To go swimming in the sea whilst the kids are in bed?

I was always about leaving the house to sit in the garden - yes - and I’m quite a relaxed parent in many other scenarios. But when my kids woke in the night, it was usually because they were scared or ill and I couldn’t bear the idea that they would come looking for me and I wasn’t immediately available. They would definitely panic if we weren’t obviously in the house

As I said above, in your garden you are likely to hear your DC and your dc are likely to hear you. You will hear a fire alarm and can immediately react, you will hear and intruder or any other kind of emergency

There's only a small body of wayer, if dc come looking you will immediately see them near the water. Its also go absolutely no current, no rocks, driftwood, reeds, seaweed underwater. A ladder to quickly get out of the water, so very low risk. It's normally a reasonably temperature I.e. not a body of cold water like the sea/a lagoon.

You can have the backdoors unlocked and open, and the garden enclosed. So again if DCs go wandering they can't go far.

If you can't hear your DC from the pool then no I wouldn't swim in it while small DC are asleep

But they have windows and doors on more than one wall of the house...thats the bit of op I'm struggling most with not the (gorgeous) house on the beach...I can (jealously) picture that.

Do you know how far away 50ft is?

Christ no. I live the same (or less) distance from the sea and I wouldn’t leave mine! Can’t you take it in turns? Thank you for making me feel like a better mum though

I think the rule for me was that I was in earshot if they cried, or fell out of bed. I would happily potter in the garden near the house, but I wouldn't be comfortable popping next door, which a lot of my friends were happy to do.

If you're swimming, would you he able to hear? I wouldn't at that age.

I wouldn’t leave children alone in the house to go in a swimming pool, and certainly not in the sea.
You shouldn’t be leaving children alone at all. Not to go to the shops, for a walk, just not at all. They might wake up and cause a safety issue( like my little bro who accidentally caused a fire by flicking a light switch on and off repeatedly- fortunately there was an adult when that happened) or they might let in someone knocking at the door( like my 2 year old did- luckily it was his dad) or something might happen to you/ drowning, falling over in the dark, being attacked. There’s too much that can go wrong.

What the hell are you talking about? Obviously NOT!!!! This would constitute child abuse imo. YABVU and utterly selfish.

I am one of the most relaxed parents I know in terms of what I've done with my kids but this is not OK. They are preschoolers, and that age group can be unpredictable. I would want to be able to hear them cry, not just keep the windows in view. If I couldn't hear them cry and neither could anyone else I would not swim in a pool in the garden either.

Totally unnecessary too as you say 'we' so you are clearly not the only adult

Precisely, leaving two very young children unattended in a house would definitely raise safeguarding concerns.

50ft you would hear a baby monitor

Im now distracted by the ridiculously high prices in whitstable!! 🤣

You really think SS wouldn’t at least have reservations about OP’s parenting if she and her partner left their preschools asleep alone in their property, to go swimming in the sea? Really?

I wouldn’t go swimming in any body of water that is far away from my house that I couldn’t at least hear a baby monitor.

You say it's safe, more like a pool. I would want to be able to hear my children though. My son has woken up with croup a number of times and needed an ambulance, all my children have vomited in the night etc etc. If you couldn't hear them then I wouldn't however safe the water is.

There are some lovely houses right on the beach in Whitstable - link to one. There are probably similar houses in many other seaside towns.

But no OP, I still wouldn’t swim there when your kids are in bed, any more than I would pop to the supermarket.

But in a garden you could keep your back door open and probably hear the DC if they woke up or needed anything. If you're in the sea, you will have to keep the windows and doors closed for their safety so they don't wander out so if they wake up and need you, you won't hear them. Maybe once they're older primary age...but pre schoolers are way too young.

Just basic common sense should tell you this is a ridiculous and ill thought out idea, however you seem desperate to justify yourself. The reason you're struggling is because there is no justification for it.

If you are in your garden the door is open, if you are out of your garden in a lake the door is locked, unless you are ok with child abduction or kids potentially wondering out of house into the lake while you are facing the other way. There are several other reasons and you are just being obtuse.

Exactly what @LemondrizzleShark said, you need to be where they can hear you and locate you quickly if they wake up. In the sea is not that place. I don't understand why you can't take it in turns, this is. It worth the risk even if the risk is very minor.

So your house seriously has 3 walls that do not have any windows or doors?

I honestly cannot picture it at all.

Your house has no windows or doors on any other wall other than the one that faces the sea

Logically then there must be a road separating you from the sea? Or does your house not have vehicular access?

I can't imagine a house with just a wall facing the road one side? and all their windows and doors on the other

I wouldn’t. Putting aside the dangers of the sea (but only because you insist), I still wouldn’t leave my young kids with no baby monitor etc for half an hour plus. That’s a really long time if one of them wakes up and is distressed/sick/thirsty etc. Plus of course the dangers of them wandering around the house along etc.

Just take it in turns. I also live by the sea and couldn't enjoy a swim knowing my child was home alone.

I wouldn't do that either, you shouldn't swim alone.