this situation is to shout “NO!” loudly and firmly at the dog. If you run away, a dog is more likely to chase you and you are also passing your fear of dogs on to your child.

As others have said, this is not likely to have a good outcome for the dog, it has eaten just about the worst things possible.

No, the best thing in these circumstances is for the fucking owner to fucking control their fucking dog.

ThePure · 12/07/2025 21:38

It’s good of you to have posted and tried to warn her. That’s all can do really and more than you were obliged to. I hope it gives her pause for thought on how badly she treated you.

I am a dog owner and I know that mistakes can happen even when you are trying to be responsible but I would always be mortified, apologise and try to put it right and I would never try to argue that it was anyone’s fault but mine. My dog once chased a bike. The only occasion he ever did it. I should have had him on a lead but I didn’t expect anyone to be around. The lady was angry and shouted at me but I accept she had every right to be. I apologised and learnt my lesson and I do not let him off anywhere at all where bikes might be any more.

gotmyknickersinatwist · 12/07/2025 21:37

Gardeninrags · 12/07/2025 21:24

You should pay the vets bill if the poor dog is taken ill because you left dangerous food lying around. Really irresponsible of you OP

Absolute bollocks. They were in a park with signs saying dogs should be on leads.
The dog strayed away from its owner and the owner had no control.
100% the owner's fault for the dog not having recall.
You know that if a dog is hit by a car, the driver is not obliged to pay vet bills? The owner of the dog is obliged to pay for damage to the car.

If the dog had attacked someone rather than just eaten some food, it's be a very different story.
Besides, the OP didn't 'leave dangerous food lying around'. It was her & her child's picnic which the out of control dog raided!

freshpyjamas · 12/07/2025 21:35

Gardeninrags · 12/07/2025 21:24

You should pay the vets bill if the poor dog is taken ill because you left dangerous food lying around. Really irresponsible of you OP

Oh do shut up. She was having a picnic not walked around the park throwing grapes around. What on earth are you talking about.

vodkaredbullgirl · 12/07/2025 21:35

They should have had the dog on a lead.

transformandriseup · 12/07/2025 21:33

Gardeninrags · 12/07/2025 21:24

You should pay the vets bill if the poor dog is taken ill because you left dangerous food lying around. Really irresponsible of you OP

Lying around at a picnic in the park? Just incase
a dog walks by? LOL

Even more reason to keep dogs on leads then.