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Rethinking decline: why blaming migrants might miss the point

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Hearingelem · 12/07/2025 09:58

Hi all,
I've been mulling over some unsettling trends in the UK and wanted to hear your thoughts—particularly those of us noticing fewer kids around and schools closing.
First, I’m not blaming migrants—they’re filling gaps we’ve created. But it hit me: if people who’ve lived here for generations aren’t having children, who is keeping our society going? It’s like watching your family line slowly fade.
Here’s the gist:

  • Fewer families are having children, or delaying them until their 30s or beyond.
  • Abortions are up—almost 30% of pregnancies end in abortion now.
  • Primary schools are shutting or merging due to low pupil numbers.
  • Meanwhile, hundreds of thousands of migrants are arriving each year, and tens of thousands of British-born people are leaving.
It got me thinking: if we plant seeds everywhere but only the ones in the right environment grow, shouldn’t we rethink that environment—rather than blaming the plants? 🚨 Shocking stats at a glance:
  • 29.7% of all conceptions in England & Wales ended in legal abortion in 2022—nearly 3 in 10 pregnancies—and up from 20.8% in 2012 (Sky News, The Guardian, Office for National Statistics).
  • That’s 247,703 conceptions aborted in 2022—a 13% increase from 2021 (Office for National Statistics).
  • Migrant inflows: ~1.2 million long-term arrivals in year to June 2024; 728,000 net migration (arrivals minus departures) (Full Fact).
  • Emigration: 479,000 people left in that same period—including a sizeable number of British nationals (Full Fact).
I’m not here to stir division. I want people—especially those quick to blame migrants—to look in the mirror: if our birth environment is failing us, aren't we partly responsible? Let’s talk solutions: Affordable housing, gig‑free childcare, pay transparency, flexible working, serious sex-ed and contraception access… what would help you feel like having kids here and now? Curious to hear your views—especially if this hits home for you. Sources: ONS conception stats (2022) & abortion trends: [ONS Conception Bulletin] ONS net migration & emigration data: [ONS Immigration Statistics]
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Shenmen · 13/07/2025 22:49

Jennps · 13/07/2025 22:41

Can you show me evidence for all the assertions you made?

Sure there is lots of it. As I have an early start I won't spent much time but this is a good start. migrationobservatory.ox.ac.uk/resources/briefings/the-fiscal-impact-of-immigration-in-the-uk/

Peacepleaselouise · 13/07/2025 22:42

Until the government brings housing under control, people will keep having fewer and fewer children (especially in the cities/SE).

Jennps · 13/07/2025 22:41

Shenmen · 13/07/2025 22:15

Can you show me the evidence for this?

Can you show me evidence for all the assertions you made?

Shenmen · 13/07/2025 22:15

Jennps · 13/07/2025 15:31

How naive. As well as misinformed.

Immigration is lowering GDP per capita. Which equals a poorer country.

And being a go getter does not automatically make you an engineer, an SDE, a nuclear physicist, etc. That’s not the profile of the average person coming here. Thats not the immigrants fault. Why wouldn’t they come here with their larger families, non working spouses, elderly parents, if they can get all of those children in school for free and use every other ready made service, while earning £26k a year.

Can you show me the evidence for this?

Jennps · 13/07/2025 16:29

belladeli · 13/07/2025 15:49

Yeah, hence the Ponzi scheme

Glad you’re getting it now

You're the one who isn't getting it.
A ponzi scheme is a pyramid. We don't have pyramid demographics. Immigration doesn't offset aging populations otherwise why would our population still be ageing? It's largely used to address the gaps in labour.

Honestly, stop. You are embarrassing yourself trying to argue about something you have no clue about.

CatHairEveryWhereNow · 13/07/2025 16:27

emmabseconds · 13/07/2025 16:17

Newer research is showing that too much migration (enough to impact housing demand) also lessens the birth rate.

So using immigration to quell the effects of low birth rates is counterproductive.

There have always been c 20% of women who have no DC.

What’s happened from the 1970s to now is fewer families have 2/3 DCs compared to 1/2 DC.

You see it on threads here- there are hundreds of should we go from 2 to 3. Most will say no. Look at the reasons given and there you will find the solutions.

I agree with all this - and pointed it out on other threads.

Immigrants need housing and other services making already scare resouce rarer and more expensive- and it then impacts on the working population again making it harder to have kids.

I felt last 12 months BBC have started to understand this at local and national level and moved on from it's just racists in coverage to it's nuanced and resourced based or in least some of it's coverage.

Though I think MN is just anti any child let alone 2 to 3. I've been on threads when a poster was asking when to have a child - not if - and been induated with never posts.

I've also seen stat that say for every 2 kids born in UK another was wanted and not had usually down to economics.

Though over time what tends to happen is the smaller families tends to become normalized and there is decreased desire and social pressure to not have more.

Namitynamename · 13/07/2025 16:23

Large language learning models can't have children. So why are you so invested?
Besides, all the chat these days is that AI will replace human jobs- which is a huge discouragement from having children. That being he case by using AI are you not a huge part of the problem?

emmabseconds · 13/07/2025 16:17

Newer research is showing that too much migration (enough to impact housing demand) also lessens the birth rate.

So using immigration to quell the effects of low birth rates is counterproductive.

There have always been c 20% of women who have no DC.

What’s happened from the 1970s to now is fewer families have 2/3 DCs compared to 1/2 DC.

You see it on threads here- there are hundreds of should we go from 2 to 3. Most will say no. Look at the reasons given and there you will find the solutions.

CatHairEveryWhereNow · 13/07/2025 16:13

But what happens when the new young workers get old? That is why calls it a ponzi scheme. You need ever more people coming in at the bottom to cope with those getting old at the top.

Ideally you want a slump - so slightly less people in next generation but not too small so working population can support older dependents as well as younger ones.

You want to avoid a cliff edge - where there are too few tax payer to dependents - so if birth rates fall too soon - paying for dependent care get's too expenisve in taxes - so countries also end up borrowing I've seen it suggested it why Japan's debt level have increased - and it makes it harder for workers to have kids under the tax burden so next generation again is much smaller and as they grow up they have a big older dependent population to support so have fewer kids.

We're plugging gaps with migrant labour -but world wide fertlity rates are dropping so at some point that's going to get harder.

Some people think at some point it will reach a natural level - but who knows but socities round the world will just have to adapt because everywhere but sub saharan africa is already on below or will soon be at below replacments fertlity levels.

Menopausalsourpuss · 13/07/2025 16:12

@belladeli you get alot wrong. You ignore the fact that one person is usually sent as an anchor and once given asylum the rest of the family are entitled to come (and usually not go getters or dynamic but a drain on the taxpayer). The Tories even let students bring their whole family. There is no prior contribution requirement for much of the British state like in many other countries.
You also seem to assume older people are a drain. Firstly people are working alot longer especially highly paid workers. Second you seek to think contribution in taxes is only via jobs. There are many other taxes - VAT, stamp duty, CGT, corporation tax which as older people are richer they are now likely to pay per capita.

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 13/07/2025 16:10

Isn’t Rachel Reeves sorting it all out anyhow so none of us need worry.

CatHairEveryWhereNow · 13/07/2025 16:03

Octavia64 · 13/07/2025 11:36

Where I live they are opening new schools as lots of people are moving here and many new housing estates.

i’m not surprised schools in London are losing children it’s insanely expensive.

They're opening new schools here - and one they have are all are full.

The immediate center is dire and one of worst affected in country - local economy pretty poor but there cheaper than surround area housing and communtable nearby cities with lots of well paid jobs - so people commute.

It's increasingly an area with lots of kids and has a higher - though still below replacement level becuase housing still just about okay. I think the cheaper housing areas are rapildy disappearing.

There was a housing crisis in victroian times - with no access to contrception they crammed more people into smaller spaces with down turn in living standards. Now we have option to have fewer people.

In 2023, 37.3% of live births in England and Wales were to parents where either one or both were born outside the UK

The UK born fertility rates are actually much lower I think than realised - as over a thrid of babies born have one or two foregin born parents.

maddening · 13/07/2025 16:02

WrigglyDonCat · 13/07/2025 15:54

But what happens when the new young workers get old? That is why @Jennps calls it a ponzi scheme. You need ever more people coming in at the bottom to cope with those getting old at the top.

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Or fewer people with higher earning and therefore tax paying ability

maddening · 13/07/2025 16:00

Being able to afford a 2nd dc would have allowed us to try for a second dc - and we were not low earners- my employer when ds was 4 only paid statutory maternity and coupled with the childcare costs it was all too much.

WrigglyDonCat · 13/07/2025 15:54

belladeli · 13/07/2025 15:49

Yeah, hence the Ponzi scheme

Glad you’re getting it now

You're the one who isn't getting it.
A ponzi scheme is a pyramid. We don't have pyramid demographics. Immigration doesn't offset aging populations otherwise why would our population still be ageing? It's largely used to address the gaps in labour.

But what happens when the new young workers get old? That is why @Jennps calls it a ponzi scheme. You need ever more people coming in at the bottom to cope with those getting old at the top.

belladeli · 13/07/2025 15:51

Scary that these economically illiterate people get to vote.

The absolute irony 😆

belladeli · 13/07/2025 15:49

Yeah, hence the Ponzi scheme

Glad you’re getting it now

You're the one who isn't getting it.
A ponzi scheme is a pyramid. We don't have pyramid demographics. Immigration doesn't offset aging populations otherwise why would our population still be ageing? It's largely used to address the gaps in labour.

belladeli · 13/07/2025 15:42

We never recovered from 08 and the government and companies didn't invest in their staff, companies or the country. Labour should have been honest about tax rises as they were always going to be inevitable.

"* *In 2023, the Centre for Policy Studies essay collection Justice for the Young showed keeping spending on an ageing population constant would require growth of 2.9% per year, for the next 50 years"

The above quote is mind blowing. The only real solution is cutting services and increasing taxes but no one wants to hear that let alone vote for that.

Jennps · 13/07/2025 15:36

belladeli · 13/07/2025 15:34

Birth rates have declined amongst immigrants too, they tend to adopt the same societal norms.

Yeah, hence the Ponzi scheme.

Glad you’re getting it now.

Jennps · 13/07/2025 15:35

This thread shows why this country cannot come out of the doom loop now. Majority of the population is dumbed down to the level where they don’t understand basic economic and fiscal principles. They think that soundbites are enough to pay your way as a country.

They have completely sleep walked into a situation where low skilled migration over 28 years has had a huge part to play in lowering the country’s productivity leading to a sky high debt to GDP ratio and printing of £1 trillion to pay for free stuff.

The economic hole that this country is so deep that it’s scary.

Scary that these economically illiterate people get to vote.

belladeli · 13/07/2025 15:34

Birth rates have declined amongst immigrants too, they tend to adopt the same societal norms.

Jennps · 13/07/2025 15:31

Shenmen · 13/07/2025 15:20

You've got it the wrong way round. As an overall people not born in the UK are net contributors more than people who are born here. Ie their net contribution to tax compared to how much they cost in public services is less than the average British born person.

This isn't much of a surprise as the people that come here tend to be coming to work or to make a better life for themselves. 2nd generation is equally on a similar footing. Immigrant's children tend to achieve better at school.

If you are the sort of person that has managed to travel thousands of miles to start up a new life you tend to be a bit of a go-getter, you also tend to have better health than the average person. Quite often immigrants will then in their older age when they cost more go back to their original country (not always but often), hence they don't cost the British taxpayer the same amount as British born pensioners.

How naive. As well as misinformed.

Immigration is lowering GDP per capita. Which equals a poorer country.

And being a go getter does not automatically make you an engineer, an SDE, a nuclear physicist, etc. That’s not the profile of the average person coming here. Thats not the immigrants fault. Why wouldn’t they come here with their larger families, non working spouses, elderly parents, if they can get all of those children in school for free and use every other ready made service, while earning £26k a year.

belladeli · 13/07/2025 15:31

Japan made the decision to not go for immigration and instead bought in policies to limit the impact. However now they have started to turn towards immigration. The ageing population issue is uncharted territory & the powers that be will not likely consider my needs & wants in their decisions 😆

MiloMinderbinder925 · 13/07/2025 15:30

Weird to tie pro-natalism in with anti-immigrant sentiments.

Not for the far right. 'Fighting aged men', 'illegals', the changing demographic because foreigners/Muslims breed like rabbits. Low birth rate for white people - they're all saying the same thing. It's the Great Replacement theory and guess who's the answer.

belladeli · 13/07/2025 15:24

Are you wanting a higher level of immigration,

Why do you think I am advocating for more immigration? I'm pretty ok with the levels of skilled migrants. If the numbers are drastically cut I would like to know the impact to the taxes I have to pay & impact to public services as that would likely influence my opinion. It's difficult to make a decision when you don't have facts surely?

@EasternStandard what level of immigration do you want? Do you have a line of how much tax you are prepared to pay or what services you don't mind being cut?