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To think that someone stopping a pervert shouldn’t have a criminal record?

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CrazyOldMe · 12/07/2025 15:22

https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/dad-heart-gold-knocked-out-35544209.amp

“Dad with 'heart of gold' knocked out man who was exposing himself to families

Richard Gathercole, 39, has been convicted of assault after knocking out a man who was exposing himself on a street in front of families with a single punch“

AIBU to think that this brave man shouldn’t have a criminal record and two year suspended sentence? He was actively protecting children from a vile pervert FFS!

I mean, actual rapists get less than this man has!

Dad with 'heart of gold' knocked out man who was exposing himself to families

Richard Gathercole, 39, has been convicted of assault after knocking out a man who was exposing himself on a street in front of families with a single punch

https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/dad-heart-gold-knocked-out-35544209.amp

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Brendahollowayreconsider · 12/07/2025 20:25

Phone police perhaps verbal remonstration to get him to pack it in till police get there or he pisses off now that he's been rumbled.

Mumofteenandtween · 12/07/2025 20:25

The judge obviously had sympathy and took into account all the mitigating factors. It was about as low a sentence as you can get for that crime. He got to go home that night.

If the judge had gone against sentencing guidelines then the prosecution could have appealed and a not suspended sentence given.

YouWillFindMeInTheGarden · 12/07/2025 20:14

Violent thug

in front of kids too

NC28 · 12/07/2025 18:04

I imagine the guy who’s hit this creep did do it with the intention of stopping him from causing alarm or distress to any of the kids and families who could see him.

Should the creep be challenged? 100%. In a scenario (I know we don’t know the ins and outs from that article) where an adult has their generals out in front of my child, I absolutely would be in their face about it. I’m female and 11st, but I’d face down anyone who did that (while someone else hopefully recorded them). Society’s scum.

But one punch to fracture a skull? That’s mental. He’s genuinely lucky he’s not faced a manslaughter charge.

With that said, do these flasher/public masturbators deserve a kicking from a moral POV? Absolutely.

sprigatito · 12/07/2025 17:57

I don’t think you’ve thought this through OP. You don’t like perverts - that’s fine, neither do I, but if we are allowed to launch violent physical attacks on perverts without being charged, then what else becomes acceptable? Shooting burglars? Kneecapping shoplifters? Running over jaywalkers? After all, they are technically in the wrong, right?

What you are advocating is the law of the jungle. We have rules against violence and vigilantism for good reason. This man broke the law and the punishment, frankly, serves him right.

657904I · 12/07/2025 17:56

Reading between the lines, I don’t think the victim was ever criminally convicted of exposing himself to minors. So that doesn’t have as much weight, as you are assuming it does. I’m guessing once he was unconscious and hospitalised, the police didn’t investigate him and treated him like a victim.

SummerEve · 12/07/2025 17:54

LookingAtMyBhunas · 12/07/2025 17:53

  1. Convicted rapists don't get this sentence so you're wrong there.

  2. Off the top of my head? Filmed him, whilst someone else called the police, make sure he didn't leave his sight, lawfully restrained him until they arrived, provided a clear witness statement with his mobile footage after the fact.

  3. It would no doubt have been taken into account as a mitigating factor, hence the suspended sentence. He's lucky he didn't get more and shouldn't be moaning.

I'm a cop btw and he's just created a shit ton more work and diverted investigation from the original call.

He did it to protect kids? He can't very well protect kids if he'd got a custodial sentence could he.

Exactly. He did it to play the hero, and it’s massively backfired.

LookingAtMyBhunas · 12/07/2025 17:53

CrazyOldMe · 12/07/2025 17:10

Okay, so what would those who agree with the sentence suggest that the man should have done to stop the pervert?

  1. Convicted rapists don't get this sentence so you're wrong there.

  2. Off the top of my head? Filmed him, whilst someone else called the police, make sure he didn't leave his sight, lawfully restrained him until they arrived, provided a clear witness statement with his mobile footage after the fact.

  3. It would no doubt have been taken into account as a mitigating factor, hence the suspended sentence. He's lucky he didn't get more and shouldn't be moaning.

I'm a cop btw and he's just created a shit ton more work and diverted investigation from the original call.

He did it to protect kids? He can't very well protect kids if he'd got a custodial sentence could he.

tigger1001 · 12/07/2025 17:52

CrazyOldMe · 12/07/2025 17:10

Okay, so what would those who agree with the sentence suggest that the man should have done to stop the pervert?

Certainly not punched him hard enough to fracture his skull and cause a brain bleed. That's never acceptable.

Vigilante justice is never the way. Call the police. Move everyone away from him. But not ever physical violence.

hes pretty lucky to be honest (the so called heart of gold man) it could have been much worse.

he does seem remorseful so im betting he honestly wishes he didn't do it.

LunaMay · 12/07/2025 17:52

Yob behaviour. We lost someone to 'one punch' and there are laws around here specific to that. Violence is not the answer.

ShesTheAlbatross · 12/07/2025 17:49

CrazyOldMe · 12/07/2025 17:10

Okay, so what would those who agree with the sentence suggest that the man should have done to stop the pervert?

Not fracture his skull?

AgnesX · 12/07/2025 17:47

CrazyOldMe · 12/07/2025 17:10

Okay, so what would those who agree with the sentence suggest that the man should have done to stop the pervert?

Keep your mitts to yourself and call the police. It's what they're for.

Borborygmus · 12/07/2025 17:45

Well he clearly doesn't have a 'heart of gold', he's a thug.

x2boys · 12/07/2025 17:43

CrazyOldMe · 12/07/2025 17:10

Okay, so what would those who agree with the sentence suggest that the man should have done to stop the pervert?

Well certainly not take the laws into their hands
There would be anarchy if everybody just decided to deal with criminal acts with violence
All the police that's their job.

Darragon · 12/07/2025 17:40

YouWillFindMeInTheGarden · 12/07/2025 15:40

Op is calling him a ‘pervert’…. Like he had seen kids and exposed himself to them

the reporting was a bit off so looked elsewhere….. some reports of a drunken man…. Who knows.

You're confusing "pervert" and "paedo". Paedos purposely target kids. Perverts are people who behave in a depraved sexual manner. Bloke was definitely a pervert. Alcohol is no excuse. I'm sure most of us have been very drunk in our time and never even thought to expose ourselves to a bunch of onlookers (kids or otherwise).

WhichDressBelles · 12/07/2025 17:40

Yikes

rwalker · 12/07/2025 17:37

There’s a world of difference between giving Someone a slap to throwing a punch so hard it fractures there skull and they get a bleed on the brain

just because you agree with the sentence doesn’t mean your defending the perv

if he’d given a few punches and thenwalked away I doubt there’d be any prosecution

ultimately it was to punching so hard it fractured the skull it was the pure force behind the punches not the fact he punched him

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 12/07/2025 17:24

CrazyOldMe · 12/07/2025 17:10

Okay, so what would those who agree with the sentence suggest that the man should have done to stop the pervert?

Call the police like any normal person would do?

SummerEve · 12/07/2025 17:24

CrazyOldMe · 12/07/2025 16:30

There is NO acceptable way of exposing yourself, especially around children!

Honestly, and this is a parenting website!

Yes, it is a parenting website. That’s one of the reasons why we shouldn’t be supportive of random men deciding to take the law into their own hands and seriously injuring people. It’s not hard to understand.

LunchtimeNaps · 12/07/2025 17:19

It doesn't give any details surrounding the exposure for anyone to comment. This guy is lucky the "pervert" didn't die tbh. He should have called the police and if any kids were at risk he could have protected them and assisted them to get away from the threat. Anyway who thinks punching him was going to solve anything needs to give their heads a wobble and this story clearly proves that.

Pinty · 12/07/2025 17:17

You are being unreasonable. He shouldn't have taken the law into his own hands. Vigilantism is dangerous.
He should have taken the children inside and phoned the police. There was no need for him to use violence

ExtraOnions · 12/07/2025 17:14

CrazyOldMe · 12/07/2025 17:10

Okay, so what would those who agree with the sentence suggest that the man should have done to stop the pervert?

Take the kids inside, take some photographs, call the Police.

CrazyOldMe · 12/07/2025 17:10

Okay, so what would those who agree with the sentence suggest that the man should have done to stop the pervert?

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ilovesooty · 12/07/2025 16:58

He was violent and he could have killed the man he punched. Of course he'll have found the other man's behaviour abhorrent but he has quite rightly been charged, convicted and has a criminal record.

mumda · 12/07/2025 16:48

He pled guilty.

It's a horrible thing to live with.

Will the victim be charged with anything?

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