Quick background. Just turned 50 and in the months leading up my partner and DDs have been asking how I'd like to celebrate. I have a very hectic job, life, etc. and said I'd love a restful weekend away with just us and ABSOLUTELY NO surprises or inviting visitors to stay. I live in the UK and my family lives in another country. So they said they had planned a surprise trip - day before they said it was to a lovely spa hotel. I was so relieved and excited as this was exactly what I wanted. Then day of my birthday, after working from home all day, the house a tip, cupboards bare, haven't even brushed my hair, I answer the door to six family members coming for a week from abroad. 4 of them have never been to the UK so really keen to see everything, etc. I know I should be grateful that they came, but playing hostess and caring for others (which is all I ever do) is the last thing I want now. I feel so disappointed and disrespected. Despite being crystal clear about how I wanted to celebrate, everyone disregarded my wishes. I also struggle with anxiety and this has put me in a bad place. I also had 2 recent health scares so overall feeling like I needed some time off. I got in a big row with my partner but am acting like 'everything is fine and I'm happy' for the sake of the visitors. AIBU to be pissed off?