To wonder if you ever get over being left for OW

You LAUGHED OUT LOUD? What a really horrible response.

I couldn't get rid of him fast enough. He wouldn't bloody go! She was welcome to a cheating creep. All I wanted was some peace and quiet to look after my daughter.

Because for some people feelings can't be switched off immediately.

I suppose it’s like when you have a baby and your life changes completely and utterly and men’s life, not so much.

Same with this, they head off to a new lily pad and leave you reeling and dealing with absolutely everything and it doesn’t seem to affect their life that much at all.

I don’t understand the responses.
if Someone has an affair, then they’re an arsehole.
so why would you either
a) be upset that you are no longer with an arsehole or
b) worry that there’s something wrong with you?

i don’t get it, the problem is clearly them so you’re well rid?

I don’t know if I’m over it but you couldn’t pay me to get back with him and she’s honestly very welcome to suffer his bullshit.

I think that it really helps that I have lots of happy memories post split. When I think about how these happy memories would have happened it he was around, I realise that I am better off without him. I often think he did me a favour without realising it.

When I say I don’t know it I’m over it, I feel sad for the old me but the happiness of my new life makes the hard parts worth it. My kids are now over 18, thriving and our relationships are great.

Was heartbroken for years -woke up every day wondering what was “wrong” with me …the minute I realised it wasn’t me I started to see things differently !
kick started my career ,life ,everything !
could never have imagined I would be this happy 😃
Married to husband number 2 -failure man is nothing but a bad memory

I can't say, hand on heart, that you ever get over it. Sort of like you never get over a bereavement, if that makes sense. But you kind of absorb it into your overall life experience and learn to live with it. Like most things it really does get better. Over time I've realised that my DH was never the great guy I thought he was (or perhaps convinced myself he was) and that our relationship wasn't the "soul mate" party I thought it was for all those years (26 in my case). I'm sorry if it's early days OP but like I said, it does get better and you will see him for what he really was all along.

Solidarity.

17 days in here.
I feel worse. I think i was in shock and angry for the first week.
Now I'm sad and lonely and just feel so rejected.
16 years, gone. The memories are thick and fast for me, not so much for him while he enjoys himself in someone else's house and bed and arms.

You have to do everything in your power to get over it.

My late MIL never got over it and she died of cancer in her 50’s still heartbroken and bitter, I hate that for her. Life is too short.

If someone leaves you, thank them for showing you who they are and love yourself and move on.

It must be very painful to get over, especially if it was a shock. I don’t think I would ever be shocked by an affair, I expect them.

It’s a man’s world isn’t it. Are you ok?

Op I'm guessing it's early days?

Sorry, but I laughed out loud at your post!

im thrilled. It took me about 1week befire I started doing the happy dance that I’m free and she has to sleep with him. Boak.