To go swimming in the sea whilst the kids are in bed?

With a pool you just put the monitor on the side and swim - they have lights on that flicker and are easy to see - I guess if you have a garden wall you could do this whilst you swim in the sea? But I don't think it's wise with such young children.
You could take turns.
We used to sit in our summerhouse at the end of the garden (25-30m from locked house) with our monitor on and baby/child in bed all the time in summer.
He's 18 now so all good!

She has a front child and a back child. It's kinder than "favourite" and "not favourite"

Hmm didn't Madeline McCann parents say it was like sitting in your back garden? Just go 1 at a time if you really want to. Oh and wear a life jacket FFS. Beach life guards will tell you not to go swimming without a life jacket. The sea is unpredictable. Even the best of swimmers can get out of their depth.

Absolutely not. The consequence's of this could potentially be catastrophic. I cannot stress this enough DO NOT LEAVE YOUR CHILDREN UNATTENDED. Take it in turns if you want to swim.

I wouldn’t do it. I have preschoolers and sea swim a lot but I wouldn’t even think of risking it. Seaswimming is loads of fun but of course it can be dangerous. My mum’s friend had a heart attack in the water and died, a few people have suffered from cold water shock (some which were quite serious events), jellyfish stings and once we were kept in the water longer than I’d have liked due to an enthusiastic seal that took a liking to our tow floats.

It's it that your front child when they call?

I like to play "what was it meant to say" with typos, but this one's got me stumped!

Just to point out here they couldn't see their apartment from the bar.

I can't be arsed to read all the shock horror responses. Just do it, enjoy it and don't post in Mumsnet. Sometimes risks are OK.

You’ve got two preschoolers and neither have cried in the night in the last two years??? Really though?

Where can I buy some of these non-crying babies??

you can't leave preschool kids alone in the house while you do a sea swim, no. Preschool kids can't be left alone in the house for any reason.

I'd take it in turns to go, or hire a sitter.

2D conjoined twins? A sort of human centipede situation?

2 people that can't somehow just swim seperately

No different to if I was sat in the garden. I’d still be in the garden.

I wouldn't do it OP. However, I can't believe people can't imagine a house with no windows at the back 😂 It's not that unusual. It could even be a back to back house - I lived in one if those as a child.

You’ve not answered all the questions about why you can’t just take it i turns?

A lagoon. Apparently.
Sorry "think lagoon".

I’m actually picturing Daphne du Maurier’s Ferryside house and can see why OP’s tempted for a night swim. But I don’t think I could relax and swimming for me is about relaxation and mental health!

I’d be much happier leaving the other half of the mysterious “we” inside with the baby monitor on while I went out for a 45-minute swim, fully checked out of responsibility, than to have a tense 15-minute “oh god what if eagle and baby are on fire and locked in a ferocious battle over the swirling floodwaters” swim.

I’m a fairly chilled parent but absolutely 100% no way! Maybe once they’re 10 or so.

My 3yo sleeps brilliantly 99% of the time and barely ever wakes once he’s asleep, but of course there’s the very odd occasion he’s suddenly poorly or has a rare nightmare when we need to rush upstairs to him. I’d never forgive myself if I (or another adult) wasn’t there to help him immediately and he spent 30 minutes screaming out for someone.

Then there’s of course the unthinkable extreme case scenarios like a house fire or an intruder/kidnapper which you may not notice if distracted swimming. But most likely you’ll just have a terrified toddler crying out for you.

As for your other question - I would swim in a swimming pool in the garden IF a monitor reached the pool so I could hear at all times if they cried out/anything happened. Otherwise I absolutely would not.

@Maezzle what sea doesn’t have currents?

a house built into a cliff, quite nice

Obviously it isn't ok to go out and leave your young dc unsupervised, and I'm surprised you aren't sure tbh. No, it isn't the same as swimming in your garden.

No it's not acceptable. It really annoys me that some parents think they are entitled to carry on with their lives as they did pre children. It's irresponsible and selfish. It's normal to miss out on things that you want to do when you have children, not carry on to their detriment.

Haven't read the full thread but agree I wouldn't do it, my main reasoning being you can't see or hear the children. Whereas in the garden I'd swim in the pool as the monitor would reach so I could see/hear them, I'd still have some kind of baby monitor for a pre school child. If my garden was huge and the monitor wouldn't reach, then again I wouldn't do it. Just as you wouldn't leave a pre schooler alone in any setting.

However I am very jealous as I love sea swimming but it's over an hour away for me to go, would love to have it on my doorstep!

Preschoolers - I wouldn’t do a swimming pool either - I’d want to be able to hear a baby monitor if outside / child cries if inside, which you can’t always if doing an activity such as swimming.

I’d be ok with a garden swimming pool from
school age - they could downstairs if there was a problem and you’re in the house grounds for emergencies.

sea swimming would not be until I was happy leaving them alone in the house to go anywhere - too much risk that if they woke up and needed you they couldn’t cope / wouldn’t lock them in in case of fire unless they had a key / dangers of going out to the sea when you’re not paying 100% attention etc.

well 2 things

will you actually have eyes on the house the whole time - I find that unlikely and it won’t be much of a fun swim

what a position to put your friend in - not very kind!!

i don’t think the risk of something bad happening is any worse than you going in a pool unless you have an intercom next to the pool

they are very young and I wouldn’t be doing it and I’m surprised you still think it’s ok (I k ow you say you won’t do it but you answers are full of buts)