To be annoyed at my friend ordering food for me?

I had a friend that invited me a couple of times for a meal out with her and said it was on her, after I had declined as it wasn't in my budget for that time period in my life.

Both times she ordered two mains for us to share, of her choosing, even after asking me what I fancied. This followed me saying I fancied something healthier and then she railroaded the whole ordering process and got two very carby cheesy dishes without any of the vegetables I kept saying I fancied.

I don't go out with her any more 🤣

I can’t eat garlic so I’d have shut that down immediately and the second time I’d have said I hadn’t decided what I wanted please do not order for me again. I don’t EVER split bills I always pay for what I ordered only plus tip. I’m not paying for other people of their items cost more.

But but but… OP has clearly explained that the husband did not laugh and say they were bloody starving.. and he did not take it in good humour when she ordered what she wanted anyway.

you really can’t see that this is not the same situation at all?

They are 'neat freaks' ie like everything on time and sorted. I think the best advice is to pre order or be clear you will order when you arrive and they can go ahead and order theirs. This makes it easier for them to pay for tgeir food/drink and you to pay for yours too x

They are 'neat freaks' ie like everything on time and sorted. I think the best advice is to pre order or be clear you will order when you arrive and they can go ahead and order theirs. This makes it easier for them to pay for tgeir food/drink and you to pay for yours too x

Quite!

We often go out as a group and we always make one particular friend order for the table. It’s great, no studying the menu, just get something you may never have tried before. I couldn’t care, but then I’d have just added to the order if I wanted something else.

It is weird, annoying and controlling behaviour.

My FIL doesn’t quite do this but he will decide whether a starter or pudding is allowed or not, as in, if he doesn’t fancy one no one else gets the choice.

I can live with that to keep the peace but he also tries to do it with drinks and I will always override him on that. He will decide that everyone will just have tap water and I will always order what I actually want!

I hate it.

Habitually? She was late ONCE. In fact she makes a point of saying that she’s nearly always early. Why are people so keen to have a go at her?

I once had the misfortune to end up in a restaurant with a group of friends, one of whom had an utter dickhead husband. He even chose the restaurant knowing that there would be very little for me to eat there - think sushi restaurant when you have a severe food intolerance to fish - and then deliberately lied to me saying he'd been there before and it would be fine. It wasn't. Fucker. So you have my sympathies there.

All I can suggest is that if you ever find you are going to be late meeting again, then call or text in advance with specific instructions.

Yeah I’d find that quite controlling. If I’m going out to eat I want to choose what I fancy! I met a friend once and she’d preordered me a coke, which I can’t stand and never drink!

In general, I really don't like people second guessing what I want as they are often wrong. But yes, it is weird, not something I'd do and not something my friends would do. Definitely need to be very firm with couple and tell them 'I'll order for myself, thanks'

Ok

@Imdunfer

Merciboc · Today 15:00
"I’ll leave you to it"

Pity she didn't do that almost five hours ago! 😉Oh well, "small mercies" and all that! 😂

I’d be pissed & say that’s not what I wanted

That was not correct

More nonsense. I defended one PP whose thread was subsequently pulled by MNHQ because she'd been previously banned (even then I don't know why she'd been banned).

This is very strange behaviour. Even if you're running late, they were welcome to text you/phone you and ask if they wanted you to order something and get the drinks in. Not just go ahead. I wouldn't be impressed if someone ordered for me, I'm not a child.

You mean just like she did this time? In her very first post: "I ... had to really stick to my guns as the husband tried to bully me into sharing the starter I didn't want."

Once is happenstance. Twice is coincidence. Three times is enemy action.

Book another meal.

I’ll leave you to it

i think of my two closest friends of 27 years and honestly can’t fathom starting a thread about this, and not at the time have laughed and said “hey, I fancy the scallops” and they’d have likely said “we were bloody starving @Merciboc !!” And then the conversation moved on (whilst I tucked in to my scallops and probably ended up sharing with the pair anyway!

you crack on, I have no advice on this because…. All a bit weird and alien to me!

But this thread you’ve started is about you thinking she’s on some kind of power trip over you

that isn’t a “foible”